Advice For RSD Beginner

[Space]

I’m 25 and have never really had any sort of relationship with a girl. My social skills in general suck because i’ve spent a large part of the past 2 years by myself. However I know that I can be quite confident, it just takes a lot of socialising and getting past those initial barriers. So I want to start taking some action towards getting this area of my life sorted. 

I’m quite familiar with RSD and all of the instructors etc. I’d like to get involved with them in some way. But like many guys i’ve watched a ton of videos but have taken very little action. So what is the general advice for someone in my position? Should I be looking into attending a bootcamp (quite limited options for instructors visiting my city - London). Or should I be going to some other live events? Should I be trying to do some day game? Should I be trying to go on dates using dating apps etc? 

[aurum]

13 minutes ago, Space said:

Should I be looking into attending a bootcamp (quite limited options for instructors visiting my city - London). Or should I be going to some other live events? Should I be trying to do some day game? Should I be trying to go on dates using dating apps etc? 

The very first thing I would be doing is deciding where the types of girls I want to meet are going. I don't know London specifically, but in most cities it's some sort of night club / lounge situation. Hint, if you find that these venues are hard to get into, that's a sign you're on the right track.

Second thing I would do is start cultivating your Instagram in a way that you want to be seen by the girl. Examples might be cool events you're going to in your life, travel, friends, etc. Then get every girl you meet to start following you on IG.

There's a lot more to be said but that's the five second basics.

[Hello from Russia]

Nice advice, aurum
I think for most of us folks here that are into spirituality appropriate girls can be found near meditation\yoga centers. I also have the wibe that with them you are able be more honest, intimate and non-manipulative, you don't have to use pickup tricks as much. They value truthfulness and authenticity much more. And that's great. For me this is the type of women i'm looking for. But of course, it's not all that airy fairy. They have egos and "stuff" aswell, especially if they follow some corrupted tradition. But still, I find it much more enjoable to relate to people who are on spiritual "path"

Edited August 22, 2018 by Hello from Russia

[Space]

15 minutes ago, aurum said:

The very first thing I would be doing is deciding where the types of girls I want to meet are going. I don't know London specifically, but in most cities it's some sort of night club / lounge situation. Hint, if you find that these venues are hard to get into, that's a sign you're on the right track.

Second thing I would do is start cultivating your Instagram in a way that you want to be seen by the girl. Examples might be cool events you're going to in your life, travel, friends, etc. Then get every girl you meet to start following you on IG.

There's a lot more to be said but that's the five second basics.

The issue is I don't know what type of girls I want to meet. I'm not sure I even know what that means. I think I just need a lot of exposure to all types of women first. 

[aurum]

36 minutes ago, Space said:

The issue is I don't know what type of girls I want to meet. I'm not sure I even know what that means. I think I just need a lot of exposure to all types of women first. 

Yeah I don't doubt that at all. But you have to start with something, even if it's just that you want girls that are physically attractive. That alone will cut through the clutter of where you should be spending your time. Then just keep getting more specific as you get more experience.

37 minutes ago, Hello from Russia said:

Nice advice, aurum
I think for most of us folks here that are into spirituality appropriate girls can be found near meditation\yoga centers. I also have the wibe that with them you are able be more honest, intimate and non-manipulative, you don't have to use pickup tricks as much. They value truthfulness and authenticity much more. And that's great. For me this is the type of women i'm looking for. But of course, it's not all that airy fairy. They have egos and "stuff" aswell, especially if they follow some corrupted tradition. But still, I find it much more enjoable to relate to people who are on spiritual "path"

If that is working for you, fantastic. But I've really found just the opposite.

What I see is that most girls who are on the spiritual path are usually not attractive. There are exceptions, but the reality is that you're way to more likely to meet a hot girl at Cochella or Art Basel than at your stereotypical meditation center.

Does that mean physical attractiveness is everything? Not at all. But I'm not going to settle for girls who aren't my ideal type physically either.

[brugluiz]

@aurum advices are gold. When I sticked with RSD teachings, I used to have relationships with any girl. Now I see how important it is to be aware of what type of girl I want.

But, in order to know what type of girl you want, you also need to know yourself.

[Leo Gura]

@Space Find an experienced wing in your city who you can roll with. Ask him to show you the ropes.

London is like the most the over-populated city of PUAs and you are complaining about limited options?

[Space]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

@Space Find an experienced wing in your city who you can roll with. Ask him to show you the ropes.

London is like the most the over-populated city of PUAs and you are complaining about limited options?

Thanks for the feedback. I'll look into contacting some peeps.

Yea I just meant specifically RSD instructors visiting London for bootcamps. 

[tenta]

It's not inherent social skills/personality that attract girls if you just want to have sex, get to a low bodyfat, get a haircut and show that you are confident

Edited August 23, 2018 by tenta

[Lynnel]

14 hours ago, Hello from Russia said:

Nice advice, aurum
I think for most of us folks here that are into spirituality appropriate girls can be found near meditation\yoga centers. I also have the wibe that with them you are able be more honest, intimate and non-manipulative, you don't have to use pickup tricks as much. They value truthfulness and authenticity much more. And that's great. For me this is the type of women i'm looking for. But of course, it's not all that airy fairy. They have egos and "stuff" aswell, especially if they follow some corrupted tradition. But still, I find it much more enjoable to relate to people who are on spiritual "path"

There are no pick up "tricks" you're talking about. Those date from like 30 years ago. Demonizing orange pick up is a very blueish thing to do because it goes directly against the social order and the family unit.

Those "green" girls you're talking about are often very amateurish even the most green amongst them. That means they're gonna have green values but still be very orange based on consumerism and their sexual partners. Are they gonna do some charity and give poor people food ? Yes. Are they gonna give their vagina's to people in need ? NOPE. Green doesn't mean you can freely discard orange - like completely delete orange and paint over it with green beautiful hills and pretend everything is magic and "doing" doesn't exist anymore. Again Orange/Green 50/50 people are very prevalent and that's the most a human will achieve in his lifetime if he doesn't do any hardcore practices regularly nor study spiral dynamics. Having a healthy level or blue/orange/green requires a LOT of work for instance. Please be careful not to idealize those people too much because you're gonna be in for a rude awakening. Of course green is more open than a repressed blue/orange girl but that's not the point - ideally you want someone wanting to work up the whole spiral with you, now that would be a relationshipgoals worthy # : let's climb the spiral together

[Hello from Russia]

6 minutes ago, Lynnel said:

ideally you want someone wanting to work up the whole spiral with you, now that would be a relationshipgoals worthy # : let's climb the spiral together

That would be a dream

[tenta]

5 minutes ago, Lynnel said:

There are no pick up "tricks" you're talking about. Those date from like 30 years ago. Demonizing orange pick up is a very blueish thing to do because it goes directly against the social order and the family unit.

Those "green" girls you're talking about are often very amateurish even the most green amongst them. That means they're gonna have green values but still be very orange based on consumerism and their sexual partners. Are they gonna do some charity and give poor people food ? Yes. Are they gonna give their vagina's to people in need ? NOPE. Green doesn't mean you can freely discard orange - like completely delete orange and paint over it with green beautiful hills and pretend everything is magic and "doing" doesn't exist anymore. Again Orange/Green 50/50 people are very prevalent and that's the most a human will achieve in his lifetime if he doesn't do any hardcore practices regularly nor study spiral dynamics. Having a healthy level or blue/orange/green requires a LOT of work for instance. Please be careful not to idealize those people too much because you're gonna be in for a rude awakening. Of course green is more open than a repressed blue/orange girl but that's not the point - ideally you want someone wanting to work up the whole spiral with you, now that would be a relationshipgoals worthy # : let's climb the spiral together

 

Green is not prevalent at all, like the comment above said, that is just a dream

[Omario]

@Space make sure you  have a nice physique as well.