Erection disappears when I try to have sex

[Marinus]

On 25-7-2018 at 4:50 PM, SFRL said:

@Marinus yeah don't do that, you are like 18? You can damage your dick taking Viagra at your age. I am serious. 

You are either too nervous or not sexual compatible with that girl. It is what it is. 

Honestly when you only tried to have sex like 4 times you don't even know how too move your ass right yet. More practice. 

I'm really overthinking a lot. I'm 21.

[SFRL]

9 hours ago, Marinus said:

I'm really overthinking a lot. I'm 21.

The first time sex is not a great experience for most people. 

It takes practice like everything else.

9 hours ago, Marinus said:

@ajasatya   Not too long, a week at the moment. I had a period of 1 year when I didn't watch, but I used dating apps to chat with girls, which felt like a replacement.

Sounds like a great idea! Why aren't many guys not good at this?

@Scholar

Idk. They probably haven't practiced licking it alot or are not into it. 

It's probably like this. Me for instance I am an ass man. Boobs they don't do a whole lot for me. But women with big boobs they always seem to be in love with their boobs. "Baby play with my boobs suck on them". And I am like, I want to play with your ass. But that's just a fact from my life for your entertainment. 

Practice licking it. Also practice fingering her. Sit behind her, her sitting between your legs, and rub her clit. Run circles over it with your finger tips or up and down. Lube her up with her own fluids or spit on your fingers whatever you need to do. 

My reasoning has always been if she has fun your fun will follow. Plus I think it's fun to get them all horny.

Also try putting her on all fours and fuck her doggystyle. A different position might give you better results.

9 hours ago, Marinus said:

@ajasatya

@Scholar

Sorry for the fucked up layout my phone sucks with this. 

Edited July 28, 2018 by SFRL

[stephensam]

Today more youths want to have more sex and fun with their partners. But sometimes they are failed to understand the real relationship. The mutual relationship is not based on only with physical, it is based on with the mind. Both physical and mental is mingle with each other to gives the best relationship. Few people are using the Kamagra 100mg to boost the erection power and extend their relationship hour. But my suggestion for maintaining the erection in a good way, try to keep a smooth relationship with your partner. Avoid the bad lifestyle and quit to watching the porn film. Following the natural food diet system. It will support to keep the body healthy and also increase the sexual power in the best way, without making any side effects.  

[Shroomdoctor]

@Marinus

Did you solve that problem?

Edited November 21, 2018 by Shroomdoctor

[outlandish]

On 7/25/2018 at 6:33 PM, SFRL said:

@Marinus I forgot to mention, but instead of putting all the focus on your dick, practice ways to get her off. 

Get to licking her pussy (focus on her clit, not just the clit, but that's the prime spot) , and get good at that, lots of practice. You get good at that she will love you for it. 

Before you do anything else, go down on her. There are not too many guys who are good at that. 

Some girls are really ticklish and can't stand oral, prefer being fingered or just being rooted with your dick when it's ready. Just putting that out there in case any one ends up with one of these girls haha! Don't be fixed on the idea that she must like oral cause some girls just don't. Most do though. 

@Marinus another thing to look at that I think no one's mentioned: are you sexually attracted to your partner? Your dick isn't a machine that you turn on and off, make sure you're genuinely into her and that the chemistry is there. If not perhaps you should move on.

[SFRL]

22 minutes ago, outlandish said:

Some girls are really ticklish and can't stand oral, prefer being fingered or just being rooted with your dick when it's ready. Just putting that out there in case any one ends up with one of these girls haha! Don't be fixed on the idea that she must like oral cause some girls just don't. Most do though. 

@Marinus another thing to look at that I think no one's mentioned: are you sexually attracted to your partner? Your dick isn't a machine that you turn on and off, make sure you're genuinely into her and that the chemistry is there. If not perhaps you should move on.

I never met a girl that don't like oral. 

I have met girls that claim beforehand that they don't like it, but that's because they never had a good experience. 

They might be ticklish but there are many ways to lick it. 

If they claim to be ticklish I think it's more because they are uncomfortable with the situation. 

It's actually amazing how many guys aparently have no ideas to please a woman. 

I have met women like 30 years old who tell me they never had an orgasm with a guy. Or only like once or twice in their lives. 

 

On the flip side I also find that there is a correlation between women that play with themselves and their personalities. 

Women that regularly masturbate they tend to have much nicer and easier going personalities them women that don't. 

 

Edited November 21, 2018 by SFRL

[outlandish]

22 minutes ago, SFRL said:

I never met a girl that don't like oral. 

I have met girls that claim beforehand that they don't like it, but that's because they never had a good experience. 

They might be ticklish but there are many ways to lick it. 

If they claim to be ticklish I think it's more because they are uncomfortable with the situation. 

It's actually amazing how many guys aparently have no ideas to please a woman. 

I have met women like 30 years old who tell me they never had an orgasm with a guy. Or only like once or twice in their lives. 

 

On the flip side I also find that there is a correlation between women that play with themselves and their personalities. 

Women that regularly masturbate they tend to have much nicer and easier going personalities them women that don't. 

 

I've been with a woman who just can't handle it, it's like tickle torture for her. It might be because she's uncomfortable with it, but I doubt it because she's into all kinds of other stuff that more prudish women wouldn't admit to like anal, masturbation, whatever weird thing I come up with. She has no problems with orgasm and loves giving oral, so no big deal. Every once in a while we'd try again and she just wasn't into it, which was fine. Different strokes for different folks so to speak right? Maybe I just suck at giving oral, but I don't think that's it either because other women love it, and she never liked it from other men either. Still I did always wonder if I could crack that egg.

[SFRL]

7 minutes ago, outlandish said:

I've been with a woman who just can't handle it, it's like tickle torture for her. It might be because she's uncomfortable with it, but I doubt it because she's into all kinds of other stuff that more prudish women wouldn't admit to like anal, masturbation, whatever weird thing I come up with. She has no problems with orgasm and loves giving oral, so no big deal. Every once in a while we'd try again and she just wasn't into it, which was fine. Different strokes for different folks so to speak right? Maybe I just suck at giving oral, but I don't think that's it either because other women love it, and she never liked it from other men either. Still I did always wonder if I could crack that egg.

Well anything is possible I guess. 

I personally don't like getting my dick sucked by most girls. 

A few were awesome at it. But the majority of the girls I don't think do a great job at it. 

[outlandish]

1 minute ago, SFRL said:

Well anything is possible I guess. 

I personally don't like getting my dick sucked by most girls. 

A few were awesome at it. But the majority of the girls I don't think do a great job at it. 

That's funny. I never liked getting my dick sucked either until I met this girl. She should probably teach the art she's so damn good at it.. 

[SFRL]

13 minutes ago, outlandish said:

That's funny. I never liked getting my dick sucked either until I met this girl. She should probably teach the art she's so damn good at it.. 

Yeah I have been thinking about that as well. 

To get a girl who is good at it. And then she can give 1 on 1 workshops and perform on me. While the student girl is watching. And then they can take turns. 

Ofcourse we would keep the price of these workshops low. Not to be greedy. So these workshops would be accessible to many girls. For the greater good of humanity. 

[outlandish]

2 minutes ago, SFRL said:

Yeah I have been thinking about that as well. 

To get a girl who is good at it. And then she can give 1 on 1 workshops and perform on me. While the student girl is watching. And then they can take turns. 

Ofcourse we would keep the price of these workshops low. Not to be greedy. So these workshops would be accessible to many girls. For the greater good of humanity. 

Haha I need that cry-laughing emoji rn.

[Marinus]

Tomorrow I am on my nofap streak of 5 weeks and since I am less worried which makes it easier to have an errection. Porn and masterbating kept my drive on a low level. My penis hates condoms so after putting it on I need to be fast. The one magic trick is oral when he flattens otherwise I will not be able to get an erection with a condom. Without it works fine most of the time. 

At the moment I feel like flatlining. I have not many fantasies or desires atm. Thx for the interest btw. 

[SFRL]

@Marinus

Start lifting/and or other physical exercises. Running, push-ups, martial-arts etc. Whatever you like. 

[Spiral]

@Marinus Get bigger condoms 

[Shroomdoctor]

Fuuuuuuuck. I had the most cute, hot girl in my bed last night. She was totally my type. I knew I had the same problems, so I just straight out told her and took some viagra. She was totally cool with that. And then I freaking couldn't put it in. Anxiety came back instantly and erection dissapeared like a popped balloon. 

 

@Marinus

If you figure this out I will personally suck you off  

Edited November 24, 2018 by Shroomdoctor

[ZZZZ]

I've had experience with this off and on for a short period as well. It's almost certainly psycological, but there are several things that will help. Ultimately, once you get past it and things begin to "work" as they should, the problem tends to work itself out (at least with the same partner). You may just need a good win to get your head right. You will remember the feeling and satisfaction next time, which will help keep you on track. The anxiety of a new partner or further disappointment also comes into play here, which you will want to learn how to eliminate. Another thing I realized is that often times you either do not know what you want to stay stimulated, or she does not know. You have to be a bit selfish in this regard and keep yourself going somehow. Once you're actually doing the deed, things seem to go into autopilot at that point.

Condoms used to cause me a lot of issue here... Finding it, taking it out, figuring out which way to orient it, and then aw shit you are too distracted and back to square one with a floppy tube of latex in the way. On the other side of the token, finding a "go-to" activity you enjoy will ensure that you can get back on track or get going just before you need to perform. 

Limit porn, get generally more comfortable with your partner, don't blame yourself (or anything else), and just stay lighthearted about it all. It happens to the best of us. There's nothing wrong with you. Women used to get so self conscious about not being attractive enough etc. when this used to happen to me, and it would only make things worse. Familiarity is the key; with yourself and what you like, and with your partner (assuming you are genuinely attracted).

 

EDIT: I just read your responses and you sound exactly like me. Use bigger condoms if you need them. Trojan magnums are my go-to. Don't be afraid to ask for head or "a hand" prior to putting it on so you can make that perilous transition. Some girls don't understand men need lubrication too. You'll get it worked out eventually.

Edited November 25, 2018 by ZZZZ

[RareGodzilla]

I had similar emberesments at one point. Preformence anxiety is a real problem so most of your trubles are in your head. 

Edited November 27, 2018 by RareGodzilla

[non_nothing]

Quick tips:

- Eliminate mast all together especially when having a GF that performs sex

- Quit watching porn (if you quit already, the counteractive thing would be to watch porn together? and when things get hot just keep the focus on the action)

- Start working out/ going gym

- Eliminate sugar

- Eat healthy

- Do intermediate fasting/ (from personal experience, my libido sky rockets when fasted state, if not goes to jupiter after workout with fasted state)

- Talk to your GF about this/ be open/ 

- Don't talk to this your GF/ don't be open/

- Do dangerous things, maybe try doing public sex or do naughty things in public with your GF having in mind fear of getting caught.

[zambize]

2 hours ago, non_nothing said:

Quick tips:

- Eliminate mast all together especially when having a GF that performs sex

- Quit watching porn (if you quit already, the counteractive thing would be to watch porn together? and when things get hot just keep the focus on the action)

- Start working out/ going gym

- Eliminate sugar

- Eat healthy

- Do intermediate fasting/ (from personal experience, my libido sky rockets when fasted state, if not goes to jupiter after workout with fasted state)

- Talk to your GF about this/ be open/ 

- Don't talk to this your GF/ don't be open/

- Do dangerous things, maybe try doing public sex or do naughty things in public with your GF having in mind fear of getting caught.

"Eliminate mast all together especially when having a GF that performs sex" 

I agree and disagree with this, for him this might be good advice.  If I'm having sex everyday and then my GF or whoever i'm having sex with leaves for 2-3 days, and they come back and I've blue balled it for 3 days.  I'd be lucky if I got my pants down

[Privet]

@Marinus Two suggestions.

1) Get comfortable. Don't rush. Maybe take a shower together. Stay naked together in the room for like half an hour or so or even more, just stay there and let each other experience vulnerability of being naked until it doesn't feel unusual. Maybe try to massage each other when naked. Or lay in the bed on your back hugging each other and ask her to tickle your dick and balls or something. DO NOT TRY to get aroused, just let her explore the sausage and it will happen spontaneously. There's no rush, that's not an exam or test, you're not in a life and death situation, you just want to give each other pleasure.

2) Try to embarrass yourself jokingly. Say something like "SHIT! I'M SCARED AS FUCK! LET'S FUCK THIS SHIT UP! I'M GONNA FAAAAAAAAAIL!" and just make fun of yourself. If she's supportive she'll understand, try to laugh together at this, that's not a big deal, you know, you'll be fine.

And of course the most important thing: it's NOT an embarrassing problem at all. I've heard shit ton of stories about that and it's very natural.

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Oh shi-, the topic is old, I guess you're fine already.

Edited December 2, 2018 by Privet