why should i need a girlfriend?

[TheSomeBody]

i have an analitical type of thinking, i pursue enlightenment and i really dont like to go out (except for being in the moment stuff,like going to the beach , nature) , i mean it is fine to go out but the value for it is little. if i go out i do it to talk to other people so i could get another perspective about life and about my thinking failure. getting a girlfriend just gonna be a distraction of my goals, take my time. sex is not as valuable as enlightenment or meditation. i see leo's videos and i dont get it , why he pushing his audience to get into a relationship? what is the goal? 

[Privet]

If you become enlightened will you still consider sex to be a distraction?

[TheSomeBody]

5 minutes ago, Privet said:

If you become enlightened will you still consider sex to be a distraction?

yes because i will have other projects to work on. 

or all i will do is just taking care on my survivel and just being. 

[Privet]

2 minutes ago, TheSomeBody said:

yes because i will have other projects to work on. 

or all i will do is just taking care on my survivel and just being. 

With that logic you should stop washing yourself because it takes time and doesn't have as much value as enlightenment.

[Key Elements]

It's your choice. You don't need a gf. You could stay single your whole life -- totally fine. Leo's videos on relationships are for those who are seeking relationships or are in relationships. 

However, a thought did come up for me when I read your post. Suppose you do meet a girl but you weren't looking. The girl likes you and you like her. You didn't know this is going to come up. It does happen to ppl. Wouldn't it be better to understand what a healthy relationship is, or how to work toward one when you're actually in a relationship?

I did read somewhere that one of Buddha's disciples, who was a monk, "fell in love" with a beautiful gal. Then he knew he couldn't be a full-time monk and pursue enlightenment full-time. Maybe this guy didn't know what's a relationship. 

[Ether]

@TheSomeBody You do know you dont got to focus on enlightenment 24\7 right...?

[TheSomeBody]

32 minutes ago, Privet said:

With that logic you should stop washing yourself because it takes time and doesn't have as much value as enlightenment.

but it would hurt my health and i should be alive to experience enlightenment.also, i can shower and think about enlightment...

19 minutes ago, Ether said:

@TheSomeBody You do know you dont got to focus on enlightenment 24\7 right...?

i want also to build skills to get the enlightenment easely. relationship would take almost all of my time

21 minutes ago, Key Elements said:

It's your choice. You don't need a gf. You could stay single your whole life -- totally fine. Leo's videos on relationships are for those who are seeking relationships or are in relationships. 

However, a thought did come up for me when I read your post. Suppose you do meet a girl but you weren't looking. The girl likes you and you like her. You didn't know this is going to come up. It does happen to ppl. Wouldn't it be better to understand what a healthy relationship is, or how to work toward one when you're actually in a relationship?

I did read somewhere that one of Buddha's disciples, who was a monk, "fell in love" with a beautiful gal. Then he knew he couldn't be a full-time monk and pursue enlightenment full-time. Maybe this guy didn't know what's a relationship. 

the main point is, why he is pushing for this ?

if it would happen so i would study about it.

thats why you need to be careful...

Edited April 13, 2018 by TheSomeBody

[Akim]

I would love to hear a good case for relationships too. There is a lot of work and investment involved. When I was younger I cared, but was not very successful, now I don't care much. I thought that I was porn addicted and that screwed my psychology. So I quit porn. Life is much calmer and pleasant without erotic stimulation. I suppose it is good to have a close understanding friend, but I didn't really feel deep connection with girls I talked. Also I live in a concept bubble different from them, we care about different things.

Edited April 13, 2018 by Akim

[Spiral]

You don’t need a girlfriend or any friends at all. How is he puching people into relationships?

[Key Elements]

2 hours ago, TheSomeBody said:

the main point is, why he is pushing for this ?

Who? Leo? He's not. It's choice.

2 hours ago, TheSomeBody said:

if it would happen so i would study about it.

Yes, of course. The thing is, if a person doesn't have a career now, he/she still studies for it. 

But for relationships, you might want to try to understand why it happens and what is a healthy relationship. Why? Understanding enlightenment / spirituality is also the ability to see how things interconnect, although you don't have to be in a relationship. 

How is being in a healthy relationship connected to enlightenment? Can you answer that?

 

[Ether]

@TheSomeBody You know you can mage your time, right...?

[Otogi]

@TheSomeBody

You absolutely don't need a girlfriend/partner or relationship in your life. It's all about want, if you want it pursue it, if not then not. I personally can see great value in being single and cutting all the matrix game of mating which is mostly a waste of time and ressources to me, but then again I haven't met a girl I truely like and want ever, and probably never will so I have it easy. If I met her and she enchanted me, maybe I would speak differently. But until then I think it's a waste. One way or another, it's all about what you feel is right to do.

You think Leo is pushing relationships? Don't know about that and don't wanna argue about that but I can see that the society and the matrix are certainly pushing those things, forcing them down everybodys throat and brainwashing you to make those things the ultimate goal in life. And it's a bad thing of course. I am glad you realize there is more to life. Be your own man and think for yourself.

[TheSomeBody]

31 minutes ago, Otogi said:

@TheSomeBody

You absolutely don't need a girlfriend/partner or relationship in your life. It's all about want, if you want it pursue it, if not then not. I personally can see great value in being single and cutting all the matrix game of mating which is mostly a waste of time and ressources to me, but then again I haven't met a girl I truely like and want ever, and probably never will so I have it easy. If I met her and she enchanted me, maybe I would speak differently. But until then I think it's a waste. One way or another, it's all about what you feel is right to do.

You think Leo is pushing relationships? Don't know about that and don't wanna argue about that but I can see that the society and the matrix are certainly pushing those things, forcing them down everybodys throat and brainwashing you to make those things the ultimate goal in life. And it's a bad thing of course. I am glad you realize there is more to life. Be your own man and think for yourself.

 in his video of "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs To Self-Actualize" he is kind of encourage it.sometimes he doesnt but he have lots of videos about dating so he kind of does i think,maybe it is to attract people?.

54 minutes ago, Ether said:

@TheSomeBody You know you can mage your time, right...?

it is still taking lots  of time and messing with your feeling

55 minutes ago, Key Elements said:

Who? Leo? He's not. It's choice.

Yes, of course. The thing is, if a person doesn't have a career now, he/she still studies for it. 

But for relationships, you might want to try to understand why it happens and what is a healthy relationship. Why? Understanding enlightenment / spirituality is also the ability to see how things interconnect, although you don't have to be in a relationship. 

How is being in a healthy relationship connected to enlightenment? Can you answer that?

 

 in his video of "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs To Self-Actualize" he is kind of encourage it.sometimes he doesnt but he have lots of videos about dating so he kind of does i think,maybe it is to attract people?.

i think that knowing how is being in a healthy relationship helps you to know how to balance emotions and how does people influence each other and understanding the oness. i didnt think about it deeply so there is more to it.

1 hour ago, Spiral said:

You don’t need a girlfriend or any friends at all. How is he puching people into relationships?

^

[Ether]

@TheSomeBody You can choose how much time you want to spend time with her...

[Girzo]

Because it's fun. And people want sex. You are a son of people who wanted and had sex, the same mechanism forces you to have sex. There's no escape. 

I will tell you, if either a realtionship or spiritual practice is taking all of your time, then you are doing it wrong. It will only take up all of your time if you are going to master it and achieve Superhuman levels of mastery.

I recommend trying either Kriya Yoga or buying some pickup course so you can optimize your practice. Or both, so you don't waste time and focus on Life Purpose.

BTW, how old are you?

[TheSomeBody]

20 minutes ago, Ether said:

@TheSomeBody You can choose how much time you want to spend time with her...

she is a human too, she has needs and feeling. i cant deny it.

8 minutes ago, Girzo said:

Because it's fun. And people want sex. You are a son of people who wanted and had sex, the same mechanism forces you to have sex. There's no escape. 

I will tell you, if either a realtionship or spiritual practice is taking all of your time, then you are doing it wrong. It will only take up all of your time if you are going to master it and achieve Superhuman levels of mastery.

I recommend trying either Kriya Yoga or buying some pickup course so you can optimize your practice. Or both, so you don't waste time and focus on Life Purpose.

BTW, how old are you?

i can have sex and dont be in a relationship.

i also learning alot about it and i have a job so it mosly take my time for now. for now i dont have really a life purpose, i want to take leo's course but i have to do some stuff and then i will buy it. superhuman levels of mastery sounds for life purpuse for me now but it can be only a fantasy in my mind and not my real purpuse.

im 19

[Ether]

@TheSomeBody Well, you cant fulfill her, she has to do the work for herself.

Has any circumstance, girlfriend, love from other, videogame, amount of money, satisfication from an achievement ever gave you lasting fulfillement?

Then, its the same for her. Its doesnt mean you guys cant have fun, but at the end of the day she is responsible for her life and you are for yours.

You cant maker her happy and she cant make you happy, doesnt mean you cant have happy moments but lasting happiness from each other? Nope, never will happen.

And we dont have "needs", only the ones that are necessary for our survival, we have wants.

[Girzo]

Superhuman levels of mastery of what? Mastery itself is not a purpose, it needs to have an impact on the world you live in to qualify as a life purpose.

3 minutes ago, TheSomeBody said:

I can have sex and dont be in a relationship.

If you are doing that and feel all right, then there's no problem. It's not what about someone else tells you, Leo or anyone, but what feels right deeply inside your heart, that's what you should do.

7 minutes ago, TheSomeBody said:

im 19

Good for you, you have plenty of years ahead for relationships.

[TheSomeBody]

6 minutes ago, Girzo said:

Superhuman levels of mastery of what? Mastery itself is not a purpose, it needs to have an impact on the world you live in to qualify as a life purpose.

If you are doing that and feel all right, then there's no problem. It's not what about someone else tells you, Leo or anyone, but what feels right deeply inside your heart, that's what you should do.

Good for you, you have plenty of years ahead for relationships.

superhuman levels of mastery in meditation, yoga, level of enlightment...

ummm when you get older you get less and less innocent and this beuty in the relationship pretty much gone. im still innocent and people my age still innocent. when i had experience with a relationship ate age 15 it was so beautiful. now it is like mehh. 

12 minutes ago, Ether said:

@TheSomeBody Well, you cant fulfill her, she has to do the work for herself.

Has any circumstance, girlfriend, love from other, videogame, amount of money, satisfication from an achievement ever gave you lasting fulfillement?

Then, its the same for her. Its doesnt mean you guys cant have fun, but at the end of the day she is responsible for her life and you are for yours.

You cant maker her happy and she cant make you happy, doesnt mean you cant have happy moments but lasting happiness from each other? Nope, never will happen.

And we dont have "needs", only the ones that are necessary for our survival, we have wants.

i mean, she want a relationship to cuddle with me , have sex with me, go out with me, feel being loved by me and so on...  if i dont give it to her the relationship do not has a balance.  she probably wont get what she wants because now it is really unimportant thing in my life .

[Ether]

@TheSomeBody Dude, only because you focus on your life or because you cant make her happy, that does not mean you will never spend your time with her.

You have free will, so you can choose when to be her, any time you want, as long as you desire.

And the funny thing is when you reach higher states of consciousness, you will feel more love for yourself, which in turn will turn in love for others and there will be an intuition to spend quality time with her.