How do you last ...

[Shin]

4 minutes ago, Charlotte said:

@Martin123 I know what you mean. I tend to keep my mouth shut because people usually take it as an insult which is usually just more denial unfortunately ? 

My pleasure ?

Shin, can I be totally ? honest with you? I hope you don't mind me saying and tell me to shut up if you want...

But I think you've taken that example (picture) of femininity and masculinity (we saw the other day on Google) and re typed it in your own words into a list. I think your BS'ing yourself bro. 

 

I might be wrong but I have an intuitive feeling I'm not ?

No I didn't even thought about it, that's legit experience.

[Charlotte]

@Shin ♥️ apologies

[Martin123]

@Charlotte Thank you!

[Arthur]

Well, if you are doing NoFap and only have sex once in blue moon, no wonder you can't last.

I would say let yourself loose sometimes, sounds like you have a lot of tension that needs to be released fast.

You only need NoFap if faping is an addiction of yours. Otherwise, ejaculating is quite natural, your body will even ejaculate during sleep if you don't do it yourself.

Don't be hung up on lasting longer, the average sex duration for people is only 4 minutes! It may seem cool to last longer, but actually 30 min sex in not natural and very exhausting (I bet our ancestors had sex for less than a minute). Most girls will find it hard to stay aroused and wet for more than 10 minutes into actual penetration.

Edited October 10, 2018 by Arthur

[Forestluv]

@Shin Think about baseball.

[Shin]

19 minutes ago, Serotoninluv said:

@Shin Think about baseball.

What do you mean ?

[F A B]

Try to put your mind on something else, I guess

[Arkandeus]

I used to deal with such problems, and over time it stopped

What really helped is realizing that this is your excitement, allow yourself to be this excited, give your body this opportunity, you're so excited you climax almost immediately! Let that be so, it so for a reason

When you give presence to this, when you give space to this, then are you truly listenning to whats going on

Sex is not separated from spirituality, be mindful, allow yourself to be and you will learn about yourself and life

Whats the problem? Society's expectations and pressures, you need to be the man yadda yadda you need to be a beast in bed satisfying your lady yadda yadda, you need to keep going yadda yadda, horse shit

Its all dumb horseshit, such big horseshit, when I realized that all these expectations implanted in my mind wouldn't allow me to even enjoy the measly one minute of having sex with someone

Not only would I last one measly minute, but I'd feel guilty and horribly about that one minute, Sex became humiliating and a fight against myself to last longer, I couldn't even enjoy that one minute, not even that one minute

When you realize how fucked up this all is, you will be like screw it, I will enjoy that one minute, I'll take it, you'll give yourself space to explore this connection with someone else no matter how short

ever since then I've had sessions that lasted to half an hour, it varies, its never the same, infinity because life is new and now, and more importantly I do not give a shit how long it lasts, this is zero'd from my mind

 

the girl

Women who are present can enjoy a short session as well, and there is always round two

And more then that sex is not just thrusting, there are infinite ways onto which you can caress and kiss her, there is so much you can do beyond thrusting, its mindblowing, its all up to your own creativity, sex is really about discovering yourselves with each other, its not about recreating the love scenes we've all seen on tv in movies and in porn

The way you have sex can be just as unique as the way your voice sound, as the way you walk, or the way you think, while it seems seemingly simple like  "in and out" its not

 

And please dont try to distract yourself to last longer, engage fully in your excitement, if you're going to climax, do it like a champion, enjoy it, be it, thats the way forward

Lest you want to end up for the rest of your life having sex worried about your performance even if you manage to last longer this way its a shortcut, its stupid, you only last longer because you dissociate yourself from sex, you're not lasting longer you're simply disconnecting from the experience, be present, live your feelings

Edited October 11, 2018 by Arkandeus

[Hellspeed]

Total relaxation and you will be able to last for hours.

To do that, the woman has to be on top and doing the movements for that hardcore lasting. 

One has to know how to control and how to use Kundalini to be able to last more than an hour. 

Basically is reaching a multiorgasm level/mode with the woman and recycle her energy through the man's Kundalini. Only after, in stages, the man lowers a little bit Kundalini pointed in her and switch btw orange and red as the heat build up or. This can be done with an awakened man. For the woman is not a requirement to be awakened, she already knows how to automatically do this unconsciously. So one has to know how to use the chakras for this, otherwise is just a 5min and go to sleep hahaha. 

Edited October 11, 2018 by Hellspeed

[Good-boy]

Kegel

[Emerald]

On 10/10/2018 at 4:13 PM, Shin said:

Is that enough, did I have my femininity license ? ?

Was it with the goal of developing one's own femininity? If so, then it wasn't... it was more masculinity and fortification of the order of persona and personality.

The feminine isn't something to be developed. It's always there, all the time. So, the way to experience the feminine is to surrender and be devoured by it... and devoured violently if you resist. Let yourself be vulnerable and let the elements take you and strip you down, laying bare all the wounds of your life. 

If you had been feminine, you'd probably feel very raw and feel like your demons were running amok. The experience of the feminine is often an upheaval of all that's been repressed and allowing it all to hit you. And it's not easy, unless you can completely surrender to it. If you can surrender to it, it's heaven. If you cannot, it's hell.

And allowing it to take you, would leave behind the ability to love deeper and experience the light of innocence in its wake. But shifting into the feminine is no easy task. That's why people avoid it like the plague. 

Recall the sensitivity of childhood, and how every little thing was a big emotion. Big joy. Big sadness. Big anger. Big fear. Being in touch with the feminine feels like this. And for an adult, there is a lot that has been shielded and un-proessed because we have developed an adult shield from these big emotions. It's why adults often feel numb. But if you're in touch with he feminine the shield and masks go down, and it all hits you at once. 

So, if your idea of the feminine is only about nicer things like love and compassion, then you are mistaken. The feminine bears little resemblance to our cultural ideas about womanhood. The feminine is as brutal as it is compassionate. As dark as it is loving. As gritty as it is beautiful. As ugly as it is liberating. As terrifying as it is motherly.

Let the temptress lure you and transform into the ancient hag that devours you... then the great mother will give birth to you again.  

[d0ornokey]

i used this numbing condom from trojan that helped. pretty much last forever. was nice because i no longer worried about finishing soon

i switched condoms when i was done 

Edited October 12, 2018 by d0ornokey

[Shin]

6 hours ago, d0ornokey said:

i used this numbing condom from trojan that helped. pretty much last forever. was nice because i no longer worried about finishing soon

i switched condoms when i was done 

Wait what ? ?

I'm allergic to latex, do they exist latex-free ? ?

[Thesingularity]

I play this song 

in my brain and songs with 2/4 or 4/4 beats 

[pluto]

I have reached a point several years ago where i can last indefinitely, especially when i am more mentally centered. Its all about the mind, the actual though that trying to last triggered the backward wired mechanics you have conditioned for yourself. Although there are times when i am more mentally focused and i tend to get into the phase of thoughts and thinking instead of being in the moment and sometimes can be quite difficult to get back into the flow state and live in pure enjoyment of the moment. Have her orgasm and her enjoyment in mind, not yours, this way you actually(if you love her) enjoy it more because you love giving her your all while at the same time not focusing on yourself so you can rock her world then when she's had enough reward the both of you

For now just take breaks, focus on breathing, change positions, foreplay ect... eventually you will notice when you are past that phase and you'll start to flow like water and she will never be the same again

ALL IS MIND

Edited October 13, 2018 by pluto

[d0ornokey]

@Shin maybe they do, no clue

this is what i used https://www.walgreens.com/store/c/trojan-extended-pleasure-climax-control-lubricated-premium-latex-condoms/ID=prod6052107-product?ext=gooKBM_PLA_-_Sexual_Wellness&pla&adtype=pla_with_promotion&kpid=sku6049475&sst=cac93146-f540-4054-a57c-bf5fb9026275&gclid=CjwKCAjw0oveBRAmEiwAzf6_rKmwbFYi0m8uJRqmF7158wPCDEbWsvi59VVuYGyPomDA36G6OHMi4RoCwpYQAvD_BwE