Masculine,feminine energy

[Forestluv]

11 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

in context of romantic relationship to attract feminine(which i like) you have to be in your masculine....

Be aware of limiting beliefs. You are assuming that is true.

There is lots of feminine : feminine attraction in the world. I’m super attracted to it. It’s sooo beautiful 

[Martin123]

@NoSelfSelf Well even though your mother has affected you greatly, in spite of her being around more as a child the tendency is to take on the approach the dominant parent has, which is your father, which sounds that he had a very masculine approach. So just to point out this is where your masculinity comes from, it is becaues as a child, because your father was dominant, you developed a belief that "The way you get your way in your way, is the way my dad does it, which is being masculine". 
Which as you mentioned your father working and being very "career focused", have you noticed that when you wanna live a "purpose and mission filled life" you are living out the pattern you took on from your dad?
And by the way I Am sorry for your dad not being there for you, all children deserve love from all their parents. We tend to misinterpret the ways we are treated often that when a parent isnt around it is our fault somehow. We then feel unloved and unworthy by that parent. And sadly enough when one parent doesnt love us, that parents approval we then crave the most... and then youre like "omg yeah sure mom loves me, whatever I want dads love." - See? Thats why there is 80/20 masculine feminine ratio! But it is the result of parental neglect.

May you find the courage to face the feelings of your dad not being around, and find yourself with a renewed sense of inspiration and love for life, while embracing all aspects of life, not 80/20, but 100% of both sides! :-) 

As a child you deserved love, and when you didnt receive it, it was not your fault. Not even in the slightest, never. 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Martin123 its a loaded answer need time to integrate it all @Serotoninluv hows limiting belief when i read it in a book and experienced it irl

[Forestluv]

8 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Serotoninluv hows limiting belief when i read it in a book and experienced it irl

The belief that you have to have masculine to attract femin  is only partially true. Feminine also attracts feminine. Look around, it’s everywhere. It’s one of the most popular porn genres for goodness sake. I’ve felt it too.

If I read someone write that you have to have masculine to attract feminine, I would LOL. It’s so obviously not true.

 

[BarkingTurtle]

How can I integrate both masculinity and femininity into my life without any judgements that is better than the other, instead balancing the two out with knowledge that both of these energies masculine and feminine compliment each other?

I would embrace both of these sides

Masculine: career/purpose driven goal achieving machine who makes sharps and logical decisions for the sake of humanity. 

Feminine: Loving, Emotional, Charming, hell I don't know much about femininity only that there's a lot of emotion attached to it, and that's why I have to implement it into my life.

But see by saying that about femininity I'm using my masculine side which gives me an idea of what feminine side looks like. It's a very subtle energy, a bit uncomfortable for some. It might be even scary for few, but don't worry we can all get into it slowly and surely.

Balance between these two energies is crucial for our overall fulfilment.

How can I be more feminine in my life?

Listen with feelings, not with your head. Feel into the other person. How's is he/she feeling right now? Show empathy towards them. Be genuine.

How can I be more masculine in my life?

Listen with your head and put feelings aside for some time so you could find out a solution for a situation at hand with your analytical mind.

To balance the two feel free to experiment and to feel your way out and in, there's not much thought that goes into balance, balance is already here, we can just become aware of these two energies and how it affects our lives.

[NoSelfSelf]

@Serotoninluv if you look closely there is always one more dominant there cant be sexual attraction without polarity

[BarkingTurtle]

1 minute ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Serotoninluv if you look closely there is always one more dominant there cant be sexual attraction without polarity

Yes but there always two opposites in this world, just like the ying yang symbol. Good and bad, feminine and masculine compliments each other.

The thing here is that both energies change within you all the time, you're just not aware of it, ofcourse if you try to control and be completely masculine you'll only feel incomplete without the feminine which gives so much joy and pleasures during our lifetimes!

I've an exercise that you can do for the next week. Notice the differences of masculine and feminine energies. Notice that these energies will be found in both genders.

Notice how these energies interconnect and interchange with each other.

That's how you can get clear if going 50/50 is a good idea or not.

[Forestluv]

2 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Serotoninluv if you look closely there is always one more dominant there cant be sexual attraction without polarity

Another limited belief. Challenge that believe and get rid of it! ?

Feminine : feminine sex is one of the most popular porn genres. I’ve had fem : fem sex and it’s super hot!!

Masculine : masculine sexuality also exists all over. I’ve also had masculine : masculine sex and it’s also super hottt!!!

Feminine : Masculine sexuality also exists and it can also be super hottt!!!

If you like Fem : Masc sexuality, great. Yet, don’t fool yourself into thinking that’s all that’s possible.

[Forestluv]

3 minutes ago, BarkingTurtle said:

 of course if you try to control and be completely masculine you'll only feel incomplete without the feminine

This is an overly simplistic belief. Sexuality, gender and sense of completeness is so much more expansive than this

[BarkingTurtle]

8 hours ago, Serotoninluv said:

This is an overly simplistic belief. Sexuality, gender and sense of completeness is so much more expansive than this

Feminine and masculine are both present and are both needed for sexuality to manifest in the real world. I don't why these energies exist, but both of them are necessary for my survival.

[Shin]

[Emerald]

On 10/21/2018 at 8:34 AM, NoSelfSelf said:

Why does people including Leo try to explore or tap into feminine side(if they are male) i dont get it...i find that being fully masculine is great thing only if its not toxic one,people are usually a mix and thats not good imo...

He recommends this because people are androgynous by nature. So, if you don't integrate your feminine side, it just leads to lowered consciousness and repression.

It's the same with women and their masculine side. It's there no matter what. They can't get rid of it. So, a woman can either choose to integrate it or choose to repress it and become less highly developed. 

And men who repress their feminine side will still have femininity... it will just be shadow femininity because it's repressed and unconscious. Men who have a disintegrated feminine side are both brutish and shrewish. They are often very passive aggressive, bitchy, and petty as well as just annoying to be around. Without the feminine side, you get a very immature version of masculinity that's not stable. And ironically, they will be very "beta", as many people like to call it... despite trying their damndest for the opposite. 

[Gabriel Antonio]

42 minutes ago, Emerald said:

He recommends this because people are androgynous by nature. So, if you don't integrate your feminine side, it just leads to lowered consciousness and repression.

It's the same with women and their masculine side. It's there no matter what. They can't get rid of it. So, a woman can either choose to integrate it or choose to repress it and become less highly developed. 

And men who repress their feminine side will still have femininity... it will just be shadow femininity because it's repressed and unconscious. Men who have a disintegrated feminine side are both brutish and shrewish. They are often very passive aggressive, bitchy, and petty as well as just annoying to be around. Without the feminine side, you get a very immature version of masculinity that's not stable. And ironically, they will be very "beta", as many people like to call it... despite trying their damndest for the opposite. 

Perfect!

 

 

Here's from Wikipedia:

Yin and yang describes how seemingly opposite or contrary forces may actually be complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another.

 

@NoSelfSelf I recommend the episode "How to Be a Man (Part 2)". Really good episode! 

 

[SFRL]

 

[Emerald]

On 10/21/2018 at 4:41 PM, NoSelfSelf said:

@Serotoninluv i agree experienced it both but i rather be masculine with little feminine then both equal...and in context of romantic relationship to attract feminine(which i like) you have to be in your masculine....

You don't choose how much masculine or feminine is in you. It is pre-conditioned. So, everyone has a unique masculine/feminine signature that ebbs and flows in a predictable way throughout their life. It is not something that you can make a conscious effort to develop or manipulate. You must simply tap into whatever happens to be there, and realize your full potential regardless of what it's labeled.

Now, chances are that you'll be mostly masculine because you are male. Most men are mostly masculine with just some feminine. So, it's natural for you to have a more masculine slant to your personality. But don't write over your natural masculinity with societal notions of masculinity. And don't repress your femininity in an attempt to cleave to those societal notions of masculinity either.

Just own and integrate whatever happens to be there regardless of the polarity, and the Yin and Yang will work together in intercourse with one another to exalt you to your highest. 

Don't just have sex... be sex.

[Gabriel Antonio]

1 hour ago, Emerald said:

You don't choose how much masculine or feminine is in you. It is pre-conditioned. So, everyone has a unique masculine/feminine signature that ebbs and flows in a predictable way throughout their life. It is not something that you can make a conscious effort to develop or manipulate. You must simply tap into whatever happens to be there, and realize your full potential regardless of what it's labeled.

Now, chances are that you'll be mostly masculine because you are male. Most men are mostly masculine with just some feminine. So, it's natural for you to have a more masculine slant to your personality. But don't write over your natural masculinity with societal notions of masculinity. And don't repress your femininity in an attempt to cleave to those societal notions of masculinity either.

Just own and integrate whatever happens to be there regardless of the polarity, and the Yin and Yang will work together in intercourse with one another to exalt you to your highest. 

???

[Emerald]

4 hours ago, Gabriel Antonio said:

Perfect!

 

 

Here's from Wikipedia:

Yin and yang describes how seemingly opposite or contrary forces may actually be complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another.

 

That's the most concise and accurate description of Yin/Yang that I've heard. 

[Shin]

Is it possible to have a ratio extremely close to 50% ?

[NoSelfSelf]

@Emerald i am because of how im raised wearing more feminine mask i said this because i can with my effort come into masculine energy and then i get more attention from girls and its easier to put them in their feminine side(no effort) they become more playful more fun....

[Ayilton]

On 10/21/2018 at 10:49 PM, Martin123 said:

@NoSelfSelf Well even though your mother has affected you greatly, in spite of her being around more as a child the tendency is to take on the approach the dominant parent has, which is your father, which sounds that he had a very masculine approach. So just to point out this is where your masculinity comes from, it is becaues as a child, because your father was dominant, you developed a belief that "The way you get your way in your way, is the way my dad does it, which is being masculine". 
Which as you mentioned your father working and being very "career focused", have you noticed that when you wanna live a "purpose and mission filled life" you are living out the pattern you took on from your dad?
And by the way I Am sorry for your dad not being there for you, all children deserve love from all their parents. We tend to misinterpret the ways we are treated often that when a parent isnt around it is our fault somehow. We then feel unloved and unworthy by that parent. And sadly enough when one parent doesnt love us, that parents approval we then crave the most... and then youre like "omg yeah sure mom loves me, whatever I want dads love." - See? Thats why there is 80/20 masculine feminine ratio! But it is the result of parental neglect.

May you find the courage to face the feelings of your dad not being around, and find yourself with a renewed sense of inspiration and love for life, while embracing all aspects of life, not 80/20, but 100% of both sides! :-) 

As a child you deserved love, and when you didnt receive it, it was not your fault. Not even in the slightest, never. 

I think this is my case  ! But I wonder is this Leo's case also  ?! I just wonder