Where do you draw the line? Wishful thinking vs. your hearts calling

[UDT]

So the question for me really is,

how do you differentiate between strategizing your future vs. following your gut feeling thus living with a more short-term focus.

How do you know when you are just following the traps of society (get a good education, get a good degree, get a good job)?

Maybe your heart says fuck it, leave education and acquiring papers (aka Master degree and so forth) and trading it for actual work experience, or for following your passion in the arts (e.g. music, art, entrepreneurship). 

On the other hand you could say, I will postpone my risky dreams to first get a safety-net a.k.a degree and then "I will still have enough time to do xyz".

But is that true? 

What is right here folks? Playing it strategic and safe, building your educational foundation which in a way sacrifices your youth and freedom, or going all in on your way of living, not giving a fuck and believing that everything will turn out right.

I think this question is relevant for everyone between 21-30. 

It is in a nutshell:

"ah you are still so young, first get a good education, you can start with all the other stuff when you are 26"

vs.

"you are only young once. Go for it, you can still study when you are 30"

 

[Mezanti]

@UDT Play it safe  but invest almost all your time searching for your passion, once you find that, slowly get out of your safety net and emerge yourself into your passion. You wanna make sure you strategize a way to profit off of your passion, i highly recommend you take business and marketing courses. You also cant not play it safe and not have an extreme work ethic, your work ethic is probably the most important thing.

[LaraGreenbridge]

@UDT ,

either way could work out fine for you. 

You might decide to study for a degree and end up really enjoying university life. It's not all hard work, you can still socialise between classes, in the evenings and at weekends. Alright, I'm biased because I loved university life. I had the absolute time of my life. It was brilliant.

But if you chose to plough head-long into your dreams (can you tell us what they are? ) instead of getting a degree, you may end up loving that life-style, too.  Maybe it's a touch more risky, I guess. But do you have some support in your life? Like, can you live with your parents while you explore your dreams? That would make it a whole lot easier! 

You can always study part-time as an older student, if you find you need a degree, but a lot of people lead very successful lives without one. 

What is you passion?

[denydritz]

I find a repeating pattern that many members here see 'making a living' and 'living your passion' as being separate. I wonder why?

You can build a safe foundation and build your dreams at the same time. You only feel that you can't when you see your foundation and your dreams as being separate, when in fact they stem from the same root. Your dream is actually to express that root emotion that gives shape to your dreams. Many people focus on looking at the shape of their dreams, not the root of it, if that makes sense.

Once you look at the root cause of your dreams, you'll see that you can live it out anywhere, anytime, with anyone, in any occupation, and you can get that satisfaction of living life to the fullest, and not feel like you're wasting your youth because everything you do comes from the root of your dreams.

Cheers!

[martin_malin]

If your heart really longs for it, I say jump off the cliff and try to make it work. Is it irresponsible? Yes.

But when your life is on the line, you often find resources you didn't even suspect you had. You learn things you wouldn't have been able to learn had you stayed on the sidelines. 

Personally, I was at peace with the idea of renting a small room and eating rice for 10 years. I didn't give a shit and it worked out. If you stop caring about material success, status and comfort, you are free to do anything. 

[universe]

Live like your life could be over tomorrow, because it could.

On the other hand, dont be afraid of death. Why do you want a security net?

[ajasatya]

On 17/09/2018 at 4:12 PM, UDT said:

Where do you draw the line? Wishful thinking vs. your hearts calling

if you're willing to work REALLY HARD, that's a call from your heart.

if you're just complaining, blaming others or being impatient, that's wishful thinking.

[UDT]

On 9/17/2018 at 10:38 PM, Mezanti said:

@UDT Play it safe  but invest almost all your time searching for your passion, once you find that, slowly get out of your safety net and emerge yourself into your passion.You also cant not play it safe and not have an extreme work ethic, your work ethic is probably the most important thing.

thank you, this is gold. Somehow I saw it as a 0 or 1 decision. But that is wrong. "Playing safe" will give me more time searching for my entry point while at the same time it builds a better foundation. It is all about work ethic. That what makes or breaks it. Kudos to you. 

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You wanna make sure you strategize a way to profit off of your passion,

Yes. Otherwise it would only be trying to shortcut the process. It would be following the dreamy reamy 0.0001% lucky guy story,

Why? Delaying starting something and getting more education gives a

+Better foundational knowledge

+more open doors

+better network

+more experience

+better reputation when starting own business

 

Amen :-)

 

[Mezanti]

@UDT if your passion is music, let's just say, you can't just quit your job and decide to somehow make a living off of that,you will literally starve, you have to stay working your job meanwhile pursuing music, finding new tracks and paths, techniques, skills, marketing strategies, then slowly you become less dependant on your job because now you're getting an income from pursuing music, and then you can quit your job, to pursue it full time. This is what i mean by safety net, your safety net could also be your bank savings, where you have a supply of money that you can live off of for years until you get your passion in action. 

I think it would be foolish to buy into the notion of:

 "everything has to be on edge, i must not have a safety net because then i won't exert my full potential, to actualize my full potential I would have to simplify my  life down to either starve or succeed" 

See the ego when faced with such a choice will go unhinged, it will overwhelm you with fear and doubt, it will want more comfort than it ever had wanted before thus  exacerbating the challenge of pursuing your passion.

 

 

[Nahm]

@UDT Your life thus far is the absolute perfect unfolding, into the rest of your life. If you are looking for distinctions, divisions, etc, you’ll miss it. If you are open minded, seeing with eyes of inclusivity, ‘whole’ picture, unifying all the skills you’ve developed, all the expereince you’ve gained - well, ya just can’t miss it then. The variable, might be,.....(sorry)....fear & self doubt, surfacing via the ‘you must pick’ trick.