Is Romantic Love Always Selfish?

[WildeChilde]

Is it possible to love someone selflessly, or is selfishness just an intrinsic part of romance?

[Spiral]

Is anything selfless? If I help an old lady cross the street I’ll feel happier, so I benefit. Without this mechanic there would be no “selfishness”.

Even if you are enlightened it’s not like you are helping someone else than yourself so that also becomes redundant.

[YaNanNallari]

Doing something is selfish if you do it for selfish reasons. Romance isn't intrinsically selfish but maybe your definition of romance is.