The labels "Introvert"/"Extrovert" are ABSURD and DISRUPTIVE!

[Leo Gura]

14 hours ago, smurf88 said:

I remember a while ago you had made a few videos about the idea that the enlightened person should be able to sit in a room by themselves for the rest of their life and be happy. Do you still believe this to be the case? Is it something that is attainable?

An enlightened person can do that. Because with enlightenment you will realize that there is no one in this universe but yourself. You are all alone. And this isn't a problem. It's perfect.

Then again, don't use this as some excuse to not learn how to interact with people.

Be careful about taking on enlightenment insights without first having experienced enlightenment. You cannot fake your way to enlightenment. It's better to admit wherever you currently are rather than trying to act in ways which you haven't developed to yet.

Nor should enlightenment be pursued for silly purposes like: "I want to be happy on an island all by myself." If that happens, it will happen naturally AFTER awakening.

Be careful not to try to achieve post-awakening results pre-awakening. Post-awakening results only come post-awakening.

[Tistepiste]

@Leo Gura I don't really agree with that statement. Ok, extroverts usually have more friends and can more easily talk to people, it doesn't mean they don't have as many close friends as introverts would have.

For me for example, I have 3-4 very close and deep friendships, and lots of other more "shallow" friendships. It's more like an and/and instead of or/or

On 8/5/2018 at 11:00 PM, Leo Gura said:

You gotta keep in mind that introversion/extroversion is a spectrum. Many people are somewhere in the middle.

For me, I am very introverted and have been my whole life. Yet most people who meet me face to face would think I am an extrovert because one-on-one I can get very animated and go into a deep conversation with some close friend. But I am terrible at small talk or meeting new people because the shallowness of it bores me and drains my energy.

For me, the introversion label fits perfectly. And I know others whom it fits perfectly too. And I also know extroverts who are just the opposite: they go into a bar and light up like a Christmas tree. As an introvert I just can't do that. Small talk wears me out. I need quiet intimate environments, not noisy clubs or bars.

All that said, I can still push myself to go to a bar and be extroverted. It just feels very unnatural.

So a lot this has to do with what feels most natural to you.

Would you rather have 100 friends who you rarely have a deep conversation with, or 3 really close friends? Extroverts tend to have 100s of friends, so many they don't even have time to meet them for more than 10 minutes. An introvert will have a couple good friends but spend hours talking to them.

Of course, as with all theories, categories, and models, don't let it limit you. Use it to deepen your understanding, and if it doesn't help you do that, throw it away. For me it's a handy distinction which explains how I tend to act.

 

[UDT]

On 05/08/2018 at 11:00 PM, Leo Gura said:

But I am terrible at small talk or meeting new people because the shallowness of it bores me and drains my energy.

You know this is because you actually think to know that they would not accept you if you open up and show your real uniqueness. Of course then faking drains your energy. Why do you think everyone else loves small talk? Do you think you are this unique snowflake that no one will ever understand, ah thats not true, see the world as it is. You are it, you created it, then create it!

Edited August 16, 2018 by UDT