You can be happier if you stop thinking about sex

[Monkey-man]

Two reasons why your sexual fantasies make you unhappy.

1. Semen is vital force. We lose unnecessary amounts of this sacral fluid. Don't flush your life into the toilet.

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Retention of semen is so essential in progressive human life that it is simply astounding how the whole endeavor of modern civilization is based on discharging it as much as possible. Semen retained in the body goes upwards to nourish the brain, rendering the body robust and the memory and intellect sharp.  Scientists have analyzed semen to be amazingly rich in hormones, proteins, vitamins, minerals, ions, enzymes, trace elements, and other vital substances. By nature’s arrangement, this substance, when mixed with the ovum, is sufficient for the procreation of a new body. By nature’s arrangement also, if it is not used for procreation but is kept within, it nourishes the body and brain in a way impossible for any tonic or dietary aid to emulate. The current craze for vitamin and mineral supplements is an attempt to make up for self-imposed deficiencies. Most people don’t know that they are passing out their very life energy with that essential bodily fluid. If semen is lost, all bodily and sensory functions are weakened. Repeated loss of semen spoils the determination and clear, sattvika intelligence necessary for spiritual understanding. However, if semen is retained in the body, there develops what Ayurveda refers to as ojas, a vital fluid that gives strength, luster, enhanced mental abilities and immunity to diseases, and slows the aging process. As premature old age sets in, their exhausted bodies cannot resist the dozens of diseases which proceed to ravage every cell in their organism. For such persons, the all-too-common senility comes as a relief. Srila Prabhupada: “The more one enjoys in youth, the more he suffers in old age.” (SB 4.28.1)

HH Bhakti Vikasa Swami’s book Brahmacarya in Krishna Consciousness

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2255se/next_time_u_want_to_blow_a_load_remember_this/

2. Dopamine imbalance. High exposure to sexual imagery increases craving and decreases satisfaction.

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In addition, pornography gives the brain an unnatural high. In a recent TEDx talk, physiology teacher Gary Wilson explained that when men look at porn, they experience surge after surge of dopamine in the brain. The brain eventually fatigues, stopping the production of dopamine, leaving the viewer wanting more but unable to reach a level of satisfaction. As a result, everyday pleasures stop causing excitement.

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The evolutionary purpose of dopamine is to motivate you to do what serves your genes. The bigger the squirt, the more you want something. No dopamine and you just ignore it. Chocolate cake and ice cream—a big blast. Celery—not so much. Sexual stimulation offers the biggest natural blast of dopamine available to your reward circuitry. One of dopamine's nicknames is the "molecule of addiction" because it plays a central role in all addictions.

Although dopamine is often referred to as a "pleasure molecule," this is not technically accurate. Dopamine is all about seeking and searching for rewards, the anticipation, the wanting. Dopamine provides the motivation and drive to pursue potential rewards or long term goals. Although controversial, it appears that the final reward or good feelings arise from opioids. Put simply - dopamine is wanting, opioids are liking.

As psychologist Susan Weinschenk explained, the neurotransmitter dopamine does not cause people to experience pleasure, but rather causes a seeking behavior. “Dopamine causes us to want, desire, seek out, and search,” she wrote. It is the opioid system that causes one to feel pleasure. Yet, “the dopamine system is stronger than the opioid system,” she explained. “We seek more than we are satisfied.”

Brain circuits involved in motivation and reward seeking become hyper-sensitive to memories or cues related to the addictive behavior. This results in increased "wanting" or craving while liking or pleasure diminishes.

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/doing-what-you-evolved-to-do

 

Look at the modern society. Its one big porn. You are just constantly exposed to nudity and sexual imagery that makes your body to be unnecessary aroused, create unnecessary semen and in the end it hijacks your dopamine, leaving you wandering around thinking why you feel so anxious.

-Internet

-All kinds of mass media

-Billboards and ads shining from every corner of the street. Number one tool of marketing is to show you imagery with sexual context.

-Movies. Although nudity and sexual context can be necessary to express art or entertain, in most contemporary movies its used not in a beautiful, meaningful or necessary ways, and not even in really entertaining ways, but needlessly, just for its own sake, to attract viewers. Its not much of an art or fun but of a porn.

-Half-naked or dressed in overly seductive ways women. This is huge. On the one hand, woman tries to send signals in such way or wants to feel attractive, and thats perfectly fine, I'm not judging that. But on the other, most of the time its a big distraction. Most of time, you walk on the street, look and thats it, unnecessary increase in dopamine, unnecessary creation and loss of sacral fluid. And then you repeat that cycle many times during the day, during years, decades. Ending up chronically frustrated. No wonder why religions like Islam propagates body cover and ban on nudity in imagery. It has its significance. But even that can be considered as some sort of enslavement. In the internet era, it doesn't solve much of psychological outcomes. Sex revolution produced its unavoidable traps too. I guess liberty should go hand to hand with mental detachment from all goodies that liberty grants you. As all goodies are only goodies for free mind and end up as baddies for unfree.

Osho sums it up perfectly

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Osho: – Amit Prem, sex is beautiful, sexuality ugly. And the difference has to be understood. Sex is a natural phenomenon; sexuality is unnatural, abnormal and pathological. When sex becomes cerebral, when sex enters into your head, it becomes sexuality.

Now, the head is not the center for sex. That is getting into a confusion, it is getting upside-down, it is getting deranged. Sex is not the function of the head. But when sex enters in through the head it becomes sexuality. Then you THINK about sex, then you fantasize about sex. And the more you think, the more you fantasize about it, the more you will get into trouble. Then nothing real will ever satisfy you, because there is no limitation on fantasy, and reality IS limited.

That is the problem the West is facing; it has fantasized too much about sex. The West has become sexual through fantasy, the East has become sexual through repression. Both have become sexual and both have lost the natural capacities of enjoying sex. Both have become pathological, through different routes. The West has become pathological by fantasizing sex to be the ultimate goal of life, and the East has become pathological by thinking that sex is the ultimate barrier between God and man.

Sex is neither. Neither is it the ultimate goal nor the ultimate barrier. Sex is a simple phenomenon like hunger or thirst; there is nothing more to it. It is not what the Eastern mind has been thinking about it. The Eastern mind is too afraid of sex. Out of fear, sex has moved into the head; through the door of fear it has entered into the head. So the Eastern so-called saints are simply fantasizing about sex, because they have repressed it. And that which you repress goes on coming up again and again. It cannot be destroyed; nothing can ever be destroyed by repression. Repression makes sex pathological sexuality. This is one extreme.

The West has moved to another extreme. The other extreme is, fantasize about it. Sex is all, everything else is secondary, so have as much sex as you can. You cannot really have too much sex, there are limitations to the body. But you can fantasize as much as you want, there is no limitation to it. So pornography exists, blue films exist, girly magazines exist. And people are being fed on these illusory mirages. Then no real woman, no real man, will ever satisfy you.

These are both pathological states. Sexuality is pathological, whether you come to it through fear or greed does not matter. The East has become ill through fear, the West has become ill through greed. Greed and fear are two aspects of the same coin. So on the surface it looks very different, as if the Eat and the West are poles apart. They are not. Those who know, those who can see, they can see that it is the same foolishness, the same stupidity. They have arrived at the same stupidity from different doors, that is true, but they have entered into the same place. And both have to be awakened, and both have to be made more enlightened about sex. Don’t make much fuss about sex EITHER way. That is the first fundamental. If you want sex to become love, the first fundamental is: accept sex as an absolutely natural phenomenon. Don’t bring your metaphysics to it, don’t bring your religion to it. It has nothing to do with religion or metaphysics, it is a simple fact of life. It is a way that life reproduces itself. It is as simple as the trees bringing flowers and fruits: you don’t condemn the flowers. Flowers are sex energy; it is through the flowers that the tree is sending its seeds, its potentiality, to reproduce other trees.

 

[Shin]

90 days without sex, porn and masturbation.

You'll thank us.

[deci belle]

Yay!

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2. Dopamine imbalance. High exposure to sexual imagery increases craving and decreases satisfaction.

Actually, there is a wealth of highly satisfying erotic imagery available that is not necessarily conducive to wasting the male's vital force into oblivion— but perhaps this kind of imagery is too subtle for some people.

It must be a fact that some males want to ejaculate excessively and habitually to their detriment.

Femme aren't dissipated by orgasm— but most males also aren't aware of the fact that ejaculation and orgasm (in the male) are two separate functions. There is also a wealth of information (some of it very high quality) on this subject. There are also sources of mis-information on this subject.

It is harmful for the male to press or pinch off his semen flow manually before and during ejaculation. The psychosomatic trigger to ejaculate at orgasm must be re-trained. It's not a thing~ it's a matter of will, technique and practice.

In lieu of that level of sexual proficiency, it is well for those whose masturbation is habitual and chronic to mindfully go right to the edge of ejaculation without allowing the event to culminate. Do that habitually instead— that practice coupled with the waterwheel exercise will produce an incomparably beneficial result able to repair the self-abuse they are committing now.

Males are trés competitive~ I challenge these men to at least try to stop at sufficiency without even spilling a drip-drop~ heehee!!

 

 

ed note" add "or" on 6th paragraph

Edited January 29, 2018 by deci belle

[Monkey-man]

@deci belle yes subtle such as art, paintings etc wherever you might be able to appreciate that without needing to possess object of appreciation, it is need to possess that creates fantasies

that kind of tantric or taoist techniques are rather advanced, if you are homme you know that you better don't think about it at all rather than try to get pleasure without spilling drops 

femmes are also not protected against dissatisfaction from dopamine-opiate disbalance

 

@Shin are you love already as osho promised?

[Shin]

@Monkey-man What is that ?

[Monkey-man]

@Shin abstaining from visualising sex makes you to see it as act of love only

[Shin]

3 minutes ago, Monkey-man said:

@Shin abstaining from visualising sex makes you to see it as act of love only

Yeah, pure giving.

That's what life is about !

The more you give the more you receive, but you don't even care about receiving at that point,

Which make it even more beautiful !

[Forestluv]

2 hours ago, Shin said:

Yeah, pure giving.

That's what life is about !

The more you give the more you receive, but you don't even care about receiving at that point,

Which make it even more beautiful !

And one doesn’t care about giving anymore, which makes it even even more beautiful. Love expressing itself with no filter.

[pluto]

^BAM

[Adam M]

thank you for sharing this you are a fucking champion