Little rant: "We are all recovering addicts"  We are all recovering from different types of addiction. Addiction to food, addiction to cigarettes, addiction to searching, addiction to information, addiction to drama....  We've all been doped with it from birth, and we are drugging our kids with it too. A point comes (or not) when you decide that there's more to life than this addiction to different things. This is where the quest begins.  Old paradigm of getting rid of addiction was to stuff it someplace. Kill it. Block it. (only to have it surfacing into something else) Could it be possible for you to consider embracing it fully?  Here's a process I propose to you:  Let's say that you're called Mary and you're addicted to sugar.  The only reason Mary goes to the sugar cabinet is because this is the way she always dealt with a certain type of a feeling in her body. It's a neuronal path that is so walked on, that it feels natural for body to reach for the sugar when the feeling comes.  Instead of going to the sugar, immediately sit down and see what it is that your body feels. Write it down. Write down what is happening if you chose not to go there. Let's say that what comes up is: "if I don't go for the sugar (alcohol, smokes, drama, lying, drugs etc), I feel alone and misunderstood." Can you see little Mary as a child being alone and misunderstood? Can you give her your adult hand and comfort her? Can you tell her it is OK to go for the sugar as a self-love act towards herself? It is, ultimately an act of love to soothe any pain that comes.  Here comes the interesting part   Do you, adult Mary feel too weak to help little Mary? Shift your focus! Look at adult Mary from a few feet up. See her body. See her struggling. See her drama. Soothe adult Mary from a "vibrational" standpoint.  In the end, it should look like this: Adult Mary's left hand is keeping little Mary's hand tight, soothing her. Adult Mary's right hand is in BIG Mary's hand soothing her. A chain is created. A chain of love. Look for something smaller than little Mary and for something bigger than big Mary. Link everything.  If worked properly, this is a VERY powerful tool. Any time a frustration comes, reach out for both little and big YOU. Soothe and let yourself be soothed. Mentally understanding what is going on never solved anything. Those instances are only there to teach you absolute love. It is not a logic exercise.  Will probably write more on this someday