how do I control sexual cravings? (and food)

[Viking]

im putting this question in this section because I want a more spiritual perspective on this. (kundalini, what have you)

im a 20 year old virgin and I noticed that this topic intrudes my awareness very often. I noticed a lot of my motivations to be around people are purely to get attention from girls. This stuff was subconscious but now I notice it more. it messes up my higher self motivations.

because of this craving for connection with women, I masturbate very often to calm it down.

I said in my previous post about my vipassana retreat that I experienced some kundalini awakening type experience and this craving became more severe. I also said that i'd quit porn, but it turns out not to be so easy. my "masturbation sessions" feel extremely good and fulfilling for some reason, also my appreciation of music is sometimes enhanced hundredfold, especially after a meditation.

actually, after my vipassana retreat im experiencing right now a very deep low, an ego backlash I guess. My craving for food and masturbation is extremely strong and so I give in. When I tried not to give in the craving would creep into my mind and wouldnt go away, not letting me do anything.

should I fight if any craving creeps in? should I do some practice that might manage my cravings? I heared an acquaintance of my saying he had done 90 days of nofap combined with osho kundalini meditation every day. he says his craving disappeared completely.

[Salvijus]

I'm 21 haven't masturbated since June. Without even trying. It just dropped by itself when started doing sadhguru shambhavi everyday from February.

When I began this kriya first it was like once a week then maybe once a 21days. Now i don't know. I don't see it coming anymore

[Viking]

10 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

I'm 21 haven't masturbated since June. Without even trying. It just dropped by itself when started doing sadhguru shambhavi everyday from February.

When I began this kriya first it was like once a week then maybe once a 21days. Now i don't know. I don't see it coming anymore

thanks for your reply, so my guess is that i shouldnt repress it, it should drop off by itself.

[Salvijus]

Don’t fight your cravings for sweets. If you yourself turn sweet, sweets will lose their attraction #sadhguru 

[Hellspeed]

Tapping in 1st chakra with it. 

[Viking]

3 minutes ago, Hellspeed said:

Tapping in 1st chakra with it. 

could you elaborate?

[cirkussmile]

Do exactly what you feel like. Don’t judge your cravings or actions, just be aware, nothing more.

Masturbate without porn. Make love with yourself. 

Keep doing Vipassana meditation daily

Edited September 18, 2018 by cirkussmile

[Hellspeed]

@Viking The art of Grounding. 

Edited September 18, 2018 by Hellspeed

[Viking]

1 hour ago, Hellspeed said:

@Viking The art of Grounding. 

is that a book or something? how do i learn that? can you give sources please? like videos, pdfs, articles..

[Leo Gura]

@Viking Imagine if you took this approach to shitting.

Dude, just enjoy it. What do you expect at 20 years old? Stop being guilty about it.

And carry on with your spiritual practices.

15 minutes of wanking off never stopped no one from enlightenment.

 

[Hafiz]

Cut out the porn and go down to wanking once a week if you can. Report back with the results.

Edited September 19, 2018 by Hafiz

[Cocolove]

Do it all while maintaining awareness

This is a good way to enjoy it

 

 

[Vipassana]

Do dynamic meditation & kundalini meditation for 21 days on no fap. Backlashes are intense brother. I usually relapse after a deep trip or a long retreat too. But in my experience I was bound to try to stay away from fapping as much as i can bc i feel shitty right after. Im 19 ive had sex but its been a few years. I had some very deep cravings for one my ex for years trying to manipulate. Masturbating only makes the cravings stronger. You need to harness that energy & have sex with god. Its not a one day thing or even a one year thing, sexuality is very deeply rooted so if you want to stop don't let anyone fool you. I was in a month of no fap and leo had said "its ok to fap" in one of his videos & i immediately reacted with monkey mind & rattled the snake. All cravings are temporary;) anicca anicca anicca 

[Adam M]

keep doing vipassana

Keep fapping

Observe the cause and effect

Eventually it will stop by itself

[Misagh]

@Leo Gura The human being's capacity for guilt is astounding.

15 hours ago, Viking said:

15 minutes of wanking off never stopped no one from enlightenment.

[Hellspeed]

@Viking As Leo mentioned it, practice this on the Toilet, while you breathe. Let the diaphragm be the only muscle you use, everything else is relaxed.