Being vs Socializing with People

[RaZor47]

Hi everyone,

I am constantly confronted with this interesting dilemma and i was wondering if anybody could help. Been watching Leos videos for almost 2 years now and i was really inspired by his Spiral dynamics mini series so much so that right now i am trying to move away from Stage Orange (that being me) to Stage Green (next stage after orange). One problem that keep constantly arising for me is that i don get where people get the motivation to socialise with people. To me being by myself just seems way better, as difficult as that is to believe. Its like I have the desire to socialise, but the majority of the time the desire is very weak for me. Anybody else have a similar problem and is there any way around it? 

[aurum]

8 hours ago, RaZor47 said:

To me being by myself just seems way better

Is it actually better, or is it just easier?

[Shin]

The desire is very weak because you think most people are too (or not enough) "fill the blank" ?

Is it more like filling the desire is easy and quick, or is it more a general lack in interest ?

Edited October 7, 2018 by Shin

[deci belle]

Be yourself without exception, dear.

Hmmmm, I wonder what aurum's hurry is?

Maybe he's insecure and needs to try harder.

Only act when you are sure, mr razor, because after you act, it's too late.

Anyway, if you are anything like me, being happy in your own skin comes first nature— even if that is the circumstantially difficult part, relative to the situation.

In other words, courting acceptability in social circles under self (or otherwise) artificial pressure is bullshit.

If it's not natural, why would you want to incur karmic debt on account of a "skill"?

That's heartless❤︎

 

 

 

edit note: added the part after the "—"

Edited October 7, 2018 by deci belle

[Your place at Heart]

9 hours ago, RaZor47 said:

Hi everyone,

I am constantly confronted with this interesting dilemma and i was wondering if anybody could help. Been watching Leos videos for almost 2 years now and i was really inspired by his Spiral dynamics mini series so much so that right now i am trying to move away from Stage Orange (that being me) to Stage Green (next stage after orange). One problem that keep constantly arising for me is that i don get where people get the motivation to socialise with people. To me being by myself just seems way better, as difficult as that is to believe. Its like I have the desire to socialise, but the majority of the time the desire is very weak for me. Anybody else have a similar problem and is there any way around it? 

When you socialize with people, you lose your being. You become part of the herd. When You are alone, you are being.

People have natural tendency to want to socialize, just go on social media and internet fasting and just repeat mantras of love and good being and tell us the result. It might be because of the internet. People are less social due to smart phones and the internet

Edited October 7, 2018 by Your place at Heart

[deci belle]

Razor wrote: 

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i don get where people get the motivation to socialise

In my experience, the natural motivation to "socialize" is simply circumstantial adaption to the time as appropriate intercourse without courting honor nor avoiding ignominy. It is, in a word, sincere.

Arbitrary social intercourse is simply un-natural~ I can't imagine anyone able to stomach that kind of "win friends and influence people" mentality, unless of course one is driven to swing with it for name and gain.

Of course, there is a strain of psychological momentum called "fear of missing out", otherwise it's a preposterous venue for authentic actualization of self-refinement. Perhaps there is some kind of misunderstanding of your source material? I am not familiar with the social milieu that might bring up of this constant confrontation.

Good thing you have your doubts.

I'd forget whatever it might be for the time being~ you might have an opportunity to revisit this type of social arena at some later date.

 

 

ed note: add last three paragraphs

Edited October 7, 2018 by deci belle

[universe]

What exactly is your dilemma? You like to be more with yourself instead of socializing. Thats ok.

 

If you'd like to change that look at your thoughts on socializing. Maybe you find it boring, so try to spice it up and socialize with people who share your values. Or talk more about stuff that interests you or make other people laugh. If your sozializing  brings you fun times and deep connections with people you might become more interested in it.

[Shadowraix]

Socializing is an activity. They appeal to some and not for others. Different strokes for different folks.

Is a lack of socializing hurting you? Why do you wish to change this lack of desire? Its perfectly fine if you lack it. Do you think you will be happier desiring socialization?