Help, should i end this friendship?

[moon777light]

I dont know this person in real life, we have been communicating daily for a little over a year now over tumblr. The person is nice and we have alot of stuff in common (since we talk alot) but i notice they anger me a little bit too much to be friends. Basically this person is a heavy "past lives" believer and constantly is trying to reassure me that weve met before in multiple past lives. (Which i call bs). once they said they need to clear up their karma and  said "im sorry ive abused you in the past life, im sorry i had more power over you.." and i do t know if this is just me being close minded but i think wtf? Then when i start getting pissed off they just say "its ok one day you will see what i mean" and whenever we thought of the same subject in a day, for example suicide in cults, they immediately point out how this is not a coincidence. 

Also they are from a south american country that they hate, so whenever i mention the word "brazil" or simply allude to that place they start attacking me "how could you, you know i have trauma from that word" etc. 

Last point is we were talking about religions, and he is a huge believer in witchcraft. He was talking about "low magic"-like spells, divination vs "high-order"magic like rituals i guess? And how the goal of both types is the same thing, the result of a spell or whatever. I then asked why does high order magic then go through all that extra hard work to achieve same thing as a low magic and then he said "wow i cant believe you said something so amateur"

 

Is this person trying to manipulate me (i think the metaphysical ppl like to call them energetic vampires) or am i super close minded? 

Ive blocked them twice before but then i feel bad and start talking to said person again.

[BobbyLowell]

Idk. Seems sketchy. Maybe U should just be safe

Edited April 3, 2018 by BobbyLowell

[lmfao]

@moon777light hmm a few things to consider. I don't think you've necessarily provided enough information for someone else to give you what their "judgement call" would be in your situation, so take what I say with a pinch of salt, but I'll try anyway.

What do you think is good about the relationship you're in? Do you enjoy the conversations you have with this person? What is it you want from this relationship? (are those) /(can those) wants be met? 

You should try to think about your relationship,  in all its individual parts and as whole. Consider what you want for your life, and whether this relationship has a worthwhile place for your life. This advice can be generalised to many things. 

I don't have much to say about his belief in witchcraft. From what you've written, they could just be his genuine belief. Something like this would only be a problem if his belief in witchcraft led to him being narrow minded and bringing it up constantly when you don't want to hear about it. BUT, if the two of you enjoy having these discussions with each other about whether witchcraft is real then it's not a problem. Philosophical discussions can be fun if you're into that stuff. This witchcraft thing is one thing to consider, I guess.

Now, if this person claims that they know you from a past life, they are almost certainly (99.99999...%) trolling or are just deluding themselves. A belief that someone met you in their past life is just unsubstantiated nonsense (I don't think this is the time for me to dive deep into epistemology or some shit here lol). If it is one of those cute beliefs they have like "wouldn't it be cool if we know each other from a past life?" then it's probably nothing of concern. You can ask them if this is a genuine belief of theirs. But from the way you described them talking about karma, it maybe isn't just a cute idea that they have.  Perhaps this belief doesn't cause that many problems, only you know that yourself. 

Okay, so you're wondering if this person is manipulating you. From what you've mentioned so far, there are not enough signs for me to be confident in making a call either way. Spotting the ulterior/unpleasant motives of people requires you to take a look at your interactions with him in their totality, and your intuition should give you a sense of what's going on. The few things that you've mentioned sound a little bit dodgy on his part. 

Although you didn't bring this up, consider whether this relationship is something beneficial in your life as a whole. Could you be doing other things with your time? Is this friendship valuable? I've had "online friendships" before, and I've found that it's very easy to waste your time on them when it isn't worth it. As a general rule of thumb, interactions in person are far better. 

 

 

 

[moon777light]

@lmfao  thanks for your thorough reply, much appreciated  

could i be doing something else?-yes. i procrastinate ALOT on studying and i kinda hate where i live because the people in my university are very snobby/judgy so i tend to spend my days just at my apartment just browsing the internet mindlessly. I guess finding a person that was willing to talk with me all day, when i feel insecure/want to escape was good in the moment. but in the long run, annoying.

Is the friendship valuable?- to me-not really. i realize when i ask myself why i keep talking its probably because i feel bad for the guy. And thats terrible, especially on his end. I probably am wasting my time, so you helped me answer my question. How should i end things? i have a terrible reputation of not officially ending things, instead i just wander off until we barely talk anymore. Should i be upfront and say that i dont think the friendship is working for us? and goodbye?