Afraid of living life?

[Anirban657]

I have been a shy kid for most of my childhood. But as I grew up to be a teenager I tried to open up. But still there is a fear of life. I am afraid to live life. 

I am fascinated by how people behave,how there are so many different personalities, how pick up artists do what they do, how people can manipulate other people's emotions and get their way in life and so on. I am fascinated by people skills but I myself have very poor people skills. 

I also have social anxiety. I am also fascinated by people who have amazing social skills and who are extroverts. 

I just want to overcome this fear of life. It prevents me from living my life to the fullest and as for my present situation this fear and social anxiety is ruining my career. 

How do I overcome fear of experimenting with life as I think I need to experiment with life more? How do I live life to the fullest?

Thank you for the answers!!

[Rilles]

I have the same problem, its gotten bettter, just take baby steps! Meditation, shadow work, contemplation(self therapy), go out and find events and people 

[Anirban657]

8 minutes ago, Rilles said:

I have the same problem, its gotten bettter, just take baby steps! Meditation, shadow work, contemplation(self therapy), go out and find events and people 

I agree that shadow work and contemplation might help but I don't know much about how to do them correctly. I do meditation daily but it just keep my mind calm but it does not remove the fear.

[Rebec]

@Anirban657

3 hours ago, Anirban657 said:

I just want to overcome this fear of life. It prevents me from living my life to the fullest and as for my present situation this fear and social anxiety is ruining my career. 

Overcoming is wanting to get rid of it, 'what you resist, persists'. So that won't work if you keep believing this and resisting your fear of life.

You say it's preventing you and ruining your career, ask your self this question;

What is the payoff of this positionality I'm stuck in? What gratification, satisfaction and pleasure gives this position? 

Honesty with yourself works the best. Most likely you expercience some benefits, otherwise you can easily change your current behavior and believes. Then look for what deeper need you trying to forfill, like the need for attention, love, approval, security. Probaly something from your childhood.

Then allow these feelings / thoughts / emotions, instead of resisting them. And let them go. Use; letting go (D. Hawkins), Sedona Method or The Work (Byron Katie). 

3 hours ago, Anirban657 said:

I also have social anxiety.

This is believe, a story. Use above methods to release these believes. And stop feeding your believes by giving yourself labels. 

3 hours ago, Anirban657 said:

I myself have very poor people skills

Again, a believe. How do you know what good people skills are? Things you see in others don't makes them more skillfull.

Carl Jung has a quote; “Whatever is rejected from the self, appears in the world as an event.” Go inside and accept yourself fully.

I don't know if you resonate with him, but try julienhimself Youtube Channel (video's of the last two years), could be helpfull.

 

[Anirban657]

4 hours ago, Rebec said:

@Anirban657

Overcoming is wanting to get rid of it, 'what you resist, persists'. So that won't work if you keep believing this and resisting your fear of life.

You say it's preventing you and ruining your career, ask your self this question;

What is the payoff of this positionality I'm stuck in? What gratification, satisfaction and pleasure gives this position? 

Honesty with yourself works the best. Most likely you expercience some benefits, otherwise you can easily change your current behavior and believes. Then look for what deeper need you trying to forfill, like the need for attention, love, approval, security. Probaly something from your childhood.

Then allow these feelings / thoughts / emotions, instead of resisting them. And let them go. Use; letting go (D. Hawkins), Sedona Method or The Work (Byron Katie). 

This is believe, a story. Use above methods to release these believes. And stop feeding your believes by giving yourself labels. 

Again, a believe. How do you know what good people skills are? Things you see in others don't makes them more skillfull.

Carl Jung has a quote; “Whatever is rejected from the self, appears in the world as an event.” Go inside and accept yourself fully.

I don't know if you resonate with him, but try julienhimself Youtube Channel (video's of the last two years), could be helpfull.

 

Thank you so much!! I really found it to be helpful.

[Anirban657]

@Caterpillar Thank you!!