Suggestions on how to improve my Journey !

[Moses]

Hello everyone and nice to meet you (: 



I play my ego game by the name of Moshe (Moses), 24 years old from Israel and I am new here on this forum (got familiar with self actualization about two years ago with a lot of help from Leo..)



I write this topic because I need your help with my dilemmas on how to continue and improve my journey of self actualization and of my life in general, so thank you for those who will take the time to read:



In about three months, I am going to travel for at least six months, probably in India, Nepal and the rest of Southeast Asia.                                                                  Right after the trip, I will begin studying for a degree (4 intense years) which supports my life purpose (at the last stages of the amazing course).    



I am very new on the subject of pursuing enlightenment and I understand that this is something I will need to work on sooner or later in my life and the sooner the better.. but it's not something to take as a "small hobby" and one must really take this seriously, and I will admit that it's stresses me a little bit because even if right now I have a really strong meditation habit (30 minutes which will become 60 minutes at least) and my hobby\workout routine is running for long distances, and I wish to be a serious student and focus on building my mastery on the subject - Can I really include a strong routine of deep spiritual work? (and I haven't mentioned the issue of maintaining a good and healthy romantic relationship).



Second thing I need your suggestion on is, on what to focus my attention right now in self actualization? my main focus goes to studying hard for an "SAT" test in order to get accepted to the university I want. I am afraid that i'm falling to a stage of "mental masturbation" when it comes to self actualization because I don't have one main subject to focus on (like I had when I was working on my life purpose). right now as I said I study the spiritual stuff and theory but I worry that this is more "mental masturbation" because all I do is enjoy the theory.. for example, I really want to read the books by Peter Ralston, but what if I will gain way more by reading them when I will actually do the work?



Third and last, any suggestions on how can I make the most out of my big trip? I am speaking of anything related to high quality consciousness activities, special retreats? places? tips? anything ! 



 



Thanks!!!

Edited April 18, 2018 by Moses

[Martita]

Hi Moshe!

Trying to separate your life into sections where you work on self-actualization isn't necessary or doing you any favors to be honest. Self-actualization should be a way of life. A path of life.

Focusing on self-actualization expecting to let go of the rest of your life isn't realistic. Unless of course you can take the path of letting go of the world allowing that to be your sole-purpose. But you've shared a lot of goals you're pursuing. So I don't think that's an option. Lol. 

Shift your mindset Moshe. Allow yourself balance. 

Balance is important in life, and as a student. You'll learn when you start your classes. Lol 

Continue your practice of meditation. That's a path to actualization. 

Then, take that practice with you naturally as it comes. Allow yourself to become more mindful through your day. Paying attention to staying present through your travels, through your classes, through your life. 

Staying present is the spiritual work. 

Allow yourself to do that work in a gentle way. Not in a way that feels like you're failing. 

Stay present while you're running. 

Stay present while you're studying. 

Stay present in your conversations with people in your travels, and while you travel. 

Staying present takes work but its not something that should be separated. It should be part of your life. As you do it more and more it gets easier and easier. 

Presence becomes who you are. All while you're living the rest of your life. 

[Moses]

Hey @Martita

thanks a lot for your words of wisdom,

i can really resonate with what you are saying and one of the reasons I go travel by myself now is because I hope to learn more to let go and flow more easily with life.. and being less harsh with myself 

thanks again!