Hate Chitchat When It Is Bullshit

[Guest]

I always try to find an external enemy nowadays because the ego is desperatly searching for something but not within. When I spend time with people and most of the talk is just nonsense. I judge the bullshit talk and I automatically feel like I am in the wrong place. I don't need to talk too much. Talking is okay. But I don't think that I need to say anything when I hear bullshit like: "Oh she is so stupid. She will see how good I perform in comparison to her." It feels like this talk about jealousy and comparison  is triggering my own emotions from this direction and that makes me feel like it drags me down or something.
 Often I also feel attacked when there is just too much chitchat going on. Like all I want is peace, but I won't get it in this moment.

I know that I can do whatever I want. I don't have to participate in a dialogue. But how far should I go. Should I go away or should I change my mindset so that the chitchat won't hit me anymore?

[Falk]

16 minutes ago, wasabelll said:

I always try to find an external enemy nowadays because the ego is desperatly searching for something but not within. When I spend time with people and most of the talk is just nonsense. I judge the bullshit talk and I automatically feel like I am in the wrong place. I don't need to talk too much. Talking is okay. But I don't think that I need to say anything when I hear bullshit like: "Oh she is so stupid. She will see how good I perform in comparison to her." It feels like this talk about jealousy and comparison  is triggering my own emotions from this direction and that makes me feel like it drags me down or something.
 Often I also feel attacked when there is just too much chitchat going on. Like all I want is peace, but I won't get it in this moment.

I know that I can do whatever I want. I don't have to participate in a dialogue. But how far should I go. Should I go away or should I change my mindset so that the chitchat won't hit me anymore?

Go away, don´t expose yourself to negative input! Trust me you don´t want that.

There are good people/ new friends out there. You will find them.

Making the decision to head away from gossip is the first step in the right direction, not only to better conversation but to a better life.

 

[Evilwave Heddy]

When I hear my friends gossiping or bitching about someone I'd usually ask them not to.  I'd ask them if they would like to be bitched about or what is the point of it all.  I'd then follow up with something else completely off topic to change the conversation from bitching/gossiping.  If they continue however, I'd switch myself off and think about something else or leave.

The first time I switched off they asked, "Why have you gone so quiet?" and I just told them I'm not taking part in their bitching session.  Now whenever I do it they say, "Hey look, he's daydreaming again." Lol  They usually shift conversation after they say this though which is good. (:

[Clay]

Throughout life, there will be many people that say many things that you will not like. But everyone who speaks wishes to be heard. So I will try to bear with them and at least try to acknowledge their statements (.e.g "Oh, I see"), without making efforts to contribute anymore to the conversation at hand. If you are constantly disinterested by conversations with a specific person, even after attempts to steer the conversations a different way, then you should make efforts to talk to them less.