How can you be sure your goals in life aren't arbitrary?

[JohnLeyo]

**Warning this answer might change your subjective way of thinking towards your goals**

• If waking up in the morning doesn't require an alarm..
• If getting ready soon enough without wasting time on your useless newsfeed has become your habit..
• If you close your eyes and you see just the dream you always saw..
• If you keep on thinking about better ways which will bring u close to your goals in efficient way..
• If people around you say “ Bhai kya ho gya h tereko..sb kuch bhul gaye ho..” (brother what has happened to you..you are ignoring everything in life)
• If small talks, TV's, group out's are no where exciting now..
• If going to sleep is nowhere a concern anymore..
• If the goals you have set will bring a positive disruptment in your and your loved one’s lives..
• If the goals doesn't really require any kind of motivation to push your limits everyday..
• If you have the same rush towards your goals in your most adrenalined moment or in the most lethargic moment..
• When u go to your bed and your dreams have no space except for that one single dream..
• & my friend if this answer made u nod at every point..

Then you are on the right path..don’t let anything stop you..

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Finally I Recommend You to Start with this 14-STEP GOAL- SETTING GUIDE by Brian Tracy

[NoSelfSelf]

I love this post tnx

[denydritz]

Hi John, I am currently learning about arbitrary goals. It seems we easily fall into the trap of setting arbitrary goals (such as $XXX,XXX per year income). I feel that any dream that has a form may be an arbitrary goal (one that doesn't have a solid reason WHY we should reach that goal).

On the other hand, setting abstract goals may not give us the measurable milestones that we need. I am still learning about how to find the right framework to set goals that aren't arbitrary but have measurable actions I can take. I agree that when we wake up excited about what we are going to do today, then we have a worthy goal. Thanks for the post!

Cheers!

[lmfao]

@JohnLeyo Whenever a goal is set, it should be set in a way such that progression towards that goal is something you can enjoy. Be mindful of and enjoy the process of reaching your goal. Attainment and happiness doesn't come from the sole attainment of your goal, unless your goal is to be more happy. 

From meditation, you learn that in life, all you have and all you will ever have is this present moment. Once you reach a non-dual state, you see that the only thing to do is just let life flow and observe the present moment. In this sense, you can feel all human activities to just be games.

And if you're gonna play a game, play the game that your "highest self" enjoys. Most people have natural inclinations towards a particular field of mastery.  Why/how it is these inclinations arise, who really knows. If you reach a non-dual state, you will start to feel creativity and intuition colour your work so that working becomes fun. 

[Moreira]

How do you know your goals arent programmed by society in your fragile sponge brain as a kid?

[zoey101]

6 minutes ago, Moreira said:

How do you know your goals arent programmed by society in your fragile sponge brain as a kid?

Boom! Mind blown! lol

Seriously though, this is a pretty crazy/reasonable thought.