Rewarding

[Magnifico]

A wonderful good evening,

 

I just finished a very productive day of learning. I worked really hard and ,although it wasn't really hard to motivate myself to learning,it was empowering. And I all I want to do is relax and do myself something good today. In former times I had the habit to play computer or by taking a hot bath. But since I take cold showers and quit my computer addiction, because of the many negative side effects, I haven't really something to do myself something good. So:

• Is Rewarding essential at all for a healthy and positive way of life? (Because I feel like it is)
• And which habits/activities do you do for Rewarding or do yourself sth good?

 

With love,
Tim

[StarGazor]

Unfortunately, in my personal experience, the reward system did not work. This is what I learned from this. The brain is not motivated by rewards. Meaning that if you reward yourself today, it's not going to work harder the next day. This is just because it can trick you into getting the reward first, at least this will eventually happen. The brain is clever and it will evolve around you to getting as much comfort and avoiding hard work. Rather than rewarding, focus on the purpose on which you want to do something. We are so distracted nowadays that we cannot get anything done. Take for example a man who has just been sentenanced to 25 years in prison . He has nowhere to go. No entertainment and no media. He has nothing in his cell except a bed and a sink plus a toilet. Every day all he does is sit and look at the walls of his cell. All of a sudden, after 5 years, someone leaves a law degree text book on his bed. He will eventually pick it up and start reading it, the possibility of even mastering it. Yet, we have students outside of the prison walls, struggling to put together a timetable and barely managing to get a few hours of work done. We have to do affirmations, vision boards, and the likes, just so that we can feel motivated to be productive. Cut out distraction to the extent that you only have the things in your life that matter and you will succeed!