How Do You Become Your Own Best Friend?

[Endew]

How does one go about becoming best friends with themselves?

[Grasshopper]

In what way?

In an enlightenment-type way, or just in general liking yourself better?

[Endew]

@Grasshopper  what's the diffrence. Are they not the something?

[vizual]

When you are alone, hug yourself(really, try it) and tell yourself you are perfect. Both your strength and weaknesses, your accomplishments and failures. Everything is alright. First love yourself, then share your love with the world and you will find happiness.

[Grasshopper]

On 4/1/2016 at 5:19 AM, Endew said:

@Grasshopper  what's the diffrence. Are they not the something?

I was probably over thinking your question. It just reminded my of my own personal experience with enlightenment work.

I would recommend trying to identify the reasons why you are not currently happy with yourself, and then trace them back. Every reason happened because of something, whether it was told to you, or whether it was an experience from your past, or core beliefs you've held throughout your life, etc.

And don't get worked up if you can't figured it all out at first. A lot of suffering happens from making judgments about yourself based on your current understanding of life, which changes all the time. One day you're upset about "whatever," then the next you totally forgive yourself and move on because you found some new information, or got some reassurance, etc. So notice how much your perspective changes and how pointless it is to judge yourself based on your current perspective.

Edit: I'm going off little information here. I'm not sure whether you're happy with yourself and just asking in general or not. I jumped the gun and assumed. Sorry if I'm wrong. Either way, the more things you can identify about yourself that change, the easier they are to let go. The more you let go, the more barriers you knock down that come between you and being your own best friend.

Edited April 5, 2016 by Grasshopper

[Anna]

You should watch Leo's video about self-acceptance. (I would share a link to it, but I only have internet access via smartphone.)

Love and accept yourself the way you are. 

[Florian-]

On 01.04.2016 at 6:09 AM, Endew said:

How does one go about becoming best friends with themselves?

A true question you posted here, to love yourself is critical for every person. The best way to do this it's through meditation, you must have  consciousness and be aware of your mind. Sounds easy, don't you think? Well.. it's not that easy, for me wasn't,

 

The reason that you are not loving yourself it's becouse you don't support yourself. Be aware of your thoughts, take total control of your mind. Just be aware of it, when you are at cinema just say: I'm at cinema. If you're in parc, say it. Where is your mind right now? what thoughts you have right now? The most you are aware of your thoughts, the better you can interrupt them.

An example: when you had a bad experience in the past, and that situation is coming back, you mind will say: run dude, i wanna protect myself. Well, sometimes this is not helpfull thoughts, they are automatic, but not actually helpfull.

The idea is that you need to discipline your mind in order to help you when it cames to automatic, immedially thoughts. Those thoughts need's to be positive that lead's you to best decision for yourself, not just to "protect you". All goes to this framework: how thoughts develop into automatic strong thoughts in your life.

 

Be aware of your thoughts, develop them into strong thoughts. And the key is repetition, the most you do this, the better you will have succes.