Basic and elementary school loves stuck in my head

[R4lfXD]

I thought I was over this long time ago. This post is inspired by today's dream that got me thinking I've gotta do something.

Context. I've never really been in a relationship, only had a long distance platonic "love" in early high school time, and then few dates with a girl in late high school. I'm 22 as of yesterday. Been thinking of inviting a few girls on dates last few months, but it always feels "forced" from my side, it's not natural attraction, it's very logical. 

Now, there were these two girls I really liked back in the days, obviously, I didn't do anything as it usually goes in that age. The one I was closer to (as a friend) I met also few years into highschool and few years later by accident, nothing about the other one. I'm still thinking about the former here and there, not really romantically, just in general (I have her social media, so I'm up to date). 

Long story short, in today's dream I went on the date with the latter girl, that I've not remembered for years. Also dreams about the former one are appearing bi-monthly.  

I think there is a correlation between me not being able to have genuine attraction and my subconscious being hung up on these girls. Is that possible? What steps do I take to fix that?

Edited April 29, 2018 by R4lfXD

[YaNanNallari]

If you're hung up on them, I wouldn't try to fix it by saying "I shouldn't be hung up on them". Get curious as to why you're hung up on them, maybe some inspiration to let it go will come or some other insight.

[aurum]

17 hours ago, R4lfXD said:

I thought I was over this long time ago. This post is inspired by today's dream that got me thinking I've gotta do something.

Context. I've never really been in a relationship, only had a long distance platonic "love" in early high school time, and then few dates with a girl in late high school. I'm 22 as of yesterday. Been thinking of inviting a few girls on dates last few months, but it always feels "forced" from my side, it's not natural attraction, it's very logical. 

Now, there were these two girls I really liked back in the days, obviously, I didn't do anything as it usually goes in that age. The one I was closer to (as a friend) I met also few years into highschool and few years later by accident, nothing about the other one. I'm still thinking about the former here and there, not really romantically, just in general (I have her social media, so I'm up to date). 

Long story short, in today's dream I went on the date with the latter girl, that I've not remembered for years. Also dreams about the former one are appearing bi-monthly.  

I think there is a correlation between me not being able to have genuine attraction and my subconscious being hung up on these girls. Is that possible? What steps do I take to fix that?

Until you have a new girl, it can be tough to left go of the old. It sounds crude but it does work.

Quick tip, if you're 22 I would just scratch the whole idea of inviting girls on formal one on one "dates". First dates are high pressure for a girl.

Instead, invite out groups of people. Make it a social thing.