Video games is ruining my life

[ExodiaGearCEO]

I’ve sold my ps4, games, etc because it’s been distracting me and all it causes me to waste time and scream at the screen when I lose lol. I sold my games so I can focus on my business. Do not get me wrong I love video games. But, it’s been 5 months with out playing games and I’ve been having this biggest crave to play some video games right now! I keep hesitating going to amazon and buying me a controller for my PC. How do I stop this crave? Is it okay for me to play video games? Or should I give it up so I can be more productive? Am I making the right choice ?

Edited September 2, 2018 by ExodiaGearCEO

[exhale]

Just my opinion, but video games are the crack of the suburban life.  These games are designed to be viciously addictive, and extremely time consuming. 

It is not for me to say if you should or shouldn't play video games.  Given you already took the step to get rid of your gaming units shows you have already made that choice--good for you by the way!  You are in such an amazing place that you have already become aware of how toxic this activity is.  

You will not be sitting on your death bed wishing you played more video games.  Stick with it, see an addiction counsellor if needed.  

 

 

[RabbitHole]

Write yout business goals (can write all goals) on a page, write neccessary steps to get there. Then ask yourself, do I have time to play video games? Do they help me to move closer to my goals? Video games consume a looot of time that could be spent in many, more beneficial ways. Creating business takes dedication and saying no to 90% things you did before you started. I wouldn't suggest to allow you play "sometimes" as eventually you will play more and more. Just say to yourself: "My business is my main focus and I'll do whatever It takes to be successful". High discipline is what you need!

[RabbitHole]

5 minutes ago, Feel Good said:

@ExodiaGearCEO

I have this tendency to go all out with everything I do. 

When I quit smoking I did not take any work on for a month and went complete cold turkey.  It was a living nightmare and I would not wish that experience on my worst enemy. But it worked! I had tried weaning myself off of that addiction for a long time and was only teasing myself and prolonging my agony even further. 

I advise going cold turkey with your video game habit. Just live with the discomfort, start excersising and eating healthy and replace the bad addiction with a healthy one ~ it's better to be addicted to some thing healthy rather than unhealthy. In time your new healthy addiction will just become a way of life and you will be able to balance that with playing a video game once in a while because it's enjoyable way to relax rather than it being your life! 

Just want to highlight exercising, find yourself replacement for video games, arts, sports whatever that's beneficial for you. Now I have extra motivation to work on my business projects, because once I finish them I will have more time for sports

[Sage_Elias]

Become so inspired and busy with your life's mission that you no longer have time for playing video games

[ExodiaGearCEO]

@Feel Good wow nice! Going cold turkey will be very interesting. I hate the feeling of discomfort but your right I just have to get used to the feeling of discomfort. When I’m craving for video games.

 

[Shadowraix]

All in moderation.

Video game development is a career I have taken on out of passion (I feel we all have the drive to play God to access the universal intelligence) so it kind of goes hand in hand for me.

A lot of modern games are irresponsibly addicting and loaded behind microtransactions, but I find many games that try to convey something to be extremely beneficial for the mind. Story based games is an interactive book. Puzzle games can be stimulating. RPGs are about exploring and satisfying that sense of wonder and 'newness' competitive games satisfy a desire to improve and get better.

Video games can be an outlet for MANY innate desires to be expressed, but it becomes a problem when that becomes the only source of satisfying such desires.

[Solace]

The answer is simple. You must find something that fulfils you more than playing videos games does. Think of something exciting or relaxing you could do when the craving arises. 

For me, that was meditation. It takes me to a place of unconditional love, overwhelming love; and the desire to use something external no longer arises because I have found love, the end to all desires.

All desires are an attempt to use something external to feel more love. Once you can plug into the source of love directly, you will find that your life will naturally change into one of joy, bliss, and addiction free.

 

[pluto]

I still play video games time to time. Ultimately, there is no right or wrongs in what you do in life as long as you remain in awareness and as long as you don't attach a negative belief system to it that creates unnecessary suffering for self. If you are playing every day to escape and or fill the void then that is a different story but if you keep a balance and do all things one at a time, living moment to moment with what brings you most joy at any given moment then don't punish yourself for being a kid.

Sure there are usually far more interesting things out there playing the game of life but sometimes your somewhere doing something for some reason for a greater purpose, trust the process, accept and allow where to are and surrender to the natural flow.

All Is Well as All Is One

<3

[denydritz]

16 hours ago, Sage_Elias said:

Become so inspired and busy with your life's mission that you no longer have time for playing video games

I agree with this comment. Discover your vision, and works towards it, so that, by default, you don't play video games - not because you avoid it, not because you restrain yourself from it, but simply because you haven't played yet because you're flowing in your work.

It's not a matter of not playing video games. It's a matter of understanding the correct path that leads to the results you want. You could work on your business two hours a day and make a huge profit, if you understand the correct path. Playing video games an hour a day won't make you feel bad feelings if you know you are on the correct path.

Edited September 3, 2018 by denydritz

[Gabriel Antonio]

4 hours ago, denydritz said:

I agree with this comment. Discover your vision, and works towards it, so that, by default, you don't play video games - not because you avoid it, not because you restrain yourself from it, but simply because you haven't played yet because you're flowing in your work.

It's not a matter of not playing video games. It's a matter of understanding the correct path that leads to the results you want. You could work on your business two hours a day and make a huge profit, if you understand the correct path. Playing video games an hour a day won't make you feel bad feelings if you know you are on the correct path.

+1 

 

Investigate the underlying conditions of why you choose to play video-games so much. You have to change from the inside out. It's no use just seeing the symptoms, you should solve the causes of your addiction. Otherwise, even if you stop doing the behavior, the addiction will continue but to a different thing (such as porn, drugs, eating, etc.) 

[Igor82]

I have struggeled with video games for a while aswell.

The causes for addicting myself with Dota2 is that I lacked being social and knowing other people, and I guess I wanted to become good at something.

There is a fine line between being addicted to something and having that activity play a certain role in your life. For me, it was fulfilling social needs, ”having fun” = ”being social”

I was still addicted, but the thing that made me crave the video games even when I didnt play for 90 days was that I didnt fulfill my deficency need of being social, as good as the video games did for me.

Now I go with my bike to the nearby part at evenings, and sit to talk with random people... But I have to do this regularly, or elise the craving can overpower me in my weakest state.

 

Another thing is that awareness is curative! If you have found the perfect thing that would healthily replace your addiction, but you still crave the video games, then you still are addicted, physically.

I used to limit myself to a couple of hours on the evenings, but after a certain ammount of awareness, I could see how it affected me during my day, the spike of cravings that I got the day after, the more ”addicted” I felt in my present experience (fidgeting, lack of focus). I got aware of the process, and could connect dots to why the video games was not worth it in my present experience.

Now everytime I get a craving, this sole reason overpowers the craving, im more aware in a sense.

Its really hard to find a balance, so 

• Try to replace the underlying role of the video games with something better
• Be aware of how the addiction is affecting your life, using direct awareness of the process of playing games

 

 

 

[yuno44907]

Instead of playing games; you can spend time in youtube, google, forums, websites. Also if you playa game too much like 14 hours everyday for a week; you will memorize that game and no more play it. And DOTA 2 sucks; play League of Legends instead or other mobas because DOTA 2 doesnt have ability power, it has str int agi. DOTA 2 really sucks it is copy of a warcraft map it is from 20 years ago you know?

Also dont forget team based games suck because your team mates can ruin your game. Single player games suck because you are alone. Use your time in youtube. Work is important; money can be used for getting sex.

Also i play PokeMMO and Atlas Reactor; i like mind games. I left HeartStone because it is very illogical. Play CrossOut; you can build heavy vehicles or fast light vehicles, flying stuff; different weapons.

Use youtube, get smarter.

[bejapuskas]

@ExodiaGearCEO  Leo has a great video on this - Awareness alone is curative and How to overcome addiction. You just need to raise your body and mind consciousness and if you do so, you wont be able to play anymore, it will seem deluded... It took me some time, but I dont play video gams for quite some time and I was for sure a hard addict with my brother and friends being also hard addicts, so I was hard stuck. Hope it works for you!

[Shin]

Video games are one of the easiest and cheapest way to get hihg dopamine.

Ejaculation is even worst, because it cost literally nothing (except your life energy lul).

For those still addicted (try stopping for a month if you don't think you are), you need to be really conscious when you play, at some point you will feel how shallow and unsatisfying this hobby is.

Like everything in life it can be done with moderation, but for people who are addicted, the moderation approach rarely works.

And you have better things to do with your time anyway:

Meditation/Self-Inquiry/Physical exercices/Reading_Learning(school stuff doesn't counts)/Kriya Yoga/Being (Staying conscious) etc ...