Newly Uncovered Limiting Beliefs & Mindset Towards Money & Business

[kieranperez]

When I started wondering why I haven’t taken action in my life purpose and have been so stuck in not working to better my life circumstances, e.g. moving out, earning my solid income, etc. this is what surfaced:

•  I’ve never been motivated by money. I want to live a certain kinda life which I know requires money but actually earning money has never motivated me. 
•  Working to produce massive value comes off as like I’m going to have to become a people pleaser and I’m tired of other people’s reactions and opinions of me bother and effect me. I want to live life on my terms.
• Marketing is so contrived and in-genuine even if the thing you’re/I’m Marketing is itself genuine. Even if I’m Marketing my authentic personality, I cringe at the idea. It’s so contrived and fake. Just seems like more people pleasing.
• - Business has never motivated me. I’ve never cared about it. 
• - Doing business is going to have me step aside from all the other aspirations I have for myself personally that I want to accomplish, e.g. running, working on myself, spiritual work, etc. which matters to me more than just doing business.

[aurum]

@kieranperez

That's a handful. Let's see if we can shift some of these right now:

9 hours ago, kieranperez said:

 I’ve never been motivated by money. I want to live a certain kinda life which I know requires money but actually earning money has never motivated me. 

That's like saying "I want to be full, but I'm not motivated to eat food". How can you get one without the other?

9 hours ago, kieranperez said:

 Working to produce massive value comes off as like I’m going to have to become a people pleaser and I’m tired of other people’s reactions and opinions of me bother and effect me. I want to live life on my terms.

You SHOULD want to be a people pleaser.

The problem with people pleasing isn't that you're providing value to people. It's that you usually get so caught up in trying to appease others that you either:

1) Burn out

2) Become so afraid of how you're being judged by others that you do nothing

3) You tone down what you really want just to avoid conflict

None of these things have to do with adding value.

Adding value is one of the smartest things you can do in life because you GET what you GIVE. It also shows social intelligence and that you actually give a fuck about the person you're interacting with.

No one calls Leo a people pleaser because he pumps out massive amounts of free content.

9 hours ago, kieranperez said:

Marketing is so contrived and in-genuine even if the thing you’re/I’m Marketing is itself genuine. Even if I’m Marketing my authentic personality, I cringe at the idea. It’s so contrived and fake. Just seems like more people pleasing.

Some marketing can come off that way. But who says you have to market the way other people market?

The best marketing is genuine and connects with the customer at a deep level.

Either way, notice that it's your judgment that says marketing "should" look at certain way. Maybe reality doesn't care how you think it should work and it would be much smarter to just go with the flow.

Study marketing. Gain appreciation for it.

9 hours ago, kieranperez said:

- Business has never motivated me. I’ve never cared about it. 

If you weren't connected with your life purpose, of course you wouldn't be motivated to start a business. A business only makes sense once you realize it can be a vehicle for something you're attempting to produce into the world.

And depending on your life purpose, you don't HAVE to start a business. Some people are artists more than businessmen. Or your life purpose could even be working for someone else. That's your call.

9 hours ago, kieranperez said:

Doing business is going to have me step aside from all the other aspirations I have for myself personally that I want to accomplish, e.g. running, working on myself, spiritual work, etc. which matters to me more than just doing business.

That's just a straight up lie. Even Gary Vee who puts in 16 hour days and runs multi-million dollar businesses has time to get to the gym.

I guarantee you're wasting massive amounts of time throughout your day. We all do. If this is that important to you, systematically start cutting all that shit out.

You've got to make time. If self-actualization is that important, maybe make your business revolve around that like Leo did. Then you'll be paid to do the work that matters to you the most. Get creative.