How to be wordy?

[WhiteCongrats]

Hello.
I've been struggling with being wordy since I remember. I cannot break down topics even when I know much about it. I'm automatically and unconsciously starting to shorten my statement/story to such a degree that I don't even know how I could extend my statement and say more about it (as I said -even if I know more about a certain topic).
I cured my shyness enough to not be embarrassed while chatting someone up. I can start a talk but I don't really know what to say. I feel dim.
Some people always have something to say even if it's total nonsense.
Have you got any tips?
Would reading books help? Or what?
Thanks, cheers.

Edited February 7, 2018 by WhiteCongrats

[Charlotte]

I'm exactly the same, hope you don't mind me following for advice @WhiteCongrats

[deci belle]

hi you guys~ just let 'er rip …then clean it up.

Quote

 "I'm automatically and unconsciously…"

Let's call that self-consciously…

Self-consciousness is an utterly self-paralyzing (self-defeating) habit.

Just loosen up a bit …and let 'er rip~ heehee!!

I feel that genuine curiosity is essential for your own developmental aspirations as well as for rewarding social interaction. If you have something you know, that you wish to express~ at least be curious enough to find out how you would have said it in the first place without recriminations.

Quote

"Some people always have something to say even if it's total nonsense."

haha!! That's for others to decide, non? Nobody's perfect. Be sparing (I should talk!) , but exact a feeling of generosity~ obviously it means a lot to you. There will always be those who will be disparaging and cynical. To hell with them~❤︎

[NoSelfSelf]

You dont need to talk just ask queastions so other people can talk and listen

[Staples]

Don't try to be someone you're not,  you'll bang your head against a brick wall and feel very inauthentic.

I'm not sure if you're just highly introverted and feel like that's a problem, or you're just unsure how to be more articulate and explain yourself better.

I'm practising articulation by writing a 750 world essay 3 times a week. I just pick a random topic and write. I use this PDF as a guideline to make sure my work comes out good; http://jordanbpeterson.com/docs/230/Hints on writing.pdf

[Joseph Maynor]

1.  How to be wordy.  Try speaking into a recorder for 30 minutes on your topic.  Explore.  Get out of the writing and into the speaking.  Don’t censor yourself.  This called free-writing.  Turn that judging Mind off and just let the words come out on their own.  Let the right brain roam free.

2.  Learn how to summarize and how to outline.

This is where you gotta turn the left brain off and use the right brain.  

Summarizing is using general language to convey the essence or jist of what’s being said.  Imagine I told you to summarize this question you asked into a single paragraph.  That’s the art of summarizing.  And it is an art, nobody knows how to do this naturally.  I distinctly recall that I got great at it when I went to paralegal school and had to summarize legal cases.

Outlining is arranging the key points and examples into a kind of structure that reveals connections between the ideas.

Edited February 8, 2018 by Joseph Maynor

[WhiteCongrats]

Thank you all for your help, I'm definitely gonna use your tips. Will be interesting, never heard of them.
Looking forward to getting more ideas.
Thanks