Is Intimacy Really Necessary?

[DayTraderEdward]

Call me crazy, but I find sex to be more like food, simply a biological need. I do not desire possession of a woman, nor am I emotionally needy. In fact, I would prefer sex with many women as a way to "eat," as in "nourishment." Am I insane for being content? I love being friends with women, but feel like the people in "Brave New World." "In love with what?" indeed. 

[Guest]

45 minutes ago, DayTraderEdward said:

Call me crazy, but I find sex to be more like food, simply a biological need. I do not desire possession of a woman, nor am I emotionally needy. In fact, I would prefer sex with many women as a way to "eat," as in "nourishment." Am I insane for being content? I love being friends with women, but feel like the people in "Brave New World." "In love with what?" indeed. 

A good point, you are not crazy my friend. True love isn't about women anyway. 

[clytaemnestra]

You' re not crazy, I'm the same.

[kalter000]

Don't confuse possession and neediness with intimacy.When you are in relationship you with partner can become soulmates, understanding each other on a deep, almost spiritual level. Intimacy = "into me see", as Teal calls it. it's stage of the most real, authentic relationship, where you aren't afraid to be vulnerable and open - lone wolves can't stand it. 

If you take this consumerist approach towards women then that's ok. But you might miss something deep you can create.

[LeoDai]

According to maslow hirechy of needs sex is the basic physiological need of human

[DayTraderEdward]

According to Maslow, love is a deficiency need. 

[Pav]

19 hours ago, DayTraderEdward said:

According to Maslow, love is a deficiency need. 

Maslow makes the distinction between two different types of love; deficiency-love and being-love. D-love is needy, possessive, and neurotic. Infatuation (the "in love" experience) is a form of D-love. B-love is completely non-needy and non-possessive, it is admiring rather than needing. You love the person for as they are without needing anything in return (or needing love in return). B-lovers are independent of one another and do not get easily jealous or threatened. It is the love between a healthy mother and her baby. Perhaps you love some close friends and family in such a way?

As for your original question; it is good that you are not needy or looking to possess someone and I would try to avoid the "in love" experience if possible. Personally I think simply seeking to fulfil your deficiency need for sex will be quiet unsatisfying in the long run. I think you could have much more satisfying sex with someone you have a genuine emotional connection with.