Why should I "detach from outcome"?

[littleBIG]

I love skateboarding. But sometimes I get extremely frustrated. I also get jealous of people who are good at it, because it makes me feel worse about my skating. I know I should just skate because I love skating, and that's why I skate. But I also care about progressing. How am I supposed to not care about progress? 

[Saarah]

@littleBIG You do care about progress, it's just that detaching from frustrations to progress means you're more present, open, able to observe, learn, discern, adapt and keep practicing with focus. You can pay attention to what is happening now and respond to it so as to improve in the moment rather than being distracted by a thought of the future

[NoSelfSelf]

Your problem is like mine you want to progress too soon too quickly and you lose focus you should be taking mastery approach that is when you struggle you love it because you can work on it even more tiny details until you perfect it because you want to ne good at it...

[Ether]

9 hours ago, littleBIG said:

I love skateboarding. But sometimes I get extremely frustrated. I also get jealous of people who are good at it, because it makes me feel worse about my skating. I know I should just skate because I love skating, and that's why I skate. But I also care about progressing. How am I supposed to not care about progress? 

Because of this

[Moreira]

You shouldnt detach from outome, feedback is necessary for improvement. The thing you have to avoid is comparison with others. Compare yourself with the You when started skateboarding.

Edited April 12, 2018 by Moreira

[Nahm]

On 4/11/2018 at 11:20 PM, littleBIG said:

I love skateboarding. But sometimes I get extremely frustrated. I also get jealous of people who are good at it, because it makes me feel worse about my skating. I know I should just skate because I love skating, and that's why I skate. But I also care about progressing. How am I supposed to not care about progress? 

Feel great about your progress. That’s all. 

[7thLetter]

Detachment from outcome is a state of being and a level that you get to as you start to develop yourself. These personal development ideas are not something that you need to copy. It's not "Oh I read in a book that I need to detach from outcome, so I will TRY to detach from outcome." No its, "I will continue to grow myself, and I will reach a state of detachment from outcome as a byproduct."

Edited April 13, 2018 by 7thLetter

[egoeimai]

On 4/12/2018 at 4:07 PM, Ether said:

Because of this

Bahahaha 

So true 

[Barbarian Number 8]

On 2018-04-12 at 5:20 AM, littleBIG said:

I love skateboarding. But sometimes I get extremely frustrated. I also get jealous of people who are good at it, because it makes me feel worse about my skating. I know I should just skate because I love skating, and that's why I skate. But I also care about progressing. How am I supposed to not care about progress? 

The problem is not progress.

The problem is "envy".

To envy someone versus being inspired by someone seems to be the polaropposites.

 

It would make your progress faster and more successful if you drew inspiration by someone.

 

...or!?....wait......considering that there is people who draws energy from negativity to propell them forward in life......envy could be the best "fuel" for you?

 

Hmmm....maybe we should consider how you usally go about to succeed in life and manage obsticles?

Sith or Jedi? You could be hmmm

[Truth Addict]

@littleBIG

Positive thinking, that's all you need.

[Ayilton]

@littleBIG because its a universal principle  ,  if you align yourelf to it  you will navigate better in the world  ! 

Peace ✌?

[mostly harmless]

Can skating be a life purpose?

[littleBIG]

Thanks everyone, all the advice was helpful. I'm happy to say that I have drastically changed, I no longer get frustrated. When I'm stuck, I'm actually excited to find out exactly why I'm stuck and solve the problem. If I keep looking for things to improve, eventually I will become so good that there's nothing to improve. Now I'm enjoying the path of mastery even when I'm stuck. 

@mostly harmless I'm not sure. I'm still discovering my life purpose but I know I want to master skateboarding in my life so I'm doing that for now.