Making Up Scenarios In My Head

[heeaffes]

This is something I think I've done my entire life. And it's pretty much the only thing I'm thinking of. It's not thoughts of what I should do or will be doing, or any negative thoughts of me etc. What I do in my mind pretty much 24/7 is making these fake scenarios in my head. It's either about past events where I edit the conversation to things I wanted to say or should have said it, or it's about scenarios that "may" happen where I imagine what I would say (I'm always so witty and cool in these made up scenarios).

This can't be healthy right? And how can I fix something I've done pretty much my entire life?

[Henri]

@whuddafuks According to Vedanta the categories of the mind are memory, thinking and emotion, ego, and the intellect.

The functions are reasoning, perception, thinking and judgement.

You can easily spot where you are doing `overtime`, so to speak, for being a better version of you than you actually are.

It`s not harmful, you are anyway aware of it now.

With continued meditation everything will eventually be `reset` again. Continue your spiritual work and you`ll be fine. 

 

[Nathalie]

@whuddafuks most people don't even remark it.. But, as far as I know, almost everybody does it.

You've made the first step, maybe the greatest. The next step would be practicing meditation and consciousness

 

- by looking deeply into the purpose of this conversations. You said:

On 8.4.2016 at 9:09 PM, whuddafuks said:

(I'm always so witty and cool in these made up scenarios

Why do you want to be witty and cool?

Do you want to impress somebody? Why?

Maybe, you just want to have a better self image? Why?

Do you feel insecure in some situations? Why?

Do you still have to say something to somebody? Why don't you do it? and on and on..

 

- You can also, each time you get aware of it, stop it and focus in the now => concentrate on your breath, what is happening around you? How do you feel right now? What do you see? Hear? Everything else is illusion..

 

- Finally, as you've surely noticed, this kind of scenarios never help (even the best) because the situation never occurs as it should .. It's a wast of time.. You can tell it to yourself.. Perhaps it also helps..

 

I wish you the best

Edited April 10, 2016 by MartineF

[heeaffes]

52 minutes ago, MartineF said:

@whuddafuks Why do you want to be witty and cool?

Do you want to impress somebody? Why?

Maybe, you just want to have a better self image? Why?

Do you feel insecure in some situations? Why?

Do you still have to say something to somebody? Why don't you do it? and on and on..

Probably because I have this image of a perfect me (the one I've created a long time ago, the witty handsome charming guy), sounds like bad self image? Because I don't have bad self esteem, but my self image is probably another story

4 hours ago, Socrates said:

@whuddafuks My advice to you is stop it now. Before it progress into multiple realities..

Once you get out of head it will become clear that you just normal and pretty unnspecial like rest of us. I know it not the best feeling but it's more real that the made up person in the head. Try to be OK with the normal real you, it not as special or cool or witty but it's actually real.

Just stop doing it.

I guess I've always felt like I'm a special snowflake in a narcisistic way (I can judge people by appearance because "I'm so much more handsome"). And what I've realised just a few weeks ago is that at my new job (where there are a lot of guys in my age) I'm not that special. I kinda envy some people for their wittyness and so on. Maybe I'm realising that I'm not special, which on the other hand is good but also kind of depressing

 

Thanks for the feedback all of you! It's a lot easier to understand why I am who I am... 

[QandC]

I also do this but in a more destructive way. I make myself to be a superior person. My ego is so big it's crazy... I might never reach an enlightened state

[Kimasxi]

I do the same. What intrigues me is that I tend to imagine a perfect scenario and then FOR SOME REASON I rewind it a bit and change how it ends into a negative outcome. I do it when I think about interactions with someone I fancy. I don't know why I change the outcome into negative. Any ideas? 
Does it mean I subconsciously want the negative outcome?

Edited May 15, 2016 by Kimasxi

[Falk]

On 8.4.2016 at 9:09 PM, whuddafuks said:

This is something I think I've done my entire life. And it's pretty much the only thing I'm thinking of. It's not thoughts of what I should do or will be doing, or any negative thoughts of me etc. What I do in my mind pretty much 24/7 is making these fake scenarios in my head. It's either about past events where I edit the conversation to things I wanted to say or should have said it, or it's about scenarios that "may" happen where I imagine what I would say (I'm always so witty and cool in these made up scenarios).

This can't be healthy right? And how can I fix something I've done pretty much my entire life?

I was exactly like this like 4-5 month ago ..i actually still have a thread on actualized with basicly the same question  ... the change will come quick!

What you resist persist, just meditate, go inside, don´t run away from the things you don´t want , instead shine light on them and see what they are ...you will see the purpose of those thoughts and you will come to yourself and then the real journey starts   

1.meditate every day

2.go vegi/eat healthy

3.journaling/recap of your day every evening

4.do sport 

5.stop all addictions (porn/food/tv/drugs?)

that should help for the start!

 

[Kuba]

 @whuddafuksMaaaan, I have exactly the same problem! I always make up stories in my mind just how you described it. I'm just glad that I'm not alone . In my opinion, being aware of it and meditation should really help with it. I still have these thoughts sometimes but I try to be aware that they're not real. Also, like @MartineF mentioned, it's good to ask yourself these questions (why do you want to impress someone? etc.) I think the fact that you notice it is a part of success 

Edited May 21, 2016 by Kuba
grammatical mistake

[egoeimai]

On Sunday, May 15, 2016 at 6:41 PM, Kimasxi said:

I do the same. What intrigues me is that I tend to imagine a perfect scenario and then FOR SOME REASON I rewind it a bit and change how it ends into a negative outcome. I do it when I think about interactions with someone I fancy. I don't know why I change the outcome into negative. Any ideas? 
Does it mean I subconsciously want the negative outcome?

Fear of rejection.

[Alz_x9]

@heeaffes Hey, i would love too help, problem is i cant. I have the same problem. People say distract yourself yet when I do that distracting becomes the scenario. Mine isnt just in the mind. I physically act it all out. I go over the same ones constantly yet just chnage the ending. Whenever im walking down the streets, i imagine people. I saw your post was posted years ago. Please tell me it gets better. I'm a young teenager. I found your post late at night, while i was horrified at the fact these thoughts may never end.

 

I include my own made up people and people in real life. Me too have made myself look all cool in my scenarios. It's come too a point im really wanting to change like that, in real life. I need help. Please reply if possible.

 

-Thank you

[IAmReallyImportant]

On 08/04/2016 at 9:09 PM, heeaffes said:

This is something I think I've done my entire life. And it's pretty much the only thing I'm thinking of. It's not thoughts of what I should do or will be doing, or any negative thoughts of me etc. What I do in my mind pretty much 24/7 is making these fake scenarios in my head. It's either about past events where I edit the conversation to things I wanted to say or should have said it, or it's about scenarios that "may" happen where I imagine what I would say (I'm always so witty and cool in these made up scenarios).

This can't be healthy right? And how can I fix something I've done pretty much my entire life?

Because you are insecure in your behaviour. You feel ashamed, I understand. But you don't have to. You are the only one who feels it. Your thoughts are just expressions of the shame you were conditioned towards. Feel how great it is to be ashamed and let the thoughts go. 

One solution would be to become more quick-witted. Also put yourself in socially uncomfortable situations and act extra awkward. Train to let it go and to forget it. Start with weird anonymous calls. Ask if they can put gumball on the pizza or something. 

Edited January 30, 2021 by IAmReallyImportant

[Strangeloop]

Yeah... I have these scenarios playing in my mind too. Some scenarios are really messed up, some are grandiose and spectacular. Some are just plain unrealistic. 

These scenarios tend to get in my head. I feel like they have to happen, like the thoughts I think should manifest all the time, but most of the inner 'conversations' I had were just on conceptual level and most of it is just monket mind telling me all sorts of negative, ego pleasing stuff.

If they do come back I just try to ignore them, and if I find my mind to go at it again (having these conversations) I feel distracted from being, from the present moment. So what I do is I try to breath consciously, but I forget about it in a split second, the mind is very committed to thinking, so it will do anything to distract you from the real world.

And the real world is not in your mind, it's not the words themselves, it goes deeper than that. 

Sure meditate... Meditation might help, but what kind of meditation are we talking about? Conscious or unconscious?

So you see there's that. And I think that's enough.

[weirdo]

Hello it's my first time to post here, felt like I need to know if I'm okay or ..not but when I saw y'all talking about imagining these scenarios I felt a little less worried actually.

I too imagine fake scenarios in my head but unlike you guys , I don't imagine myself as a superior character or anything cool but a background character you can say.

I'm a female and the whole scenarios made up in my head which I can't help imagining it everyday is not even the same gender as me or even relating to my actual life, and it even got worse like I now have 4 versions of the male character I make fake scenarios of, but somehow I make myself a background character like I'm as a sister of his, the not so important person.. and I rarely think of myself (the sister) or put myself in the scene with him (the male) 

It's like I don't exist sometimes even in my imagination, instead of creating a better version of me like what you guys do, I just don't think of myself at all, I only think about how cool that guy is.

I do cry when imagining him suffering (which is what i imagine daily means I cry daily for no real reason) , and feel happy when he's happy (which is rarely imagined by me)

it first began when I was at grade 9 when my strict parents were threatening me , physically, verbally abusing me and stressing me out about that if i didn't get good grades I'd be the only failure in the family and that I'll let them down and make them look like shit , I remember my dad telling me "look at your cousins and how smart they are and how good their grades are, you'll embarass me and your mom infront of the whole family", "you're a disgrace" they also broke my phone.

I studied hard and I was so  stressed that I used to revise what I've studied in my sleep paralysis (which happend to me everynight) it was hell for me all the stress and anxiety I had back then oh god , i even thought of commiting suicide before they see my grades, but I didn't do it.

I was alone in all this not to mention getting bullied by students , teachers , been sexually harassed when i was little, seeing my dad abusing my mom when i was 6 , and she abused me when he did to her, and not having any close friends I think all that what made me feel like I'm nothing, not important not needed, So Thats when I created my imaginary brother (the male character) who used to care for me and protect me , but years later he became the main character in my scenarios, now then I'm not even mentioned in my imagination.

Edited February 20, 2021 by weirdo

[Osaid]

On 4/8/2016 at 1:09 PM, heeaffes said:

This is something I think I've done my entire life. And it's pretty much the only thing I'm thinking of. It's not thoughts of what I should do or will be doing, or any negative thoughts of me etc. What I do in my mind pretty much 24/7 is making these fake scenarios in my head. It's either about past events where I edit the conversation to things I wanted to say or should have said it, or it's about scenarios that "may" happen where I imagine what I would say (I'm always so witty and cool in these made up scenarios).

This can't be healthy right? And how can I fix something I've done pretty much my entire life?

 

3 hours ago, weirdo said:

Hello it's my first time to post here, felt like I need to know if I'm okay or ..not but when I saw y'all talking about imagining these scenarios I felt a little less worried actually.

I too imagine fake scenarios in my head but unlike you guys , I don't imagine myself as a superior character or anything cool but a background character you can say.

I'm a female and the whole scenarios made up in my head which I can't help imagining it everyday is not even the same gender as me or even relating to my actual life, and it even got worse like I now have 4 versions of the male character I make fake scenarios of, but somehow I make myself a background character like I'm as a sister of his, the not so important person.. and I rarely think of myself (the sister) or put myself in the scene with him (the male) 

It's like I don't exist sometimes even in my imagination, instead of creating a better version of me like what you guys do, I just don't think of myself at all, I only think about how cool that guy is.

I do cry when imagining him suffering (which is what i imagine daily means I cry daily for no real reason) , and feel happy when he's happy (which is rarely imagined by me)

it first began when I was at grade 9 when my strict parents were threatening me , physically, verbally abusing me and stressing me out about that if i didn't get good grades I'd be the only failure in the family and that I'll let them down and make them look like shit , I remember my dad telling me "look at your cousins and how smart they are and how good their grades are, you'll embarass me and your mom infront of the whole family", "you're a disgrace" they also broke my phone.

I studied hard and I was so  stressed that I used to revise what I've studied in my sleep paralysis (which happend to me everynight) it was hell for me all the stress and anxiety I had back then oh god , i even thought of commiting suicide before they see my grades, but I didn't do it.

I was alone in all this not to mention getting bullied by students , teachers , been sexually harassed when i was little, seeing my dad abusing my mom when i was 6 , and she abused me when he did to her, and not having any close friends I think all that what made me feel like I'm nothing, not important not needed, So Thats when I created my imaginary brother (the male character) who used to care for me and protect me , but years later he became the main character in my scenarios, now then I'm not even mentioned in my imagination.

These both sound like immersive or maladaptive daydreaming, I have it as well.

Edited February 20, 2021 by Osaid

[machinegun]

@Alz_x9 I've also suffered from this since I was a kid. I don't know about you, but I didn't have the best home life. When I was younger I think I dealt with my pain by imagining a brighter future with a white picket fence and happy family, which temporarily made me forget about my soul crushing reality. Since then, whenever I'm dealing with painful situations it's easy to get lost in my head about some imaginary scenario. Doing this but imagining future scenarios is a big chunk of what causes anxiety: it's called "speeding up into the future". By not speeding up into the future you will experience a tremendous reduction in anxiety and you won't be up in your head as much. What helps me is wearing a rubber band. Every time I envision a future scenario, I snap it against my wrist and it immediately brings me back. I, unfortunately, still live with my parents. So until my reality becomes bearable I doubt that these intrusive thoughts will stop. Best of luck <3