Letting go of ideals

[Annica]

For two years now I am following actualized.org and my life changed in beautiful ways. In the last months however, I was noticing that all the ideas from this content and other self-help material built up a big story of how life should be. Everything that did not fulfill these ideals I pushed away or - if I engaged in it - hated myself for. That is a very poor way of living life I figured and thus tried to drop all of these ideals for a while and fasted on self-help. The results of doing that were wonderful. I finally feel like I got a lot of authenticity back and stop just acting on what other people told me was right.

It was a big trap for me to blindly follow the advice and I got out of it be detaching from the content. I sometimes think it is good to have a break even from the most valuable contents just to see what is true and genuine for yourself.

Just wanted to share that with all of you

[Leo Gura]

Yes, I will release a video about this in the future. Ideals are a double-edged sword. They are necessary and at the same time create suffering and delusion.

All ideals must ultimately be transcended, but not too soon. They are like training wheels.

[RichardY]

“You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing crap of the world.”

― Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club

[mohdanas]

I experience the same thing. I made a huge ass ideal about starting my business that I couldn't take the first step in two years...... I had so many angles to looked at, and every inch to be constructed in perfection that I missed action. 

 

[Joseph Maynor]

Yeah, learning how to have ideals but not try to enforce them neurotically is a hard thing to come to learn how to balance in personal development.