How do you talk with egos?

[nethernalbeing]

Howdy Everyone!

I hope you're doing well on your pathless path

There's one thing that's been bugging me for a while. I know deeply now that nothing really matters. That really stripped my ego of a need to talk about "myself" and "my story". Knowing that however is making "me" really disinterested in conversations. People talk so much about themselves and their problems seem really "childish" to me. I treat it as a blessing - which shows me how to potentially help someone or remind me of the traps of ego. In the end unfortunately feelings of being "boring" and being an "uninteresting" person to talk to bubble up. Of course meditation and sitting with the feeling help me in a way. It's tough however to have the sensation of turning into a lifeless husk

Any advice would be very appreciated. Thanks in advance. Love you all!

 

 

[Nahm]

@nethernalbeing

It seems your awareness has grown and encompasses meaninglessness, but if you continue, you’ll see it encompasses creation too. 

“Turning to a lifeless husk” - that’s meaning, let it go.

You were perfectly made to be you, so be you. 

[nethernalbeing]

Thank you for your reply. I'll try to let it go. Could you explain being "me"? I always succumb to a trap while conversing. It seems to me like talking itself is meaningless and by doing it I somehow "fall back" to my ego.

[Joseph Maynor]

The best way to talk with Egos is to realize that you have Ego too.  The only difference is you're not as chained to Ego like most people are.  Also, realize that Ego is not personal: that happens when you transcend the 'Paradigm of Self'.  Ego is just part of what's here -- it's not good or bad.  When you accept what is in the moment, there is no more fighting with BE-ing in terms of should dos or should do nots.  I credit Mooji with the phrase 'should dos or should do nots', I like that.  I think the best way to think about Ego is to realize you have Ego too.  That's why you can become compassionate.  The only difference between you and them is they're more asshole-to-bellybutton with their Ego than you are with yours due to their clinging to the 'Paradigm of Self'.

Edited August 4, 2018 by Joseph Maynor

[nethernalbeing]

15 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

The best way to talk with Egos is to realize that you have Ego too.  The only difference is you're not as chained to Ego like most people are.  Also, realize that Ego is not personal -- that happens when you transcend the 'Paradigm of Self'.  Ego is just part of what's here -- it's not good or bad.  When you accept what is in the moment, there is no more fighting with BE-ing in terms of should dos or should do nots.  I credit Mooji with the phrase 'should dos or should do nots', I like that.  I think the best way to think about Ego is to realize you have Ego too.  That's why you can become compassionate.  The only difference between you and them is they're more asshole-to-belly-button with their Ego than you are with yours due to their clinging to the 'Paradigm of Self'.

"Asshole-to-belly-button" awesome stuff my friend. Appreciate the wisdom. Will definitely apply this reasoning. Thank you so much!

[Arkandeus]

only ego sees ego

overcoming your own ego is the first step

now overcome the ego of everyone you meet, no matter what their background

do not hear ego, hear life

 

 

[WelcometoReality]

1 hour ago, nethernalbeing said:

I treat it as a blessing - which shows me how to potentially help someone or remind me of the traps of ego. In the end unfortunately feelings of being "boring" and being an "uninteresting" person to talk to bubble up.

As long as you listen to people and without judgment people are going to enjoy your company. Because most people don't care about you but of themselves and if you pay attention to them you are going to make there day.

But these feelings of being uninteresting and boring, maybe you should look into that?

 

[nethernalbeing]

Will meditate on them. They show up when somebody asks me about "me". I usually respond with: "everything's ok". They expect me to add something and I have nothing else to say. I'd rather spend this time just being with them but we live on a different paradigm.