Leo's Vid About Sex. Does Size Really Not Matter?

[Anlib]

Hey, is this really true? How can it be that it does'nt matter at all? 

[Stef]

Just because we as guys are visual and care so much about physical attributes (boobs, butts, legs etc.) doesn't mean girls are the same. You will never attract a female with your genitals, they are going to be attracted to your personality first and foremost.

As for size - the average is anywhere between 13 and 17 cm. There are going to ve variables depending on your race but girls generally don't care that much. Porn has created this illussion that in order to be good in bed you need to have a 20 cm cock and be able to last one hour non-stop hardcore mode. Which makes guys feel insecure about themselves, especially the ones with no sexual experience. Sex is not about that - it's about conveying emotions: intimacy, sensuality, opening yourself up and enjoying your shared time together.  

As long as you don't have a worm for a dick and it's working properly - you're good to go.

[Frankie]

Once I've had an affair with an very promiscuous girl many years ago who told me that size DOES matter (but that I should never get any complains in this case ) .... honestly I think that you should be on safe ground with an just normal size (as Neuroticon has written above).

[Anlib]

@Leo Gura

[Dhana Choko]

It is exactly the same as obsessing about the colour of your hair and asking if the colour of your hair matters in relationships. No, it does not matter. And Yes, some people do have a strong preference for a specific hair colour on the opposite sex. But the interesting thing is that any normal functioning person would say that the person who has a very strong preference (or obsession) for the colour of the hair on the opposite sex, probably has some sort of a problem themselves. Very rarely we think that if we see or meet someone like this, that we should worry about the colour of our hair and start obsessing about it. But somehow when it has to do with penis, people think that other people's obsessions about the size of a penis should determine their own fate, life outcomes and relationship possibilities and happiness in life. It is not any different than the question with the hair colour: if anyone has a clear obsession and determined preference, they are most probably the one who is having problems - not you.

[Guest]

First world problems...

[Irina Irina]

@Anlib Well, size does matter 

[Emerald]

Mechanically, size doesn't matter that much, unless he's super tiny. A man can have a larger penis and be terrible in bed, while a man with an average sized penis can be a great lover. However, I can't deny that I have an aesthetic preference for men with larger penises. They look better to me, and it's a nice surprise because I can't help but relate it to dominance and masculinity. But if I like a guy enough to go to bed with him, I'll probably just be happy to have his attention and mutual attraction. I will never balk at an average sized man because it looks normal. Also, a smaller penis is unlikely to kill my attraction to someone, even though it isn't my preference. This is because the penis is the last thing a woman sees, and if she likes you enough to go to bed with you, your penis isn't likely to kill her attraction unless it's barely there.

If he is really tiny, I wouldn't like it because some things sexually require a certain amount of leverage. So, if a guy isn't at least close to average, it would limit certain sexual possibilities. But I would probably find a way to get over it, if I really like him. So, a man with a large penis has only an ever-so-slight advantage over a man with an average sized penis. Both large and average sized guys have an advantage over men who are small. But penis size is highly unlikely to be an attraction killer. Now, if men didn't wear pants in daily life, I'm sure that penis size might mean a lot more attraction-wise because that would become a determining factor of attraction. But since that isn't the case, a woman gets attracted a long time before she ever sees it. So, unless there's some sort of abnormality, her attraction isn't likely to go away because a guy has a smaller-than-average penis.

[sjonesartist]

I guess it depends on the girl.  To me... size means absolutely nothing.  I've never dated a guy based on looks...EVER.  always personality.  When I feel close enough to someone to want to share myself with him, it has nothing to do with his size.  And the emotions I feel are because of the person and the experience, not his physical size. 

[Steven]

The size is not the only property though... There is shape and hardness. Once a female friend told me that she likes only straight ones. She didn’t like the ones with ‘kinks’ or disproportionate. She actually drew her perfect penis.

I think that it really works both ways. Some vaginas are better than others. I remember this girl whose vagina felt so perfect...made my whole body buzz.

It could be that it is a matter of being ‘just right’

You could have all the tools and not have full grasp of the process. Sticking it in and out is not the pinnacle  although it seems to be the goal of the game.

Don’t disregard the attraction and desire, delay in gratification, intrigue.... We have to be considering these too. Too much attraction is not good either.

Too much desire can lead to disappointment once the intercourse takes place.

Too long delay can make us give up completely. We can cool off.

It seems to me that the best is JUST RIGHT.