Fill the distance

[F A B]

What do you think about long distance relationship?

I have known this girl for two weeks. We like each other and we already have a good intimacy. I’m 20 and I can see her about six times a year, one of which for a whole month during the summer. Is it sustainable?

In general, I’m not looking for a particular serious relationship, I feel I’m too young to engage in that kind of stuff, but I really like her and I know it would be difficult to find someone else who fits me so well.

[Truth]

Well, pertaining to long distance relationships --> I think it's best to let them go and do their thing. then if she comes back around and she doesn't have anything serious going on and you don't either then you guys can have a good time, but then again you two have only known each other two weeks. How detached is she? How attached is she? Does she seem like she wants a serious/long distance relationship? Or is her thinking like your thinking?

The bottom line is, as the man/leader of the relationship --> Figure out where she stands and where you stand and decide what is best for BOTH of you. 

Edited August 17, 2018 by Truth

[aurum]

2 hours ago, F A B said:

but I really like her and I know it would be difficult to find someone else who fits me so well.

Is that you, or is that your scarcity talking?

[F A B]

12 hours ago, Truth said:

 I think it's best to let them go and do their thing. then if she comes back around and she doesn't have anything serious going on and you don't either then you guys can have a good time

Actually, I used to think like that too, but now I'm a little confused.

12 hours ago, Truth said:

How detached is she? How attached is she? Does she seem like she wants a serious/long distance relationship? Or is her thinking like your thinking?

She is really attached to me and she wants to commit. She wishes me to call her every day, but I set for about two phone calls a week because I don't want us to be so clingy. Fortunatly, she understood and accepted that.

10 hours ago, aurum said:

Is that you, or is that your scarcity talking?

Nice question. You mean scarcity of women, right?

I'm a good looking guy and I know lots of girls. Scarcity is not my problem. Quality is my problem.

Edited August 18, 2018 by F A B

[Truth]

3 hours ago, F A B said:

She is really attached to me and she wants to commit. She wishes me to call her every day, but I set for about two phone calls a week because I don't want us to be so clingy. Fortunatly, she understood and accepted that.

I'd say tread carefully, especially since you're way more detached than she is.

Its really good that she accepted it and understood. Girls ultimately want to become the right girl for you. 

But its you're job to know when the timing is off or if things aren't gonna work out ultimately and to say something about it otherwise you're gonna have some problems.