Becoming the average of the people around you?

[Octafish]

In your experience, how true is it that you become the average of the people your surround yourself with? 

How does this apply to your goals in life? Do you need some sort of criteria for what people you spend a lot of time with? 

How does this apply to your family? If their personality traits are far from what you need to do what you dream of, is it unavoidable that you pick it up if you're living at home?

I'd love to hear your experiences with stuff that is even vaguely related to this. I'm trying to get a bit of an overview and google seems to just give me articles that say the same exact things.

[MarkusSweden]

1 minute ago, Octafish said:

In your experience, how true is it that you become the average of the people your surround yourself with? 

How does this apply to your goals in life? Do you need some sort of criteria for what people you spend a lot of time with? 

How does this apply to your family? If their personality traits are far from what you need to do what you dream of, is it unavoidable that you pick it up if you're living at home?

I'd love to hear your experiences with stuff that is even vaguely related to this. I'm trying to get a bit of an overview and google seems to just give me articles that say the same exact things.

Personally, my experience is that it hugely important to choose company wisely. Some people are too stupid to "get" your personality, they just can't pick it up. 

Oter people might be jealous of some trait in your personality, it might be your compassion or wisdom, or just general love you share with life and existence. 

Then there are people that like to be puppet masters. They consciously or sub consciously wants to control or have power over you. 

But on an absolute level nothing of this matters, it's all one, the same awareness are flowing in each of us. 

But I think paying attention to the relative aspect of duality can be beneficial as well. 

Chose your friends wisely! The fewer the better. Many friends is almost equal to no friend.