Random loneliness.

[Spiral]

I get this sometimes, it very strange because it not like I actually want to be with anyone.

I've got it right now as I'm writing this, I've seen Leo's video on it were he advocates suffering through the whole experience. I mean sure I can do that, it disappear while I sleep. So I normally just go to bed. 

I'm not the most fun to be around anyways when I'm like this. So I actually avoid creating last minute plans.

Regardless of how I deal with it comes back after a few days. It's normally trigger by me seeing other people doing something fun. I can't really say that I've had any fun for a long time, over a year. 

In the past I would really enjoy going out partying, now I get really depressed by alcohol and find the idea of partying kind of depressing. Not that think that I'm better than that, it's just I don't have that fun at them and when then everyone else gets buzy and I'm all alone, wondering aimlessly. 

I do have conversation regularly with friends but I don't consider them fun it's just me doing something to pass the time. Or because someone is in need of assistance. 

Well the best solution is obviously to get rid of all loneliness for good, but I can't just isolate myself for a month. I have work to do that involves other people among other things.

[Ian]

My suggestion would be to own the feeling. Really sink into it. Be grateful for it. Feel the aching, the longing. I find it to be very powerful, and a mystical experience all of its own. If you are lonely, then that is because it is what you need to experience to achieve your highest potential.

Take the opportunity to really become aware of what you are feeling in your body, and how it is healing. Let your body know how special it is to you

 

Namaste

 

[Nahm]

@Spiral Sleeping is a distraction relative to sitting through it. That’s why it returns. Stop the bullshit negative self talk. You’re better than that. You can do anything you focus on. Yes -   Even that. 

[Wolfgang Rechberger]

Well I don't thing it's a problem that you are no longer into partying. Maybe don't seek persons, you would like to interact with, find activities you like to do and then you'll probably meet like-minded people doing so. Dig into why you don't like to talk to your friends - do they have different topics - which you don't find important. Or maybe do you think they wouldn't understand what drives you or what is important for you.  If so - maybe getting out of your usual waters and meeting new people (maybe of different age) could give you new interest in interacting with people. 

If your loneliness gets somewhat depressing, try exercising like running, walks in nature or else. Especially getting out in nature (like woods or so) usually give me a better perspective about a lot of stuff. I also get a very physiological Down every December/January based on the missing sunlight, knowing that this is a natural thing helped me somewhat dealing with it. So if you see any  regularities maybe check your body basics: Sleep, Nutrition, Sunlight, Sport - which can effect your mental state as well.