Can I get some advice on friends?

[Applejuice]

Okay, so I started to get out my comfort zone and start hanging out with people because I started to isolate myself when I was depressed and I realized that it's making it worse. But I realised I really need to work on being with people and being normal and likeable etc. Also when I smoke weed it always makes me see my life from a different perspective and I keep getting this feeling that I should stop hanging out with shitty people. Is this a wise choice? Is it better to be lonely or with shit friends? I'm trying to get to know more and more people so I can really build a strong social circle. I go out to smoke cigarettes with this woman across the road. I'm 17 and shes in her 30's. I get along with her family and everything. Is it weird to do that? Cos When I go out for a cigarette and see someone smoking I might as well start conversation right? And shes really interesting to talk to and it's not sexual or anything like that it's just casual friends because we smoke outside. So if I see her or she sees me we smoke and chat. She's friendly with all the neighbours and it's a good area. Is it weird? My foster parents think its weird and make slight remarks like she's my girlfriend as a joke so I'm starting to doubt myself. Also, when I hang out with that guy that when I'm high I get bad vibes about he always says im frustrating and shit and it's like er why do you hang out with me if you dont like me? I don't judge you.  Should I cut it off? Cos he has contacts to people at this skatepark where there is a lot of people I know I can make friends with. Should I leave it some time? I tried talking to him but he just holds his ground and thinks he's allright.  Thanks for any replies

[zoey101]

Wow, it seems you have a lot going on right now (lots of posts) 

Maybe you need to just stop worrying about the rest of the world and work on yourself. 

As far as the 30y/o lady, that's not weird. Friendship has no age limit and your parents are probably just goofing. Don't take it so seriously. 

As far as your "weed friend", who cares how many people he knows? I'm sure this one man is not the gate keeper to the world of friends you can have lol If you don't like him then just move on. As you get older, you will see how your path will grow away from the ones around you. It isn't a bad thing, you guys just developed different interests over time. It happens. 

I think I mentioned in another one of your posts that you should try to travel if you are able. There is a whole world out there for your 17 year old self to discover  nothing is holding you back (kids, career, relationship) so just go for it! 

Carpe Diem Man! lol

[YaNanNallari]

I wouldn't personally have shitty friends. The more aware you are the easier it is to pick up on all the bad habits you pick from them. Loneliness is something you can learn to be ok with as well, for me it doesn't almost at all, I just don't value the feeling.

I think the lady that's 30 is fine, if you like talking to her then sure talk to her. Talk to her and see how you feel about it, being judgemental about it is probably not the way to go. Smoking cigarettes, try to replace it with a healthier coping mechanism sometime.

The weed guy seems someone a bit too stubborn to talk to. If you're getting bad vibes you usually should listen to them. So at least don't "take shit" from him at least