What is the best relationship for higher consciousness?

[SelfHelpGuy]

I feel like a monogamous relationship leads to an attached and needy relationship. 

Surely, an open relationship will force me to deal with jealousy head-on and enable more growth.

What relationship is the best for self-actualizers? Or any other thoughts on this?

P.S. I'm currently around 70% Stage Orange and 30% Green - Spiral Dynamics  

[aurum]

@SelfHelpGuy

I'm going to bust on you a little bit and say that this question itself is kind of silly. There isn't "one" relationship style that is best for everyone, that way of thinking is way too simplistic.

For one person, monogamy might be really powerful and growth inspiring. For someone else, it might be complacency and degeneration.

You have to evaluate your situation the best you can, make an honest assessment of where you are and where you're trying to get to, and then just make a decision.

[Talinn]

I can't help see having any sort of relationship as being conflicting with self-actualization to some degree. I intuit that it would help at the very late (well at least further) stages of personal development though.

 

The idea that you value one person differently than all other people really irks me.

 

That is just me though. I do need to work on this specific area: to not judge people for wanting more human connection than I do..

Edited November 26, 2018 by Talinn

[XYZ]

On 11/25/2018 at 7:09 PM, Talinn said:

The idea that you value one person differently than all other people really irks me.

Yea, that does seem quite absurd when you think about it. But just as you might have any kind of relationship, or no relationship, people can be together for all sorts of reasons. It's apparent though that a high consciousness person has less need for relationships. When they do happen it's something that would be figured out every step of the way, two (or more) people choosing how to be together, not just following a relationship paradigm, or ideology, or mutual neediness.

[Shadowraix]

Follow which one you resonate with best!

Personally I really like the poly no label kind of form of dating. But that does get complicated when you connect to their social network.

In my perspective I had realized that my capability to love people isn't restricted to a singular person and what I do with one person doesn't make what I do with another any less meaningful. Of course there is still jealousy and desire towards exclusivity out of a feeling of specialness that occurs but you work it out. Its a very free flow rule-less style kind of like how having friends is.

But while that works best with my desires it may not for you. If you are curious about the more poly style of dating, give it a try! Experimentation is how you'll find whats best for you