Advice for Coping with Bad Roomie Situation

[Stardog]

Hey everyone, first post here, just looking for some support/advice with my personal development work. I started this journey almost a year ago, right around the time that I moved into my current place with a couple of friends. Long story short, I was doing really well for a while till one of them screwed up in a major way and had to move out, and I let myself fall off the wagon. Been getting back on track, but we recently got a new renter, and I'm having trouble with the current situation. Long rant incoming:

The roommate who moved out (we'll call him Adam) had to because after paying his first months rent, the other initial roomie (let's say John) paid his rent for 3 months while Adam spent his days getting high and playing video games. Without telling me that he was covering for Adam. When month 5 rolled around, it was brought to my attention for the first time that Adam couldn't make rent. He gave me 60 dollars and I covered the rest, but made it clear that he needed to get a job and I expected to be paid back. At which point John brought up (for the first time) that he'd been paying Adam's rent, and dumped that debt on him at the same time. Long story short, Adam never got a job and had to move out. I then put John in charge of finding a replacement, seeing as I work full time and didn't have access to a computer at the time, while John... literally does nothing. If he leaves the house, I consider it a monumental achievement. Point is, almost 6 months pass before a replacement is found, all which is punctuated by me having to constantly remind him to keep posting on Craigslist, put up flyers at his school, etc. The new roomie (Tyler) is enrolled in school as a full time student (40 credit semester, that sort of thing) but, just like the other two, spends all his time getting high and watching TV. And I mean literally ALL his time. If he's up before I go to work around noon, its an early morning for him. Whenever he is up, the first thing he does is get high, and then starts vegging out on the couch. He's there when I leave for work, and he's there when I get back 8-9 hours later. He hasn't attended a single class since the semester started. This has led to a lot of friction within the apartment, which to top it all off drives my cat fucking bonkers. When its just us he's super sweet and pretty well behaved, but whenever the other two are around he picks up on the stress and starts to act out. They both pay rent, thankfully, so I'm not looking to get rid of them or anything, but as part of my development, I've been reasserting myself into the apartment as a whole. I'm not spending as much time holed up in my room when I'm home and such, which definitely makes the two of them uncomfortable. I can't really judge them for smoking, as I used to be a pretty massive pothead as well, but when I was I was holding down a job, attending school daily, in the best physical health of my life and was making tangible strides forward with my development and life purpose. So their inability to be even remotely functional adults is hard for me to wrap my head around. I quit because this environment takes what used to be a nice way to relax and occasionally have some cool experiences and turns it into a weird, dysfunctional, denial fueled addiction.

TLDR; my roomies are lazy, good-for-nothing potheads, and I could use some advice for dealing with the anxiety and stress that brings about.

I'm working on detaching myself more from the negative feelings, but I'd like some more practical advice for dealing with the situation. Obviously there's nothing I can do to change their behavior, I have learned that the hard way multiple times over the years, but can I do anything to make it clear to them that I'm not interested in their lifestyle without actually sitting down and just spelling it out to them? As it is, they seem to assume I'm going to return to the fun, super accepting guy I was when we first moved in (I had a couple of awakenings/minor enlightenment experiences in the first few months, so I was super laid back and supportive, which mostly was just taken advantage of.) I'd prefer to avoid such and an encounter, as it strikes me as primarily a waste of time. Sorry for the long and whiny first post. Most of the people I know in the area are either through work, where discussing this feels inappropriate, or through the aforementioned roommates, so can't really bring this up there either, and these feelings have been building up for a while.

[Amadeusz]

Distancing from them, changing environment seems like a good idea..?

Edited January 28, 2018 by Amadeusz

[Cjaryo]

I think you just need to get better friends and roomies. If you're going to develop yourself you have got to get in the right environment for it.

[Nahm]

@Stardog Without judgement in our minds, we are completely free. Every judgement is like every trigger of anger - they are very useful in showing us where we are unaligned with our true self.

[Amadeusz]

Nahm what do you mean? That's true that judgement renders anger but are you saying that it's simultaneously an indicator for him to move on? 

Edited January 28, 2018 by Amadeusz

[Stardog]

Can't really move out till the lease is up, but that is the plan the second I can. @NahmI get what you're saying and I've actually moved past a lot of the reflexive judgements and anger over the past week or so. But just "not judging" doesn't suddenly let me read a book in my own living room in peace, nor provide a safety net for when they get their financial aid revoked. I'm aware there's nothing I can DO about the situation for the time being, I'm wondering if anyone has advice for coping with the friction without just giving in. Cause I've done a lot of that, and its time for me to start moving forward again.