how to stop judging

[haai14]

I just watched leos video about judging your self and other people. And in that video he said only 1 thing that helps is just being mindfull of how we judge. But what else i can do to stop judging, for example i see im judging my self for being x, do i just see that im judging and stop it or is there something else that i can do. I know i can question it and find a deep belief about my self for example i judge other people for being stupid because deep down i think im stupid and dont whant to look at it. so if i see that its a belief that i think im stupid what i do whit it. It just autocorrects after i see it? or i judge people for being fat, what i do whit it how do i drop that and dont think less of fat people?

Edited March 10, 2018 by haai14

[Shin]

Go in a crowded park, meditate by focusing on sounds only, and just don't judge what you hear.

Don't judge the judgment, or the judgment of the judment.

Just be totally passive about what happens in your head.

You can also do that in the metro or tramway or in a train.

Obviously you can also do that in any crowded area, but you need the balls to close your eyes there it's just more effective, but you can do it without).

 

Edited March 10, 2018 by Shin

[Emptystickfigure]

You judge people, like everyone else, because it makes you feel in control. 

Really, you're just projecting your ideas on what things, and people, should do, and/or be. Also, on some unconscious level, you're judging yourself if you were in that situation that that person/thing is in, in front of your eyes.

You will never stop judging, but you can realize why you're doing it and lessen it. Also, I think what most people mean when they say 'judge', they really mean 'condemn.' Maybe what the title of your thread really is is 'How to stop condemning?'

[haai14]

@Shin So your saying i just need to if i see my self judging just surrender and let it be whit out judging it more. Will if i start judging my self for being dumb stop after i see it and move attention many times or i need to look deeply at why? And if yes to second question what do i do when i find the why? For example i judge other people for being dumb and then when i see my self being dumb i feel bad. How do i stop thinking that being dumb is a bad thing?  Is it always just enough to be mindfull 24-7 and always come back to no mind.how can i be ok whit being dumb and other people being dumb?

@Emptystickfigure I mean judging is not the problem but the thing it does is. For example i judge other people for being dumb and then when i see my self being dumb i feel bad. How do i stop thinking that being dumb is a bad thing? what are the action steps

Edited March 10, 2018 by haai14

[Shin]

5 minutes ago, haai14 said:

@Shin So your saying i just need to if i see my self judging just surrender and let it be whit out judging it more. but for example if i judge my self for being dumb is it enough to just stop it and do nothing or i need to look deeply in to it and see why. Will if i start judging my self for being dumb stop after i see it and move attention many times or i need to look deeply at why? And if yes to question what i do when i find the why? For example i judge other people for being dumb and then when i see my self being dumb i feel bad. How do i stop thinking that being dumb is a bad thing?  Is it always just enough to be mindfull 24-7 and always come back to no mind.how can i be ok whit being dumb and other people being dumb?

@Emptystickfigure I mean i judging is not the problem but the thing it does is. For example i judge other people for being dumb and then when i see my self being dumb i feel bad. How do i stop thinking that being dumb is a bad thing? what are the action steps

By showing compassion.

The more you show compassion to yourself, the more compassionate you will be to other.

This is an intj who's talking, I can be EXTREMELY compassionate and caring (even physically) now, and it's one of our weakness, so it should be waaaaaapy easier for you (I hope)  ?

Yeah you also have to inquire why, but don't go too neurotic and hard on you about that, simply being conscious and accepting you can think something is already powerful in itself.

Edited March 10, 2018 by Shin

[haai14]

@Shin whats an intj, and i didnt understand what you mean by your whole 3th sentance, why is that a weakness and what do you mean it should be way easier for me. Sorry sometimes i just cant understand what somedody means.

 

 

[Shin]

Just now, haai14 said:

@Shin whats an intj, and i didnt understand what you mean by your whole 3th sentance, why is that a weakness and what do you mean it should be way easier for me. Sorry sometimes i just cant understand what somedody means.

 

 

Intj is a personality, they have hard time to be compassionate, so it should be easier for any other type.

 

[Clown]

Just realize that everybody's just living their lifes. Everybody is the main character in their own lifes working with what they are given. The way they act comes from how their parents brought them up, what kind of environment they grew up in, what kind of people were around them and what sort of ideas about the world they were exposed to. They're just working with what they know. Deep down everyone just wants to be happy but everyone has a different idea how to get the happiness. Sometimes people are so far into weird ideas and distortions that they think they have to be shitty persons to get what they want.

You might be lucky to have a clearer view of life than them but don't think you're better because of that. Have compassion. Everybody just basically wants love but many have the wrong idea on how to get it.

Edited March 10, 2018 by Clown
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[dorg]

55 minutes ago, haai14 said:

Will if i start judging my self for being dumb stop after i see it and move attention many times or i need to look deeply at why?

You just notice, be aware, that you are judging. That is enough. Being aware of it is enough.

You judge in order to give the ego (who you think you are) some drama to feed on.

Judging isn't good or bad. That is just more judging.

Edited March 10, 2018 by dorg