PLEASE HELP

[Tony Tellez]

So I finally hit the motivation to go to the gym every day and that’s what I been doing daily for the past two weeks, and the only reason why I have this motivation is because I realized that everything is a ln illusion and that nothing is true, like having parents that helps me  to feel better is an illusion( because they never did) having friends is an illusion and that everything really is an illusion that I can’t control,i realized that all my friends just come and fade away and that they don’t care about me really,  the only thing I have control over is my body and my health and that’s it, I every realized that if I had a boyfriend is only because I’m fit and nothing else..

[Tony Tellez]

i Have zero friends and nobody to talk to and I bet if I get fit and try to be good looking i will get more friends and people will listen to me more.... I don’t feel right about this buy this is how the world is... I can’t stop thinking about this

[Shin]

Thinking everything is an illusion is a concept.

You wouldn't act like that if you were really experiencing this.

You don't need to be ultra hot or to be any different than you are now to make friends, you just have to stop trying to be something you are not and accepting how you are.

The most attractive trait that someone can have is to be totally open to himself, totally at ease with himself (Of course I'm talking about women too) , non-judging and compassionate.

This you already have, you just get to get in touch with it, so you need to start a meditation practice and practicing mindfulness nonstop starting now.

 

 

 

Edited February 3, 2018 by Shin

[Tony Tellez]

@Shin right, thank you, honestly I stopped watching porn I don’t know how long ago because I’m not counting, and I been doing lots of exercises and that has clear a lot of fog in my brain and I realized that I always have high expectations about everything and they mostly not come true and that got me stresssed out a lot.

[Shin]

Stop having expectations then, there is no need for it.

The only thing expectation does is making you disapointed, because nothing is ever as good as you expected.

Edited February 3, 2018 by Shin

[Tony Tellez]

@Shin exactly thank you!

[Shin]

Thank yourself.

It's you who made an account here, it's you who asked for help, and it's you who's trying to overcome your shortcomings'

I jus talk