VAGUE VALUES! HELP!

[Pernani]

I am doing the values assessement in @Leo Gura's course, I came up with a list of 10 values and I went with my heart while choosing them, although when it was time to identify each and every single value as to what exactly means to me (by asking the question:how does it look like and what does it really mean to me?) I had some values that felt authentic to me but when I tried to really come up with a precise answer for the questions above I just couldn't, it all felt too vague, these values are: beauty, passion, creativity and adventure.

Does this mean that im just deceiving myself for choosing them ? And that I should just go with the ones I can concretely picture in my mind?

[Leo Kaminski]

It only means you have to less experience with them. I went through the whole course over a year ago and also did my coaching certificate after that (there was also a lot of inner work done). And I remember feeling the same as I went through the course. My two best friends would probably tell you the same. They also went through the course at that time. Your values are the essence of what is important to you. If there comes something up that you feel is right, but are not really able to pin down what it means to you, that does not have to mean, it is not true. It only means, you have to little experience and clarity with it yet. 

If you are talking about deceiving yourself, that sounds to me as if you maybe have a conflict about other values which leo said are "bad" the one with the *. If that is the case don't worry either. 

The thing you have to understand about the values is, that they will evolve all the time. So if you are now in a position where you feel you can't really nail them and there is something missing in your definition, that is perfectly fine. It will come with time and practice. Think about it, write down what comes the most closest and let it stand for 1 week. Than sit down, and think about it a week later, a month later, a year later. You will become closer and closer until you hit the point where you read them and you know exactly what they mean and this meaning will make you almost cry, because you honor it so much! You are on a good path.

For your situation, one last advice. What can help at the beginning is to get a broad understanding of what the value means to you and than try to connect it with specific examples in your life. 

I for example als had also the value of beauty and what I noticed is that I feel the whole system of actualized.org is one manifestation of beauty (for me).  So through connecting your values and there meaning with tangible examples, it can help to get closer to what it means, because than you have something you adore and from that you can get new insights about what the value means to you. Because their is a specific reason why you like the example and why it resonates with you. Become clear on why that is. For me it cam up that I consider actualized.org beauty, cause it is done with so much excellence. This insight created later on my complete value of Beauty / Excellence. 

Let me know if that helps!

[Pernani]

10 hours ago, Leo Kaminski said:

It only means you have to less experience with them. I went through the whole course over a year ago and also did my coaching certificate after that (there was also a lot of inner work done). And I remember feeling the same as I went through the course. My two best friends would probably tell you the same. They also went through the course at that time. Your values are the essence of what is important to you. If there comes something up that you feel is right, but are not really able to pin down what it means to you, that does not have to mean, it is not true. It only means, you have to little experience and clarity with it yet. 

If you are talking about deceiving yourself, that sounds to me as if you maybe have a conflict about other values which leo said are "bad" the one with the *. If that is the case don't worry either. 

The thing you have to understand about the values is, that they will evolve all the time. So if you are now in a position where you feel you can't really nail them and there is something missing in your definition, that is perfectly fine. It will come with time and practice. Think about it, write down what comes the most closest and let it stand for 1 week. Than sit down, and think about it a week later, a month later, a year later. You will become closer and closer until you hit the point where you read them and you know exactly what they mean and this meaning will make you almost cry, because you honor it so much! You are on a good path.

For your situation, one last advice. What can help at the beginning is to get a broad understanding of what the value means to you and than try to connect it with specific examples in your life. 

I for example als had also the value of beauty and what I noticed is that I feel the whole system of actualized.org is one manifestation of beauty (for me).  So through connecting your values and there meaning with tangible examples, it can help to get closer to what it means, because than you have something you adore and from that you can get new insights about what the value means to you. Because their is a specific reason why you like the example and why it resonates with you. Become clear on why that is. For me it cam up that I consider actualized.org beauty, cause it is done with so much excellence. This insight created later on my complete value of Beauty / Excellence. 

Let me know if that helps!

What you wrote here is beautiful in itself, thank you for taking the time and for all the advice <3