Happy by yourself

[XYZ]

21 hours ago, F A B said:

You can be happy by yourself.

I just stop at this, since I've never experienced relationship love, or the illusion of it other than one-sided in my own mind. By now though I am focused on developing 'cosmic' Love than searching for it in other people. It's easily to develop deep warm fuzzy feelings from a sexual place, which we often refer to as lover case love. It feels so real, true and pure when you experience it, but it's actually just your own projection onto the other person, and the feelings are not unique to her. 

Far from being able to directly define love and happiness, but I can say this. Genuine happiness is not conditional upon or made easier because of other people. And Love is not something restricted to certain people but not others. Love and happiness are so much more expansive than just human emotions you feel for other people, and basing them on specific relationships only limits your capacity to experience them fully.

[F A B]

I agree with you guys.

I'm not telling that my happiness depends on others. I'm acknowledging that (for me) happiness arise more easily when I'm with others.

[XYZ]

You are not wrong. If however, you could not have the people or relationships in your life that you desire, do you think you would learn to cultivate the same type of happiness alone?

[Gabriel Antonio]

 

On 22/11/2018 at 7:39 AM, F A B said:

I'm not telling that my happiness depends on others. I'm acknowledging that (for me) happiness arise more easily when I'm with others.

Bingo!

Love and belongingess is an authentic human need. 

 

Edited November 23, 2018 by Gabriel Antonio

[Strikr]

On 21/11/2018 at 9:08 PM, XYZ said:

I just stop at this, since I've never experienced relationship love, or the illusion of it other than one-sided in my own mind. By now though I am focused on developing 'cosmic' Love than searching for it in other people. It's easily to develop deep warm fuzzy feelings from a sexual place, which we often refer to as lover case love. It feels so real, true and pure when you experience it, but it's actually just your own projection onto the other person, and the feelings are not unique to her. 

Far from being able to directly define love and happiness, but I can say this. Genuine happiness is not conditional upon or made easier because of other people. And Love is not something restricted to certain people but not others. Love and happiness are so much more expansive than just human emotions you feel for other people, and basing them on specific relationships only limits your capacity to experience them fully.

 

pain is growth, growth is love

Edited November 23, 2018 by Strikr

[F A B]

15 hours ago, XYZ said:

do you think you would learn to cultivate the same type of happiness alone?

I don’t know whether I could create exactly the same type of happiness, but surely I would work on that.

Anyway, I think I could handle it 

[Hellspeed]

On 21.11.2018 at 10:12 AM, F A B said:

For me, it's easier entering the happiness with her than without her (by myself).

Do I have to deny that?

No, simply means you don't know yourself yet. 

[Arkandeus]

On 22/11/2018 at 10:39 AM, F A B said:

I agree with you guys.

I'm not telling that my happiness depends on others. I'm acknowledging that (for me) happiness arise more easily when I'm with others.

Acknowledge this happiness as love, and if you always become more happy when you are with others, does that not mean you are in love right now?

[kieranperez]

Assuming you actually love the woman or man your with... which most people don’t. 

[pluto]

You only need another when you don't truly embody the self. When you truly embody your essence you become complete. Sure you can have fun but if one leaves you it wont bother or effect you because you are at peace and in love with yourself thus ultimately all others are a growing/evolving process to find self. You only end up realizing there is only you.