Removed toxic friend from life

[Deep]

I recently removed a toxic friend. He was very selfish and he used me. I think he was talking to the welfare office in his state and he wanted to avoid collecting welfare but I don't know. 

Here is the story: One day I was cooking lunch and suddenly he texted me. He told me to tell them I'm his landlord and that he pays me rent. Then 1 minute later some lady called me. I told her yes he does pay the rent. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and thought maybe he has a good reason to lie. I lied to protect him. He's lucky I didn't tell her the truth. 

Then I texted him and told him, "Get your shit together so we don't have to lie. I don't want to get arrested." He said, "Don't worry about that. If they call just ignore them." I said, "Okay." Then I was feeling shitty throughout the day because I don't like lying. 

The next day I called him but he didn't pick up. I left a message. A few minutes later we had texting conversation like this:

Friend: What's up? 

Me: Nothing much. I just want to hear the story behind what happened yesterday. 

Friend: You need something to do...I told you not to worry about. It's a whole new day dude. 

Me: Well, if you're going to ask for my help I should know why I'm helping you. You shouldn't keep secrets like that. Otherwise we can't be friends. It's not a good thing to do. I can't trust you. I'll give you a few days to tell me the truth. I won't judge you as long as it's a valid reason. Otherwise I can't be friends with you. It just shows me your character is bad. 

Friend: I don't need you to give me anything to be honest. I don't have time for this, so see ya, best of luck. Lmao. See ya. 

Me: Ok that's fine with me. 

I don't mind helping friends if there is a valid reason. I'm guessing he didn't have one for this. He has acted selfishly before so this wasn't his only offense. If he was trying to avoid welfare (which I don't know), he could've done that without lying. 

 

[Santiago]

Well done, looks like he wasn't actually a friend.

[Deep]

@Santiago Thanks 

[Key Elements]

Your intuition is correct. Friends like that could get you into big trouble for no reason. It's not worth the trouble. He's not letting you see the entire picture, just his side of the story.

Hmm..later, I'll also be wondering, how did I attract such a friend into my life in the first place?

[Shin]

[Deep]

@Key Elements Exactly! I was unhealthy when I attracted the friend. My discernment wasn't very strong but now it's getting stronger. I've noticed some of my family members are toxic as well. They've tried to manipulate me. I'll write about that some other time. 

@Shin I agree. 

[pluto]

[Shin]

2 hours ago, pluto said:

So we are at at posting picture without text, without context now.

I see, I see.

We're closer to no thing day by day, it's crazy !

Edited February 1, 2018 by Shin

[pluto]

2 minutes ago, Shin said:

So we are at at posting picture without text, without context now.

I see, I see.

We,re closer to no thing day by day, it's crazy !

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