Video games, depression, girls, social media, communication?

[Uncover]

Hi, 

What are your thoughts about video games and social media? Are they really bad? 

I started playing League of Legends two months ago and I have no skill, but I can't stop playing. I deleted the game several times and just reinstalled it. I want to delete it again but I would just reinstall it. It just makes me frustrated and angry. 

And when I see on social media all  the super ideal lives others are living I start to pity myself and the frustration strenghtents.  I think I might even be depressed. I've lost sight of joy in anything. I don't feel like doing anything. 

I tried to approach girls but it just won't work out. And when I finaly got a date I just left because I was scared (22 virgin). Frustration level 9999! I'm 22, I think it's too late to even try. It's no point. I would just ruin everything. I always looked for that ideal girl and settled for nothing less. 10 years ago I had my first "crush", I worshipped her more that I worshipped God. Greatest obsession I ever had. I would search for her anywhere and do anything just to see her face. That obsession staied with me till 3 years ago even thought she left the country 5 years ago.  Three years ago I fell in love with another girl, she friendzoned me. Two months ago I fell for another, she friedzoned me. I fell in love, or these might be just my hormons bursting out when meeting that ideal girl? Answer is simple, mother nature power.

Communication problems!!!- I would speak only a few sentences a day, if really necessary. I can't hold eye contact when talking. I would just agree to whatever the other person has to say. I even went to a psychologist and couldn't do anything to make me talk. Once he said he will just keep quied the entire session and let me speak. Eventually he gave up and started to speak.  I just feel like MY WORDS HAVE NO IMPORTANCE.  I have nothing significant to say.  I was mocked in my chidhood regarding my voice. 

Regards   

[gleb]

@Uncover

You need to re-examine what you believe to be true about yourself and challenge them. Just reading through your post a single time, I could identify several limiting beliefs: 

1 hour ago, Uncover said:

I'm 22, I think it's too late to even try. It's no point. I would just ruin everything. I always looked for that ideal girl and settled for nothing less.

Is it really to late to even try? You probably have another 50+ years up your sleeve to get laid. 

There's no point? Who said that? You or the reality of the situation?

How could you ruin something you haven't even began? Do know you would ruin it for certain?

What exactly is ideal? Who is making up the rules for who you can and can't fuck or talk to? You or the reality of the situation?

1 hour ago, Uncover said:

I worshipped her more that I worshipped God

You might be able to see why you're setting yourself back in the realm of women if you reread this and dissect it.

 

1 hour ago, Uncover said:

Three years ago I fell in love with another girl, she friendzoned me. Two months ago I fell for another, she friedzoned me. I fell in love, or these might be just my hormons bursting out when meeting that ideal girl? Answer is simple, mother nature power.

Here you are setting yourself up as a victim to nature and to the girls themselves. Sure your hormones might be bursting, but they weren't directly responsible for you being a horn dog and chasing women. And never, EVER does the girl friend-zone you. You friend zone yourself. 

et cetera, et cetera

As for the communication part, I resonate with you. I have trouble communicating as well but I've identified that it is only me the prevents me from speaking. You are the manager of your internal environment. The external circumstances are what you make them out to be. Contemplate this. Dissect what you hold to be true about these areas of your life and see if they are in accordance with what's actually going on. Make sure to be aware of when you take your thoughts at face value! They are never completely true.

 

If you're using video games to run away from your problems, then it's probably wise to cut them out and face them. If you are using social media to compare your social life to others and base this as what life is supposed to be like then yes, cut it out. 

But don't expect these to be magic cures. Your problems are all created by you.

Edited January 22, 2018 by gleb