Sex drive / Sexual Energy lead to urges for release

[Leo Kaminski]

Hey Guys, yesterday I posted a question and got some pretty nice feedback! So I am doing it today again!

Just to let you know. I have read Superior man several times and also the enlightening sex manual, but this one just ones. I need to say David Deida is a great teacher but I am far away from really getting and truly understanding a lot of the stuff he is talking about. 

So my question:

I am a young guy and as almost everybody in my early teenage years I used to watch a lot of porn and fap on pretty regular bases. So I guess this is still in my system from my past. After that time there came a big time in my life of kind of getting control about those urges and behaviors which I more or less have today.

But there is one problem left and it seems as if I don't find a sustainable solution to it. The problem is high level of sexual energy. So of course I am not horny all day or so, but I notice that at some days there is a steady tension that is not really located on any part of my body, but that wants to get out and the usual sign for that is urges to fap. I was just curious what some of you guys think about it. I mean fapping is always a solution as well as resisting the urges and not doing it. At the moment I am taking the second approach also since I am living together with my girl and we have sex most days of the week. So it is definitely nothing physical that my body needs to release, since there are a lot of times per week that it has the chance. 

I am especially interested in what you guys experienced in the past or so about releasing energy?

[Arkandeus]

if you're not with someone then definitely release the energy as it naturally wants to

in your case you are with someone so it becomes different

in my opinion it depends on your energy levels

I've had moments in my life where masturbation would empty my energy levels out, leaving me on a low energy threshold for days and in those times it was unwise to masturbate if a girl was present in my life, it would leave nothing for moments with the girl simply

I've read that women can masturbate freely because their energetic body is built as such that they recuperate the sexual energy they release, whether thats how it goes or not I dont know but the fact is that women get less depleted energy-wise after sex

for myself I have seen huge improvements, to be honest I simply kept masturbing, losing energy, building it back up and so on, to the present day where if I release sexual energy I am barely depleted and this does leave me space to combine self-release with a relationship with a girl buts its a careful balance

this may be your case as well, so I would say there is no clear cut answer, masturbate, see how it affects your relationship with your girl, if its bad, masturbate less, or dont do it at all, and try again later, its careful balance

one thing is clear, energy is infinite and unlimited, the more you release your sexual energy the better you get at building it back up and even more then before, this is what my personal path is, there is no limits, and whats not possible yesterday, may be possible now

and once you get at a certain level, masturbation will make sex with your girlfriend even better, because each time you release, alone or together, you build your energy up more optimally and intensely then before, to levels higher then before

Edited August 7, 2018 by Arkandeus

[Leo Kaminski]

That's a nice answer! Appreciate it! 

I got say that I somehow still hold some inner judgements against masturbating. Maybe it is from my earlier "No Fap" days or so. But I noticed that this denial of it does not help to find a sustainable and holistic solution to the whole topic of energy release (especially sexual energy). 

Also I am actually pretty interested in the whole topic of sexual energy and using it by circulating and stuff like that, but I just feel so insensitive to this stuff. So that I often when I notice energy is building up just go for the all know release through masturbating.

But love the attitude you presented @Arkandeus as well as the way you explained the building up and releasing it cycle!

[Martin123]

7 hours ago, Leo Kaminski said:

I got say that I somehow still hold some inner judgements against masturbating. Maybe it is from my earlier "No Fap" days or so. But I noticed that this denial of it does not help to find a sustainable and holistic solution to the whole topic of energy release (especially sexual energy). 

There is actually a really big thing on the spiritual journey, where you cant help but do the things you consider "bad" or the ones you "shouldnt be doing" to do the whole spirituality thing "right".
I had that going on for me a lot with addictions, I would stay clear of them for weeks sometimes, and then I would get INSANE cravings, and the thing I was actually clearing was my guilt and judgement about it.

You seem to be pretty on point with it, trust your instincts its gonna unfold well for you. :-) 

[non_nothing]

There're communities out there one is nofap community on reddit

[Leo Kaminski]

@Martin123 This whole spiritual Journey thing sounds pretty interesting! You seem to have done a lot shadow work. I know this is not easy so want to tell you that I appreciate this!

@non_nothing This whole nofap approach is as it is done by a lot of people on reddit etc. not the direction I want to go. I feel those people sometimes come from a place of motivation I don't share anymore. But that was just my experience. Do you had any special advice in mind about the whole nofap thing?

 

[Martin123]

@Leo Kaminski Thank you youre very kind.