How do you quit masturbation once and for all ?

[Pernani]

Can it even be done without being a casanova ? Has someone done it before in this forum ? And I'm not even talking about porn, that's easier to quit, I'm talking about getting rid of the urge to masturbate or at least gain the upper hand on it, I know that simply being mindful can do the trick but that takes a lot more mindfulness than the average person has or at least the average meditator.

I've done a nofap challenge before, I actually just relapsed after almost three months of abstaining, I thought it would do the trick and that I could quit it forever if I manage to keep my hands off my pants for that long, because after all that's how you form habits or eliminate habits, but in reality it's way far from being the case.

any resources, any experiences would be very much appreciated!

[Prabhaker]

3 hours ago, Pernani said:

Has someone done it before in this forum ?

Yes, I lived in solitude, listened to osho discourses all day, all that is beautiful happens in loneliness. Still my meditation is not ripened, I can't live in society undisturbed.

3 hours ago, Pernani said:

any resources, any experiences would be very much appreciated!

PRACTICE OF BRAHMACHARYA

By

SRI SWAMI SIVANANDA

http://www.dlshq.org/download/brahma_nopic.htm

[Pernani]

8 hours ago, Prabhaker said:

Yes, I lived in solitude, listened to osho discourses all day, all that is beautiful happens in loneliness. Still my meditation is not ripened, I can't live in society undisturbed.

PRACTICE OF BRAHMACHARYA

By

SRI SWAMI SIVANANDA

http://www.dlshq.org/download/brahma_nopic.htm

I'm not really interested in celibacy, I just want to abstain from masturbation

[Psyche_92]

3 minutes ago, Pernani said:

I'm not really interested in celibacy, I just want to abstain from masturbation

 

[Pernani]

5 hours ago, Psyche_92 said:

 

yes but how ? I don't think a nofap challenge is a long term solution to the problem

[Psyche_92]

10 minutes ago, Pernani said:

yes but how ? I don't think a nofap challenge is a long term solution to the problem

You can't make assumptions about something if you haven't at least tried it. It's not even a challenge. Most people look at it that way, because they don't take it seriously enough.

Edited May 10, 2018 by Psyche_92

[Shroomdoctor]

@Pernani tHE CHALLENGE IS DOING THE CHALLENGE FOREVER

[Pernani]

3 hours ago, Psyche_92 said:

You can't make assumptions about something if you haven't at least tried it. It's not even a challenge. Most people look at it that way, because they don't take it seriously enough.

I have tried it more than once and actually i've already finished it ( as the post stated ), you can grind it as long as you can but once you let your guard up you go back to the same habit again, therefore the habit still remains.

but I dont know what would happen after one year of nofap, although 3 months was tough as shit as it is so im not very confident about one year

3 hours ago, Shroomdoctor said:

@Pernani tHE CHALLENGE IS DOING THE CHALLENGE FOREVER

well how do you do that ? once can only stay vigilant for so long, right? and did you manage to do that?

[Solace]

You can't, you ego still controls you like a puppet, letting you have a few weeks or months off just to remind you that you need to face the deeper emotions in your heart first that are allowing these patterns to continue.  Same with all other addictions, there is no use fighting them at all. Be with your emotions instead, and they will naturally disappear, masturbation being one of the last to naturally fall away, second only to the process of thought. A good way to feel your emotions is to place your default awareness in your heart instead of your head.

May you see the light that you are, being the spirit guide to this body that will walk around with or without your participation.

[Psyche_92]

7 hours ago, Pernani said:

but I dont know what would happen after one year of nofap, although 3 months was tough as shit as it is so im not very confident about one year

90 days is just a number. Start again. This time don't make 90 your goal but abstain forever. Ofcourse it's tough it's an addiction.

[pluto]

You tend to turn to masturbation/pornography and other low consciousness acts when your dopamine levels are low and your will to live is poor. Find new hobbies, keep life exciting, get moving, travel ect... Notice when you are in love or passion you don't even even think about sexual things as much and sometimes you even don't eat or feel hungry,(as examples) because the vibration of your being is so high that there is no need for anything else besides just being and enjoying what you are doing and how you are living in that moment.

Once you start to get bored again, unhealthy habits, repetitions ect... lower consciousness urges arise.

You gotta keep the vibe high

Edited May 11, 2018 by pluto

[Shroomdoctor]

@Pernani If the desire to not do it is strong enough, the desire to do it has no chance.

[Pernani]

Love it! Each reply with a different perspective, thank you all, and I will do my best to keep myself from spanking this bad boy 

[pluto]

1 hour ago, Pernani said:

Love it! Each reply with a different perspective, thank you all, and I will do my best to keep myself from spanking this bad boy 

One of the things i love about this forum, different perspectives of the same ultimate truth <3 Talk about being infinite!

[Barbarian Number 8]

@Pernani  It is impossible. We are designed to do it. Otherwise one would have shorter arms and the gentetalia between the shoulderblades.

 

[Pernani]

11 hours ago, Vignan said:

Hey, I don't know but I stopped it* suddenly and it's been almost 2months. I've probably started during the end of March and till today I didn't do it. It just happened. I never forced. Sometimes I may distract but as I'm aware of it. I going forward without anything. No P* and No distractions like magazines, movies*, etc will help you. And also being in a good relationship and having that love to your girl is enough for life(this helped me)

sounds to me like your mindfulness just went to the roof or something, is that what happened ?

4 hours ago, Barbarian Number 8 said:

@Pernani  It is impossible. We are designed to do it. Otherwise one would have shorter arms and the gentetalia between the shoulderblades.

 

shorter arms ? do you mean something like this ?  

 

[Taylor04]

On 5/10/2018 at 1:13 AM, Pernani said:

Can it even be done without being a casanova ? Has someone done it before in this forum ? And I'm not even talking about porn, that's easier to quit, I'm talking about getting rid of the urge to masturbate or at least gain the upper hand on it, I know that simply being mindful can do the trick but that takes a lot more mindfulness than the average person has or at least the average meditator.

I've done a nofap challenge before, I actually just relapsed after almost three months of abstaining, I thought it would do the trick and that I could quit it forever if I manage to keep my hands off my pants for that long, because after all that's how you form habits or eliminate habits, but in reality it's way far from being the case.

any resources, any experiences would be very much appreciated!

You don't. Wanting to go zero is just ego pleasuring and not the point of life. It's denying a part of your humanity. Sometimes you're inspired to fap. Three months is actually a very fine achievement. There are people on YBOP that can't seem to get through a week. Trying to repress it is the easyest path to a neurotic counter-reaction from your subconscious. For all practical purposes there's no distinction for you in most moments (remember "be in the moment", everything else is a story) between never doing it and doing it every three months, except that your ego can't tell itself that it quit. Hope this helps. Good luck on your journey.

[LoganWilliamsq]

Same problem here... I got a GF, we have sex. But when im alone, i fapping:/

[martins name]

@Pernani Have you tried lsd or any other psycadelic? it will make you see porn and masturbation in a new perspektive. 100ug lsd helped me. Its only a helping hand tho its not a magic pill. What helped me the most is really accepting that i will never fap again, not that i will let go of it for a while but forever. You will have to become a new person in a way. Vision is key!

[martins name]

also the urges will probably go down if you stop fantasizing and thinking about such things. Law of attraction