INFP and game

[Aakash Vijayan]

Any INFPs here have experience about game or pickup? Also some INFP problems and solutions regarding unique challenges an INFP faces while using game? 

[alea]

I used to be an infp, after 5 years I became istj, logistician.. 

[Aquarius]

Maybe nice guy syndrome. If you get what I mean. But that's a just a stereotype.

[SFRL]

I am INFP myself.

I am not sure if there really is such a thing as INFP game. But who knows I might be wrong. 

But I can give you a break down of what I do. 

 

First thing about INFP is that you are introverted. Me myself I am extremely introverted. Usually I prefer to be alone. But then again I am not shy. And I am a masculine guy. 

This whole idea that all introverts are 'Nice Guys' or the nerdy academic type is not truth. There are a lot of macho masculine introverts. 

As an introvert you will probably not be at your best in social gatherings. I hate it when people intrude my space while I am performing my dark magic on the girl. 

Introverts pick up on a lot of impulses that are going on around them. So in a busy environment they easily pick up an overload of information. Which gets confusing and tiring, and annoying. 

But Introverts are good at building deep personal connections. So it will be easy for you to have a deeper more meaningful conversation with her then she is used to. Making you interesting. 

For me isolation game works the best. If I am 1 on 1 with the girl I am very effective. I am very good at picking up on micro-expressions. Little movements in her face, changes in vocal tonality, dilating of the pupils, body language, etc. I think it is an ability I am born with. Probably tied to extreme introversion. It puts me in what I call "Predator mode". None of that introvert nice guy bullshit. I pick up on her weaknesses and I move in like a rattlesnake.  

 

Another big thing about being INFP is that we see pretty much everything as a grey area. Instead of black and white. We don't think in absolutes. This can be very usefull. Because if you are not tied to one believe system you are flexible, you are fluid, and it's much easier to be witty. 

What I usually do when I am on a date/alone with a girl is create arguments. I disagree with her. Or I pretend to disagree with her. And you see, when everything to you is 'grey area' you can always take an opposite stand to her. By disagreeing with her you create polorazation. And polorazation is one of the strongest attraction mechanisms. 

Then meanwhile when I am arguing with her I am being Cocky-Funny. Cocky-Funny is my bread and butter when it comes to game. And I use a lot of push-pull. Sometimes taking the conversation to a more serious place, agreeing with her. And then back to arguing and being Cocky-Funny. 

 

So how this really works is: I am alone with the girl, we start debating/arguing in a playful polorizing manner, I argue the words that come out of her mouth, meanwhile I am reading all her micro-expressions and bodylangue. 70% of communication is trough bodylangue 30% by words. In other words the words coming out of her mouth don't mean shit. 

I was sitting on the couch the other day with this chick, joking and laughing and arguing and stuff, while I was physically escalating on her. And at some point I tell her "Woman look at me....woman listen to me...blah blah blah" And I see in her eyes her pupils dilate and her attraction goes UP. You know what she says? "You just lost every change to ever have sex with me". 30 minutes later I was fucking her. 

Now while I am creating this Cocky-Funny polarizing argument I read all her body signals. AND I physically escalate. I will start with just touching her hand, or her finger, or her knee. When that goes well scratch her neck. Maybe give her a foot massage, start making out with her. Everytime a little bit further. You got to keep pushing the frontier. Eventually you will be in her panties. 

Also what touching her does, is it comforts her if you do it right. You got to do it in a way that's comfortable to her ofcourse. You can't just start groping on her right from the start. But if you touch a woman's skin and she likes it, her body will start releasing oxytocin, some chemical or hormone or something that makes her feel close and connected to you. So if you use physical escalation right, she will start feeling comfortable and close to you, and then she wants to have sex with you. 

Again you can see how successful your actions are by picking up on her nonverbal communication. 

 

Edited November 16, 2018 by SFRL

[Aquarius]

On 11/15/2018 at 3:54 PM, Kataro7 said:

First of all, normal parties will contain very few people that naturally are attracted to an INFP averagely speaking. (assuming intuition and sensory usually don't go hand in hand when we are young).
 

Strange. Honestly I'm only attracted to INFP. But that's just me, being an ENFJ.  

[YaNanNallari]

I'm infp. For me game is a very flowy thing (not that I do it much at all). It just goes very naturally when it does, I don't really even think about it. Most importantly, I have to genuinely like the girl. If that's the case I don't worry too much about anything else

[Dan Arnautu]

@Aakash Vijayan There are no unique challenges. All pickup challenges are very well documented and have plenty of solutions.

Have you gone out and did game at least once yet?

[Girzo]

Fellow INFP here. My dating life is a badly written drama.  Just as most of my novels from teenage years. 

Sometimes I feel on top of the world and crush it. The other times I can't force myself to even say "hi" to a girl. Emotions rule my effectivness at game, which is far from ideal. There's no easy solution to that problem. Hard work on inner game is needed.

You can also put some system in the place that will force you to take action, when you can't motivate yourself naturally. Like schedule that on this day of the week, let's say Wednesday, you approach at least two girls and say, at least, "Hi!". You can also deliberately schedule time to go to a party and set a goal of setting up a date with one girl met at that party.

Such rigid, goal-oriented approach is counter-intuitive for INFP, but works.

Edited November 22, 2018 by Girzo

[Aakash Vijayan]

@Dan Arnautu I havent. And you are right. Its just that I wanted some insight from a personality type perspective 

[Aakash Vijayan]

@Girzo you hit the nail about the rigid goal oriented thing btw

[Dan Arnautu]

6 hours ago, Aakash Vijayan said:

@Dan Arnautu I havent. And you are right. Its just that I wanted some insight from a personality type perspective 

What challenges are you talking about specifically?

[deci belle]

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Any INFPs here have experience about game or pickup? Also some INFP problems and solutions regarding unique challenges an INFP faces while using game? 

Mostly when I'm dancing~ and as far as I know, game isn't in need of any formality. For me it's never off. It's really not that subtle in terms of energy; which would be characteristic of INFP.

What's so arbitrary is role-playing, albeit for the sake of brevity, it's understandable. Nevertheless, there's so much forcing of an issue and the goal oriented psychological momentum. The hustlers are trying to get there and I'm already there. The present is cosmically erotic…

Interestingly, it's femme who join me innocently enough. If they're straight, it's a beautiful thing because they are really present-- unless they've stooped to being escorted~ with that, they tend to be escorted off the dance-floor when their date can't stand it any longer-- whoopsie!! Lez tend to cut straight to the chase after a few compliments, much as the straight males. Of course, gays guys are a blast due to a lack of expectations.

People are sso sexy~ too bad we're always ruining potential by habituation to taking it somewhere else before it's so.

 

 

ed note: change last line of penultimate paragraph

Edited December 1, 2018 by deci belle