how to relate to reality with unconditional love?

[Patang]

when you can honestly tell anyone you just met, that for him, you would stop the world from spinning, if that was necessary, knowing that after helping him, you might never see him again, and you honestly do not expect anything in return.

[KMB4222]

Well, I'm not there yet, but what I have found most helpful along the way is trying to find commonality between yourself and other people. Look for the ways in which you behave the same, even if you are doing something different. For example, I sometimes think that playing around on your phone is a waste of time and I look at other people like they are wasting their time when I see them playing games on their phones. Even though I don't play mobile games, I am still doing what they are doing - distracting myself. I just do it in different ways. I find it helpful to dig deeper into what it is I am first noticing about peoples' behaviour, then identify how I do the same thing, albeit even in a different form. 

Also helpful are trying to be understanding and forgiving of others, including yourself. Learning about human psychology and behaviour can come in handy here, because it will help you understand why we do what we do sometimes. The ego/mind always wants to point the finger and externalize the problem. But there might not even be a problem at all. We're all in the same ship here. 

Another thing to look into might be Loving-Kindness meditation. In brief, it involves developing a sense of love for yourself, others, and eventually the entire universe. 

[Nahm]

Just life.     That I even am.