Wanting To get things right And done

[twosees]

Hey Gents, ladies. I'm happy to hear that Leo has rolled out a self actualisation forum. This is exciting. And I hope it'll. I've been watching Leo's videos for quite a while now

but I get stuck in this ruts he keeps talking about in 'How to Get Shit Done '. Where you watch material but never actually get things done.  

I'm having trouble manoeuvring and transitioning into a whole results orientated person. .I then get stuck in neurotic behaviours like overeating, wanking( Lord please make it stop)   Schools become a bit of a bust. I'm only 18 by the way. This is my final yyear.

[Stiliqnnnman]

Damn, i can tottaly relate dude  

I know its tough , i got into self development/ spirituallity probbably about 1,2 years ago (btw im your age , finishing highschool ) 
and man , before that i just used to do all the stupid sh*t all of my friends did , i used to scroll facebook like a retard all day long , smoke weed,
drink , watch porn all the time (which btw made my already existing anxiety worse) , and i never really questioned this behavior until recently 
when i started bringing some counsciousness to the table , so yea dude long story short , it does rub off on you and it takes time for your body
and mind to get used to your new way of life , and DONT i repeat DONT beat yourself up when you fall of the wagon , becouse trust me you will eventually slip into your old way of doing things BUT THATS OK! Personal development really is an on going process and at first it will be tough to get over your PAST which is one of the biggest reasons for our struggles , but then once you really forget about it and start investing more and more of your time into the present momment , making things better here and now , the possibilites are endless.

[twosees]

@Stiliqnnnman Ayyy Bro what's up. It's good to hear that I'm not the only one on this journey. ? I crave awareness so much but it doesn't show in my actions lol.  

I wanted to ask how do you not beat yourself up?.. I can have will power for a few days but then if I do something wrong, I justify myself to do another wrong thing... How do I fix this stage? Thanks for taking the time to reply earlier.  Means a lot *Bro hug*no home*???

[Harry]

Hi,

I had the same issue with where I would watch a lot of videos about personal development but end up doing fuck all. I have managed to kick myself into gear in the past 8 months or so. This was thanks a lot to Nathanial Brandons work "six pillars of self esteem".

He's got a brilliant technique in there, sentance completion, which I found really pulls the wool from over your eyes and makes you notice all the sneaky ways your mind has been deceiving you. 

How it works is you are given a start of a sentace and you have to write 5-10 endings for this sentence with as little (preferably no) room for thought as possible. Don't censor yourself or try too hard to write something 'life changing' just let your hand flow and see what your mind spews out.

Some useful sentance for you might be:

If I am bring more awareness to my neurosis...

If I bring more awareness to my school work...

If I accept responsibility for my bad eating habits...

for more I would highly recommend purchasing some of Nathanial Brandens work on the subject. I give a warning though, doing this excersice really will awaken you from all the bullshit you've been telling yourself, which can be fucking scary while its happening, but is essential if you want to grow. 

 

[twosees]

Will do thank you @Harry.  Appreciate and yes if thats what it takes to get out off th bull shit i am going to shell shock myself. Keep in touch brudda?

[Stiliqnnnman]

@twosees Look dude all of it is mental !  It's just your thoughts , you get tons of them during the day , and you cant do anything about it 
BUT !! , you can choose which thoughts to entertain and which to let go , all your problems came from entertaining the wrong thoughts (so do mine) , whatever you think you become  its really quite simple BUT not easy at all. Meditation , Meditation, Meditation.. it helps so much to just observe the BS going on in your head without judging or entertaining it , and that awareness you get out of it spills into your day to day life. Hope i made sense and helped a little dude , good luck on your journey and stay awesome !   cya l8r *Bro hug back at ya*