Insight On Neuroticism

[DocHoliday]

Normally we assume that our neuroses manifest in everything we think is bad or negative about ourselves. But, think again.
It's really not the case because many things we say or do which we'd classify as good, helping or beneficial can actually be harming and/or cause the opposite effect of what we intended to achieve.

For example, in the past I tried multiple times to introduce people around me to self-actualisation, in particular to Leo's videos but I had to realise that it didn't exactly play out as I thought it would. In other words: I tried to somehow superimpose my perspective and my ways of thinking onto others, not realising that we can be, and are very different from each other, even though my intentions were good and I wanted to help people.

This is obviously just one example of many many others that there could be, but essentially, realise that everybody has his/her own perspective on life and approaches things very differently in some cases. Therefore, you might want to try to observe more and absorb more instead of imposing yourself on others and trying to "convert" them to your own perspective, even when yours is actually better or more beneficial - people aren't always ready for what they're presented with and won't always pick it up in the way you inteded it. 

That's why empathy and the ability to put oneself in the position of others is so important. Whenever you do so, you counteract your neurotic tendencies and you will practically everytime come up with better or more impactful and persuasive things to say or take action on than if you'd have persisted to enforce your very own perspective. 

EDIT: But as always, look for the right balance.

Edited March 10, 2018 by DocHoliday

[DocHoliday]

 

[Arman]

1 hour ago, DocHoliday said:

. Therefore, you might want to try to observe more and absorb more instead of imposing yourself on others and trying to "convert" them to your own perspective, even when yours is actually better or more beneficial

are you sure? 

[DocHoliday]

@Arman Of course it all depends on your subjective interpretation on what's exactly "better" or "worse" but I think when you have someone who's engaging in self-destructive behaviour or whatever the case may be, I think it's safe to say that the mindset of a more aware and conscious person would be the more preferential one to adopt if you could choose between them, if you ask me. 

[Monkey-man]

you are justifying neuroticism. 

No, neurosis is there to be cured not to justify it. Its just a tool for spiritual growth, as well as suffering.

If we have no neurosis and suffering we can't grow much, if humanity can't grow humanity won't survive. 

 

[DocHoliday]

@Monkey-man Was your post directed to Arman or me?