How to be extremely confident

[Why?]

Hello guys,

I've always struggled to be confident personality-wise around people, especially around people who have accomplished a great deal or those who are more skilled than me. So, do you have any advice/exercises/tips that actually work to finally kill shyness and be extremely confident?

[Solace]

It happened when I started to see myself exoeriencially  as the infinite creative awareness in which all forms play around in. 

I am the love in the heart of the person I am shy around. I am the love in all as much as I am love itself. 

It happens when you start to not avoid yourself by focusing externally on the world; and sustaining addictions to instead focusing inwards in your heart where the root of all love and confidence resides relentlessly. To accept whatever form arises as the clear empty space of awareness no matter if it is a thought or a cute girl you see walking by  

I hope this inspires more confidence in you.

[egoeimai]

@Why? first u wanna realize that u dont have to be confident. Its something that u told yourself u have to be in order to stop feeling shyness and a bunch of other emotions. Just be present,you are neither shy nor the opposite.These are just bs youve told about you,just a story,a fantasy,and illusion. You wanna know exactly who u are,and u can do this just by dropping all agenda of the ego,just be,just experience without thought.  

[Guest Quanty]

Confidence comes hand in hand with internal harmony/love. 

False confidence comes from outside. 

[NoSelfSelf]

This is what i finally found out in present moment is that confidence around people is a skill and to achieve it you should do things that are not challenging at first but challenging enough to make you grow so there is no magic pill you have to put yourself in uncomfortable situations but gradually. thing that kills you is your pride i can do it in all go you say(its like i can lift 100kg without going threw 10 then 20etc) no thats a trap baby steps just by saying hello at first until it becomes normal than other stuff "harder" for you you will know if its too much or too little in a situation...

[7thLetter]

I recommend getting into pickup if you want something practical. Get on the RSD or SimplePickup forums and join some other guys in your area who are just looking to go out as well. And start with SimplePickup’s paid program. I think its either called “Simple30” or “ProjectGo.” Been a while since I’ve done it. They have several daily challenges for you to do that help you get out of your comfort zone. First few challenges are pretty basic, asking for directions, giving people high-fives, etc. Then it gets more challenging by the end. Btw, you can easily find a torrent online for the program if you are unable to spend money on it. After finishing the program, you can just continue to go out consistently with other guys and that should help.

You could also work some customer-service jobs, which help LOTS. Maybe as a cashier, or work front of house at a restaurant. Restaurants are a huge social environment and that should help you get into a social mood.

And if you haven’t got a gym habit in place already, go ahead and start on that.

Start small and work your way up. Over time you will get better and better. 

Good luck

[ajasatya]

@Why? stop trying to prove yourself to others. live happily for your own sake.