Could anybody provide any advice please

[Charlotte]

I've made a huge life choice that was well overdue but you know that area when you've taken 'the jump' and ego just fires everything at you to get you back into the 'comfort zone'? I'm in that place... The "Fuck fuck fuck, is this right, have I made the right decision, but what about this and what about that!". This is, for me, the most challenging part. 

Any advice? ♥️

[Equanimitize]

Just being aware that you know that you’re going through some sort of transformation or transition and that your ego is backlashing in of itself is sufficient enough for you to take the proper actions that need to be taken. 

As long as you can see what it is in truth (which it seems you can see what it is for what it is) Keep walking the edge, this is when you know you are growing when you do something for no other reason then it is difficult to do. 

Brene Brown talks about the vulnerability hangover when you say or do something courageous and in your mind you think “I shouldn’t have done that” or “what will they think of me.” Etc. etc. this in a nutshell is growth, and if it wasn’t challenging then everyone would be highly developed self actualized human beings. 

[Nahm]

@Charlotte You can’t in actuality get it wrong. You’re good ?. Don’t forget, “well overdue” (big hint!!! That you should be feelin good about this). ? Good for you, makin the tough calls. Livin your life. Nice. Wonderful thing to see. I remember where you were, who you were, so to speak. I remember. You’re kickin ass. 

Fuck it.....Furthermore, I’ve used you as an example more than once. People don’t change easily, they don’t open up readily and try things, new things, new things that will help them, even just the act of trying new things it’self feels better, but it’s hard to try new things, to face fears, it’s just hard some times, but I tell people about a girl who is doing it anyways. Not fearlessly. With the fear. With the uncertainty. She’s doing it anyways. I know grown men, ‘hunters’ even, intimidated by your bravery.  

[Salvijus]

I don't know if you resonate with mooji or not but here's a very beautiful answer to your question.

5.50 he gives a live example about a very relatable situation that you're having

 

[Charlotte]

@Equanimitize very true! Thank you so much for your reply. Really appreciate it. 

@Nahm  I don't know where I begin to thank you for your words Nahm ?♥️ I truly needed this so much. I'm speechless. 

@Salvijus thank you so much! 

 

[Equanimitize]

No problem, I appreciate you for giving me the opportunity to send out what has worked for me-this helps me learn as well. Thank you

[NoSelfSelf]

Stop giving those thoughts attention and give attention to thoughts that moves you in that direction you chose

[Joseph Maynor]

I know what you’re talking about.  Things change and eventually get better.  When one door closes another door opens.  Someone told me recently a very powerful thing about death that kinda applies.  When someone close to you dies, you go through a stage of grieving and crying — but five years later, instead of crying when you think about that person, you might be smiling.  You smile at their memory.  But of course that can’t happen until that storm has passed.  But the key is not to judge yourself for going through what you’re going through.  Pain is a part a reality, a part of life.  To try to avoid pain in life is like trying to force your own preferences on Mother Nature.  And that just sets you up to get mindfucked and all distressed when the downs of life happen.  Life has ups and downs, it’s so true.  Reality contains ups and downs.  It’s not fun to go through the downs, but it’s part of what’s here.  You wanna allow the downs to exist in life.  Give the downs permission to exist in your reality.  I think sometimes we guilt ourselves because we think we should have done something to avoid the downs in our lives.  But you can’t avoid all the downs, so don’t beat yourself up.  The downs are gonna happen and the best thing to do is just to let them exist and let them pass.  A sunny day follows a gloomy day eventually.  I have downs in my life too.  I just had one recently.  And I just watched it happen and didn’t cling to it one way or the other.  Reality is always cycling between things that I like and things that I don’t like.  The best thing I can do is not make it mean anything about me.  Probably the biggest down in life is watching your own dying or somebody else dying that you care about.  But if you take the perspective that it’s not personal, and it’s just the way things are, that puts a totally different context around it.  If reality contains death, then the idea that death is bad is mere Thought about reality.  It’s a preference of reality being expressed through Thought.  Death is as natural and as normal as birth.  But we spin birth to be positive and death negative, but they’re both equally here in reality. Death could very well be thought to be a positive and birth a negative.  That too would be a Thought about reality.  But reality just is what it is, it doesn’t depend on our preferences or Thoughts about it.

Edited October 25, 2018 by Joseph Maynor

[PsiloPutty]

On ‎10‎/‎24‎/‎2018 at 7:11 AM, Nahm said:

@Charlotte You can’t in actuality get it wrong. You’re good ?. Don’t forget, “well overdue” (big hint!!! That you should be feelin good about this). ? Good for you, makin the tough calls. Livin your life. Nice. Wonderful thing to see. I remember where you were, who you were, so to speak. I remember. You’re kickin ass. 

Fuck it.....Furthermore, I’ve used you as an example more than once. People don’t change easily, they don’t open up readily and try things, new things, new things that will help them, even just the act of trying new things it’self feels better, but it’s hard to try new things, to face fears, it’s just hard some times, but I tell people about a girl who is doing it anyways. Not fearlessly. With the fear. With the uncertainty. She’s doing it anyways. I know grown men, ‘hunters’ even, intimidated by your bravery.  

This is strong, strong stuff. 

And Charlotte, we're all in your corner. If the ego is squawkin' then you're probably onto something good! * hug *