Practical Techniques On How To Work Without Expectations?

[Maheshwar]

I failed around 2-3 times when I was working on some of my goals which made me very very much depressed and so now I want to do my work without keeping any expectations. And what I don't know is how do I practice doing my work without keeping any expectations??  Are there any mind-techniques to do so??    

[aurum]

@Maheshwar

This is more or less the whole name of the game of the work we do here.

You're depressed because you're in resistance to what "IS". You feel like it "should" be some other way.

Meditation and yoga will help you here tremendously because they will get you in non-resistance to the present.

I'd also read a book called Letting Go by David Hawkins.

[Truth]

17 hours ago, Maheshwar said:

I failed around 2-3 times when I was working on some of my goals which made me very very much depressed and so now I want to do my work without keeping any expectations. And what I don't know is how do I practice doing my work without keeping any expectations??  Are there any mind-techniques to do so??    

Sounds like you need to SET proper expectations, being surprised by something you didn't expect is actually an indicator of you not having the right expectations. it's actually a lesson you need to take and say "Oh! this isn't what I expected! Maybe my previous estimations were misguided? So let me take this misguided expectation to help me create a more realistic expectation, and if it happens again, that's okay, I'll create an even more realistic expectation, and through this process I'll move closer and closer to my goal, maybe get some perspectives from people who have taken this journey and how long it took them so all the obstacles I'm hitting won't really be a surprise because this is what they said was going to happen." 

I find this to be a very good attitude/mindset to have. You won't see all the obstacles, but that doesn't mean you quit because a snake jumped out of the grass, you're being shown the obstacles on your way there, everything is here to help you, the obstacles are here to help you. the greatest expectation you can make is realizing there will be obstacles you don't expect. this should help you expect improper expectations. 

 

Edited March 16, 2018 by Truth